There's a technical difference between a kink and a fetish.
People use the two terms interchangeably, but there is a difference.

Now, a FETISH is a sexual excitement over an inanimate object. Like if someone were to, say, actually get wood at the sight of a 2009 Pewter Denim Harley-Davidson Street Bob with black Vance and Hines Sideshots, 14 inch apes, and the blacked-out engine casings.

Whereas a KINK would be sexual enjoyment over something uncommon. Like if someone where to, say, beg The Girlfriend to wear full riding gear to bed - e.g. leather jacket, riding chaps, goggles, and helmet - and asked her to scream out which "gear" she was in so that you knew how close she was to, er, redlining.

Hopefully you all have learned something from this post.
(jessemoya, Thu 22 Oct 2009, 19:07, 6 replies)

Well...
The examples they use include 'kinks' (the boots). Besides I thought the formal definition were kinks you liked, fetishes you couldn't do without.
( Cadmus has teh uplikn coeds at, Thu 22 Oct 2009, 19:11, closed)

the formal definition?
Not really. That would mean the difference is one of scale, whereas technically there is a qualitative difference.

But probably not for long, seeing as how colloquially there is little pragmatic difference.
(jessemoya, Thu 22 Oct 2009, 19:16, closed)

Your riding-gear example
is actually a fetish, in that riding gear (including that delightful crop that can be stuffed in any orifice) is merely a collection inanimate objects.

So all I have learned sir is that YOU have supported your argument with structurally unsound evidence. Yes. I am a cunt.
( Fitznicely into a thimble, Thu 22 Oct 2009, 20:16, closed)

Dead feet?
What about foot fetishes? Nothing inanimate about a foot. Unless it's on a piano, and you are an uncontrollably aroused Victorian.
(ubergeekian, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 21:13, closed)

So how did you come up with this definition then?
Because, so far, I've been unable to find anywhere else that defines a fetish in the same way.

For example, this is what Wikipedia says about fetishes: Sexual fetishism, or erotic fetishism, is the sexual arousal brought on by any object, situation or body part not conventionally viewed as being sexual in nature.

The Encyclopaedia Britannica: In psychology, a form of sexual deviance involving erotic attachment to an inanimate object or an ordinarily asexual part of the human body.

Dictionary.com: Any object or nongenital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation.

Merriam-Webster: An object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression.


So, basically, no-one but you seems to limit their definition of a fetish to only include inanimate objects.
Or, in other words, you're wrong.
(Pope Jamiroquai III, Mon 26 Oct 2009, 10:55, closed)

clicked..
due to knowledge on bikes, though I'd much prefer a Harley DAvidson VRSCA V-rod pref 2006.
mmmm...

and im assuminging, both kink and fetishes listed apply to yourself ;P
(MissFlee tried again on, Tue 27 Oct 2009, 23:18, closed)