why? what happened?

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:24, 1 reply, 15 years ago)

He's been a bit iffy with me for the last few days
I said as much, he took massive offence, I tried to calm him down, it didn't work, I tried to calm him down again and haven't heard back from him.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:26, Reply)

Ignore me, I'm being shit.
I'd leave it for him to get in touch. I'm not expert on this shit but if someone had bugged me I wouldn't want to be bugged further.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:29, Reply)

Men are from Mars and women are from Venus innit.

( girlinthehole, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:31, Reply)

Well exactly
I'm not going to pester because that would be superlame and creepy, but that's not going to stop me from checking my phone every two minutes.

Why am I so shit?
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:34, Reply)

You aren't shit.
You just need to know where you stand.
( girlinthehole, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:37, Reply)

Psssst, here's a hint.



It's on your own.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:38, Reply)

Fuck off, al.
I am desperately annoyed with myself and upset.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:42, Reply)

I am shit
I cannot believe I sabotaged this for myself.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:39, Reply)

if he's that tetchy
perhaps it would have happened eventually anyway.
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:40, Reply)

Maybe.
he did say he was tired, I really hope it's just because of that.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:43, Reply)

^this
Unless there is something you aren't telling us then it's him. Better to know now then later when you've invested more emotion into the relationship.
( girlinthehole, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:44, Reply)

CLAIRE RAYNER LIVES !!11!

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:50, Reply)

No, I think I summed it up fairly
he does seem to be being overly touchy and insecure. But at the same time...perhaps I should have kept my mouth shut.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:51, Reply)

going out with someone you have to keep watching
what your saying with would suck
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:54, Reply)

Yeah, I've just seen what he's put on facebook
I've fucked this up. I've fucking fucked up something I've wanted for fucking months. Fucking fucking FUCK.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:00, Reply)

What did he say?

(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:02, Reply)

arse
that's pretty insenstive of him to put it on facebook. I conclude from this that he is a dick.
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:02, Reply)

That was my conclusion too

(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:04, Reply)

this

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:05, Reply)

WTF
why put something on Facebook instead of telling you?
Is he 16?!
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:05, Reply)

Actually, he might be
did we ever ask his age?
(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:10, Reply)

well he's an instructer so I'm assuming he's not

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:20, Reply)

Maybe he's one of those child prodigies

(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:21, Reply)

are you insinuating berk is a kiddy fiddler?

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:24, Reply)

He's nearly 27
old enough to not be the grumpy arsehole he's being.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:24, Reply)

old enough to man up and talk to you instead of posting shit on FB
tell him to get a grip on life and that YOU are not talking to him until he does.
YEAH that'll totally rattle his chains!
**may or may not actually work
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:26, Reply)

for what?
no use not being yourself in the beginning
it'll only make him think you're being a bitch later when you've tired of LIVING A LIE
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:54, Reply)

Nope, we all get mardy some times, but I believe that if you're in a begining of a relationship like that...
... then you should keep it to yourself or not come out to play at all, you're only on like you're third date or whatever, he could have gone "Sorry hun, in a bit of a mood, workstuffs, mind if I bail? I'll be shit company way and I'll be alright tomo", but no, he inflicted his grumbles on you, almost intentionally made you feel insecure.

Maybe he'll make it alright tomo, turn up on your door with some flowers or whatever, or maybe he can just go do one and stop being a little boy. Give him 'till tomo to make things right, and then see how the land lays.

There is a good show on Good Food + 1 channel, about guy who makes awesome chocolate sculptures, put that on instead.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:03, Reply)

Is Man vs Food on?
I like that show.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:04, Reply)

Yup, it's on the non +1 channel now, so I'll watch it in an hour.
The gluttony on that show is amazing.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:07, Reply)

He really, really love his burgers.

(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 21:09, Reply)

STOP STRESSING.
It will only make things worse.
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:43, Reply)

perhaps it's time to shag gonz?
since he's offering
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:29, Reply)

I tell you what, if I was a girl, I'd be on that shit in a flash.

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:31, Reply)

I second Noel
leave it for tonight, let it all calm down, and see how it goes tomorrow.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:33, Reply)

^this
Men don't feel the need to talk it through.
( girlinthehole, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:35, Reply)

..one tip
don't take tips from me
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:34, Reply)

I'm going with Noel here.
Leave it alone, let him contact you.
One thing about us ladies is we don't know when to leave well enough alone, and generally it just makes things worse.

The more people tend to bug me and ask why I'm not responding I will ignore them for days.
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:34, Reply)

Holy fuck... is this what being right feels like?

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:35, Reply)

Don't worry
it won't last
(Bazongaloid, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:36, Reply)

doesn't mean you're right
just means some people agree with you. There is a difference
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:36, Reply)

Oh. Damn.

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:37, Reply)

The lest he can do is text back to say "Sorry hun, it's not you, it's me, I've had a shit day, I'll get back to you tomorow".
After all, you did do that thing to him that he wanted from the film he saw on the DVD from the magazine in the corner shop with the silver foil around it.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:42, Reply)

I would feel much better to receive a text like that
currently, however...nada.
(berk, Fri 1 Apr 2011, 20:49, Reply)