One's own mortality..
Er, probably not the most upbeat of posts, to be honest. But one of the most real...

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Me and my mates have always drunkenly joked about our own mortality (or lack of it). The notion that we are immortal, no-one (or thang) can stop us, we are the un-dead.

How stupid were we! The teenage years provide one with so much bravado that the impossible seems a mere drip in the ocean of reality.

Commence the rolling down steep hills (Windsor Castle anyone?) in shopping trolleys, catapulting into nearby bushes to mask the fall, etc.

Were there injuries? Yes. Not mine tho. I wasn't silly enough to participate in the activities - i merely filmed it!

Youtube to follow.

Length? 2mins 35, if i remember rightly.

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Here's the morose note.......

My Dad's been diagnosed with advanced prostate cancer. That's a shit. He's also got secondary bone cancer. That's even WORSE! Has been having treatment for a year now but been getting progressively worse. Don't believe all the good you hear about the new prostate drug in the news, it can do nothing for advanced patients at the moment.

After medical advice we believe he may have a year with us at the most. I'm thankful i didn't take that time off travelling like i wanted to. USA & OZ is always there for me after all....

Sorry for the rant, it's just a real note at the end of a genial remark to QOTW. I know others have been through this too. It's just hard at 26 and being the youngest - a real Daddy's girl - no puns intended you dirties!

x
(Saire_B, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 1:03, 13 replies)

*sympathies*
Oh! Poor you. Have hugs. I don't know what I'd do if that was me, also a real daddies girl.

Spend as much time as you can with him.

My Oma died laast year and that's what everyone told me to do and that was the best advice I ever received.
(misskitty reeks of sex and turpentine; laudanum afternoons, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 1:13, closed)

@misskitty
Bless you. I know it's hard to say what's right (what IS right?!) at times like these.

I'm so thankful i have amazing friends (in the real world) and also in the fact that i can post on "teh internet places like this" where i can meet and sympathise with like-minded people.

Cheers and hugs, it means a lot guys.
xxxx
(Saire_B, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 1:36, closed)

I lost
daddy Rakky to cancer when I was 16. Miss Kitty is right, spend the time with him now. I did, I don't regret a second.

And I was a daddy's girl too, even my mum who I'm really close to now says that if my dad was still here I'd still be his little girl.

*hugs*
(Rakky (forgot her password) The muffin maverick, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 3:03, closed)

*hugs*
Spend every possible moment you can with him, you'll kick yourself if you don't.

Us b3tans are all sympathetic!

*monster hugs*
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 8:57, closed)

My mother has just been diagnosed with cancer.
9 months of chemo to look forward to.

Bah.

Maybe I'll go and see her this weekend.
( scoshi pretending to diet since, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 9:59, closed)

*hugs*
I'm so sorry to hear that. You're right though: make the most of what you can now, you can always go travelling in the future.
(The Empress it seems you CAN polish a turd!, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 10:35, closed)

*hugs*
Agree with everyone on spending as much time together as possible. :)
( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 12:33, closed)

* hugs *
It's probably best not to go travelling at this time. As you said, USA and Australia will still be there.
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 13:15, closed)

Thanks guys..
Appreciate the messages of support hugely!

Dad's just got back from some treatment (he has a bone strengthening IV every month as his bones are basically like the insides of a "Crunchie" bar - although I suspect, not as tasty!).

Had his PSA results through today (that measures how advanced the prostate cancer is), and although he was initially responding to treatment, the past 4 visits his PSA levels have been doubling.

He's not responding to anything now, so chemo is the final, last resort.

We're all a bit scared..
(Saire_B, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 13:49, closed)

*hugs*
my tip would be to write down as much as possible for as long as you have him. Sometimes grief can sort of blank the memories you have. We did this during my aunt's long battle with cancer and all those childhood memories are now preserved forever.

I was a daddies girl too. Lost mine very suddenly but will always be grateful that the last words I said to him were "Love you, Dad".

*more hugs*
(TheWeeWitch hasn't been here much recently .., Wed 30 Jul 2008, 13:50, closed)

*clickyhugs*
I'm so sorry :( I can't imagine how that feels. If you need to talk, gaz me by all means :)
( Maladicta, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 13:50, closed)

*hugs* to all
Thanks everyone.

Bit overwhelmed by your replies actually.

It restores my faith in humanity that people - strangers, really - can be so nice, thoughtful and caring to others.

Good old B3ta!

Saire x
(Saire_B, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 14:08, closed)

Do what they say
spend as much time as possible with him, I lost my foster-dad to cancer and I will forever be grateful I spent as much time as I could with him.

Massive hugs I know how hard it is, and I'm sorry that you and your family are going through it as well.

xx
(Fluent In Bentish Living in Scatman's World, tis being fun!, Wed 30 Jul 2008, 14:18, closed)