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This is a question Will you go out with me?

"Bloody Kraut, a" asks, "How did you get your current flame to go out with you? If they turned you down, how bad was it?"

Was it all romantic? Or were the beer goggles particularly strong that night?

(, Thu 28 Aug 2008, 17:32)
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It all started...
When I was 16. I was in a club with a strict 'over 18 only' policy, but I knew one of the doorman.

One of my friends decides to introduce me to a Czech girl he'd just met. We'll call her K. He then takes me over to the most glorious figure of womanhood I'd ever seen before (or since)

K told me she was 19 years old. I obviously couldn't tell her that I was only 16, but wanting to sound at least slightly believable, told her I was 18.

I don't remember what we talked about, only that the time from us being introduced at 9pm until the club closed at 2am seemed to only be 5 minutes.

We agreed to share a cab home as my place was on the way back to hers. In the cab she wrote down her phone number on the back of a train ticket and told me to call her the next day.

I called her, we arranged to meet at a pub near to her house and we had an absolutely amazing time. For the next week we were seeing each other every spare moment.

I learnt that she was an au pair who'd only just arrived in the UK on a 1 year work permit. And then she told me her real age - she was 23.

I admitted that I'd also lied about my age and told her that I was 7 years younger than her, but it didn't seem to matter, we spent the whole of that year blissfully happy together.

And then her visa expired.

She tried to get it renewed, but the Home Office were having none of it. K was given 7 days to leave the country. We were both devestated.

I went out to the Czech Republic to visit her a month after she left. I was supposed to be there for 2 weeks, but after 2 years I was forced to come home by the Czech government. We promised that we would stay in touch, but for a variety of reasons that I won't go into here, that became impossible.

I haven't spoken to K since the summer of 1997, but I'm still totally in love with her. I haven't had a 'good' relationship since her, and I'm not sure I ever will.

The worst bit?

In a pub in Guildford last year, I bumped into our next door neighbour from the Czech Republic. He wouldn't say anything about her, but he did give me a phone number for her mother. I'm too scared to call
(, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:05, 12 replies)
(, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:30, closed)
Appleheads right
that's enough exclamation marks for now.
(, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:35, closed)
Either that...
or take the other option and make a concerted effort to get over her?
(, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:40, closed)
A lot can happen in ten years
She is what early thirties now? she is in her prime. What can be so bad that you are afraid to phone her? Good luck fellow B3tard, may your path become clear and you find the resolution you so dearly need. Blessed be
(, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 23:46, closed)
Worst that can happen? You'll find out you can never be together, helping you to get over her. Best? You get her!

Is she worth the attempt?
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 2:16, closed)
Call, you idiot!
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 2:56, closed)
Call! Call!
You'll spend the rest of your life wondering if not! And don't forget to tell us how it went. I'm rooting for you,,,,,
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 7:21, closed)
so you have a thing for older chicks
and want to bang the mother too

(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 9:24, closed)
I know how this story ends.

Ask her mother where she lives, and if she has not moved on, arrive unannounced, sweep her of her feet and ask her to marry you.

At least if you arrive unannounced and notice that there are two cars in her driveway, or a number of childrens toys you can slink away, magnaminous in the knowledge that she is happy and you can move on.
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 9:43, closed)
No visa required
Czech Republic has since joined the EU, so at least you wouldn't have any visa obstacles in the way now (providing they haven't blacklisted you after the last overstay)
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 13:29, closed)
(, Tue 2 Sep 2008, 15:06, closed)
ignorance is not bliss
just call!
(, Wed 3 Sep 2008, 14:47, closed)

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