Serious poll for my internet palsMy kid turns 18 in July and has blanked me for 4 years, even when my brother croaked. She'll have finished her A Levels by then so my maintenance obligation ends. She also gets Β£40k from my brother's estate so will be pretty well off for a teenager. I'd been working part time for 5 years at this point in my life. Would you keep sending pocket money if this was your situation?
Tl;dr might parp on a puffin
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Queef Smegwin U r a ππ, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:01,
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Nope, I'd stop all payments if she's chosen no contact (
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:14,
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Shame I sold all my records, could have really pissed people off on public transport www.thediscdjstore.com/products/korg-handytraxx-play?
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mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:18,
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I have a Vestax oneGreat for record fairs
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Queef Smegwin U r a ππ, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:19,
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Thanks manI'm in two minds about it but stopping the money is my inclination I think
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Queef Smegwin U r a ππ, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:20,
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give it to me. i talk to you more than she does.(
MiseryCunt sometimes the squirrel catches the dog, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:31,
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Put it in an account if you want, incase she sees sense and it helps you. But stop direct payments, she's 18 ffs (
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:54,
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i'm with mongy; fuck her.(
MiseryCunt sometimes the squirrel catches the dog, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 12:27,
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No don't do that- even if you're estranged it's still incest
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Invisible Wizard - 12th Level Errorer, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 16:01,
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Fuck no, being part of a family is a two-way street.(
Mr. Tea 'ulmmm'/'mmneurgh', Sat 4 Apr 2026, 13:36,
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I just don't want to actually be the cunt I've always been made out to be(
Queef Smegwin U r a ππ, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 13:39,
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I don't give my grown arsed children pocket money. If they are skint they can ask (
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 13:43,
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hello mongy
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:28,
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I honestly canNOT tell you how accurate your assessment of me is here pfffff x
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:28,
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OH NO THESE REPLIES ARE IN THE WRONG PLACE FMLLLLL(
vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:29,
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fair :) x(
vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:21,
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I don't knowwwwww πwait no
yes I do
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:20,
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are you talking about irl or on here now?(
MiseryCunt sometimes the squirrel catches the dog, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 18:00,
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Nope.I haven't spoken to my mum in over fifteen years, because she's a narcissistic psychopath, yet she keeps sending me e-mails, birthday cards and Christmas presents, and I wish she'd royally fuck off once and for all.
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.Yeti., Sat 4 Apr 2026, 13:55,
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This is sadI expect my kid says the same about me
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Queef Smegwin U r a ππ, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 16:31,
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Given your years of racism, antisemitism and bullying on here,maybe this is an opportunity to take stock and try to become a better person. It just might make your daughter want to see you again.
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.Yeti., Sat 4 Apr 2026, 20:27,
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emails are easy to block.Next time you move... no forwarding address.
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Dave Trouser ; the people's choice - 75% agree, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 18:58,
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Exactly what I've done.My dad's aware of the situation but he's fortunately on my side, having put up with exponentially more than his fair share of shit from his ex-wife as well.
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.Yeti., Sat 4 Apr 2026, 20:23,
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unless you have a mirrorshamone
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MiseryCunt sometimes the squirrel catches the dog, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 22:19,
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Wading in with unasked for thoughts which are geez I'm so sorry for all the ouch there must have been in the past and possibly still now around all of this.
Also, ALSO:
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:20,
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Have you had a chance to either talk through with a Trusted Other, or think through, how you might feel in the event you stop the payments? In the short term, and in the longer term? How might you feel looking back on this in 5, 10, more years? This isn't a leading question, it's neutral.
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:23,
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I don't think psychology is your forte, how will you feel in 20 years????(
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:25,
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THEY WERE MEANT TO BE HERE :(((((
vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:30,
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Solved the problem though, queef can stop payments nowand if they reconcile in 10 years and she asks where they went, he can just say "I've been putting them in the wrong place, oops lol"
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pfffffff(
vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:27,
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It's the question that I'm reaching for first because your kid is ok for money, and if there's no contact, you'll not know I assume how they feel about it...so you're left with your own feelings. I wonder if the potential symbolic complete cutting of ties might have more ambivalent emotions around it than you think?
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:26,
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A few questions that I need to know? How you could ever hurt me so. Alright all saints calm down(
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 14:58,
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Mongy you KNOW I would never hurt you <3 <3 <3not on purpose, anyway. maybe by mistake. well I say by mistake
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:20,
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like I'd never leave for six, maybe seven years, without so much as a two-word message such as "all right?"
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vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:30,
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Yes there's a finality to it which is v upsetting (
Queef Smegwin U r a ππ, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 15:39,
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She's 18. Contact or not. You don't get weekly money at 18. You grow up. (
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 16:25,
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I was working on building sites full time at 16. Kids today ffs (
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 17:14,
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No. And I've screenshot this to send to my solicitor. Why do you keep doing this? I'm at my wits end. The judge told you to stop. Serves you right if you go to prison!(
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 18:52,
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Time for me to lawyer upwww.mountfordchambers.com/profile/sebastian-winnett/
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Cheers Cheers, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 19:27,
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First up thank you I've run this by my wife and my mother and both say cease paying.
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Queef Smegwin U r a ππ, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 15:37,
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I have not much contact with my daughter. It's just how she is. Seen my son 3 times this past week. He's off for Easter. Not even had a what's up message for months. (
mongychops, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 16:01,
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You're welcome π(
vladimir The Days Pass Quickly Immersed in the Shadow of Et, Mon 6 Apr 2026, 13:27,
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No fuck em.They're young and stupid and will spaff that 40 grand away in short order. lol.
Why would you give money to someone that won't even speak to you? Are you dense? Pack it in, Queef's! Do I need to come and HAVE A WORD? EH?
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Dave Trouser ; the people's choice - 75% agree, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 18:57,
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You've lived up to your obligations I say cut contact until and/or unless she contacts you. There's no saying how badly your skeeze of an ex has poisoned her mind against you. Be open to reconciliation, but protect yourself, too. Once she's an adult, you literally have no obligation to her. The ball is in her court.
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Smash Monkey 2 Prozac is apparently good for menopause, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 20:15,
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Shoes π (
Smash Monkey 2 Prozac is apparently good for menopause, Sat 4 Apr 2026, 23:43,
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