I've only had 4 boyfriends
3 are lovely (perhaps slightly mental in a good way) people who are still friends to varying degrees. The other I married. He was/is proper mental in a subtle habitual liar/conniving and selfish kind of a way.

So, not really enough to gereralise
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:00, 1 reply, 14 years ago)

Thing is...
I can't see my self getting involved with someone with out at least a history of mental interestingness, how could they ever understand me, it would feel oddly like paedophilia. I think just someone who had had none of the experiences I had had, who had had a vanilla life, what would we have in common?
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:08, Reply)

surely you are something beyond your mentalness?
find someone just a bit mental in a good way instead, maybe? Normals are dull
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:09, Reply)

Well, yes, I'm now thinking I need some one with the history, but who is past the majority of their problems, as I think I am.
This seems a bit rare though.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:11, Reply)

But that's just what you think
being a nutter doesn't make someone interesting or more valid. In fact it generally makes them more selfish and narrower minded
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:10, Reply)

Maybe I'm phrasing it badly.
I'd not look for a nutter, but I think I'd find it hard to relate to someone who had no experience, first or second hand of some of the stuff I've been through, or watched others go through. They weren't there man, they weren't there.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:13, Reply)

They'll have their own problems
and as long as you look for those issues in people, all of the attendant ones will always come with it
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:15, Reply)

Maybe.
Maybe it's just a matter of life experience. I feel I've packed a fair bit in, and while I can be childish as hell, sometimes I feel old before my years.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:18, Reply)

I think most people feel that though

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:20, Reply)

Meh, you're probably right.
still not attracted to vanillas.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:22, Reply)

What constitutes a vanilla
in this sense at least?
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:23, Reply)

It's hard to define.
It's a feeling I have, something about not seeing the darker side of things. Maybe I'me inventing distinctions where there are none and every body has suffered their own stuff, what do I know I'm in a philosophical mood and way out of practice. I feel bad for my friend.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:40, Reply)