Have you had a chance to either talk through with a Trusted Other, or think through, how you might feel in the event you stop the payments? In the short term, and in the longer term? How might you feel looking back on this in 5, 10, more years? This isn't a leading question, it's neutral.
( vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:23, archived)

I don't think psychology is your forte, how will you feel in 20 years????

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:25, archived)

THEY WERE MEANT TO BE HERE :((((

( vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:30, archived)

See above

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:32, archived)

Solved the problem though, queef can stop payments now
and if they reconcile in 10 years and she asks where they went, he can just say "I've been putting them in the wrong place, oops lol"
(The Porcupine From Purgatory we of all lost both have them, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:47, archived)

pfffffff

( vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:27, archived)

It's the question that I'm reaching for first because your kid is ok for money, and if there's no contact, you'll not know I assume how they feel about it...so you're left with your own feelings. I wonder if the potential symbolic complete cutting of ties might have more ambivalent emotions around it than you think?
( vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:26, archived)

A few questions that I need to know? How you could ever hurt me so. Alright all saints calm down

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:58, archived)

Mongy you KNOW I would never hurt you <3 <3 <3
not on purpose, anyway. maybe by mistake. well I say by mistake
( vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:20, archived)

like I'd never leave for six, maybe seven years, without so much as a two-word message such as "all right?"
( vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:30, archived)

Yes there's a finality to it which is v upsetting

( Queef Smegwin U r a 🔔🔚, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 15:39, archived)

She's 18. Contact or not. You don't get weekly money at 18. You grow up.

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 16:25, archived)

Yeah I got fuck all after 16 iirc

( Queef Smegwin U r a 🔔🔚, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 17:11, archived)

I was working on building sites full time at 16. Kids today ffs

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 17:14, archived)

-Kids today ffs
DON’T YOU WANT ME BABY
( Cheers Cheers, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 17:52, archived)

No. And I've screenshot this to send to my solicitor. Why do you keep doing this? I'm at my wits end. The judge told you to stop. Serves you right if you go to prison!

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 18:52, archived)

Time for me to lawyer up
www.mountfordchambers.com/profile/sebastian-winnett/
( Cheers Cheers, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 19:27, archived)

Lol. You never escape your past

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 19:34, archived)

First up thank you
I've run this by my wife and my mother and both say cease paying.
( Queef Smegwin U r a 🔔🔚, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 15:37, archived)

I have not much contact with my daughter. It's just how she is. Seen my son 3 times this past week. He's off for Easter. Not even had a what's up message for months.

( mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 16:01, archived)

You're welcome 👍

( vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:27, archived)