hmmm
Given the choice what would you do?

Cut all your losses and start over somewhere far away

OR

Stay, thrash it out, loathe yourself, and drink yourself into oblivion??

I'm doing the first in 578 days time.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 7:47, 90 replies, latest was 17 years ago)

good morning Vampyrecat...
and how the devil are you this fine day?
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:21, Reply)

I am wrapped up toasty warm
watching it pour down outside. I've had driving lessons in hail for the last three days from mum.

*hate driving in the hail*
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:27, Reply)

By popular demand....
The Disappointed re-appears in his customary Sunday morning slot! Hurrah!

How the hell are we, kids?
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:32, Reply)

the hail is there to be overcome...
learning to drive is one of the best things i ever did.
full stop.

looks like it's just us 2 this morning? wonder how the disappointed is...

edit: wow, there he is!!!
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:34, Reply)

Yes, here I am
All perky with a fine glossy pelt, for 20 minutes or so until it's time for work.

VC - your opener is a bit woebegone, isn't it? There are other choices besides running away and getting as pissed as a little beetle you know....
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:38, Reply)

@TD
i are mainly well.
the sun is shining, bairn is brushing her own teeth, just had a lovely coffee and it's toad in t'hole tonight...

and you sir? how goes it...

off to take the mrs to work back shortly...
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:39, Reply)

ahaha I'm not pissed as a beetle
I can't wait to go. It's going to be better then staying here (trust me - it's a town full of catholics/mormons/protestants AND the aussie equivalent of chavs). If I stay - I'll thrash it out - I'll be damn good at whatever I end up doing, but I'll regret it.

So I'm moving onwards and out! :D

*huggles both of you for slightly too long*
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:41, Reply)

VC
That's good - things looked a bit terminal there.

There's nothing more soul-destroying than being trapped in a small town when you've got big ideas. I got out, and that's why I no longer live in Blaireauland.

Creativity begets creativity, so off you go to somewhere that your abilities aren't constrained by the lack of imagination of others.

Edit - that sounds a bit insulting to Blaireau! I grew up in an awful small town about 80 miles from him but as there's very little between the two towns except mountains, lakes, sheep and gobshite tourists we have a neighbourly kinship.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:46, Reply)

TD
Ta mate! I'm moving countries - I'll be able to just completely start over, people, love, life, education, work wise, everything. I didn't have much luck here from the very beginning.

Nothing terminal about it. Am off to live my life with someone who loves me. Definitely nothing terminal.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:48, Reply)

Seems like I've been away from Sundays for ages
Or is it that things just move very fast in your life?

Remember that boxes come in all shapes and sizes. If you've got a big ideal you need a big box to put it in, but you always need to keep your dreams and visions in a box, however big.

If you don't, they'll spill and you might never find them again.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:54, Reply)

sage words there mr TD
I've always wanted to move to the UK, but never thought I'd be actually able to do it. Now I'm working, part time during terms, full time over the summer, and it's actually happening.

Don't worry. My boxes are bigger then Bert's ego. I'll never lose them.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 8:59, Reply)

and back in the room...
fear not, td, insult not registered as this is not really where i'm from...
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:09, Reply)

Lets ensure that our paths cross
Work time for me.

I'll try to get up extra-early on Sundays in the future to resurrect the VC, B69 and TD show.

Keep the faith, kids.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:09, Reply)

have fun TD
So Bazzer - what's the weather like where you're at? It's just stopped raining here. :)
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:12, Reply)

roger that td
weather here is chuffing loverly, rained a wee bit during the night so all is fresh and fragrant. the cherry trees are all pink and magenta and white with blossom, gorgeous!

i fair miss our sunday morning threesomes ;-(
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:15, Reply)

aaaaaaand there goes my tea all over my laptop keyboard
*snorts with laughter*

I actually quite like winter here - it gets very bleak but at the same time watching the force of the wind and rain on the land is beautiful.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:16, Reply)

iou one keyboard LOL
i love the wild and windy november weather...
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:19, Reply)

aha that's right when I get to the UK
last week of November.

So. Bazzer - three things about yourself. GO.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:21, Reply)

3 things about me...
only 3? there's a challenge...

1) monobrow.
2) black boots.
3) happy.

and you?
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:31, Reply)

Can I ask please, politely as possible - you were a gay 17 year old fem until recently, but you are no longer a lesbian according to your profile: is this correct?
( enoughblueskyforsailorstrousers, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:32, Reply)

aha yes you can
lesbian as in never having sexually attracted to a boy and being only sexually attracted to girls? yes. Have met a man who am sexually attracted to. Hence the "not questioning just accepting". Spent too long trying to define myself and beating myself up over who I am/who I might be.

Baz - love purple. Smiley! hiding shyness behind facade of cockjokes and sexual innuendo!
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:35, Reply)

LOL.
morning hypno.

well i'm afraid i need to depart, quality time with babyblaireau beckons. i think this morning we shall mostly be playing "Lions" rrrooooaaaaaaaarrrr!

maybe catch you later, if not then i'll see if td's up for that threesome next week? note to self: buy more lube.
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:41, Reply)

and more condoms
remember - no glove - no love!

Have fun with the wee bairn!
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:42, Reply)

yeah, condoms. lots of them.
LOTS.

and big ones too!!

really big.

in a small way LOL.

later x
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 9:47, Reply)

Morning all
The sun is shining, Sunderland were utterly crushed by the mighty West Brom, it's pub lunch day, I'm not hungover, there's a Grand Prix to fall asleep in front of later.

What a fantastic day!
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 10:02, Reply)

lucky you Light
I have no idea who those teams are - I daresay I'll learn quick enough when I get there!
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 10:15, Reply)

Remember
Whenever anyone says "Sunderland", you have to say "Boo!"

It's British Law.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 10:17, Reply)

ahaha okay
will do. Don't want to be arrested for anything other then for indecency or drunk and disorderly

how're you light?
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 10:21, Reply)

Pretty damn good.
Watching some shows, reading some news.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 10:37, Reply)

I actually did this
A few of my mates went to Sheffield uni and we came up regularly for weekends away and ended up with lots of mates up there. We used to go away for a jolly boys outing once a year and while sat around a pool in Nerja I disclosed the fact that I fucking hated my job, the way things were going and things in general, my buddy Chris piped up "why not jack it and move up the North .. You've got loads of mates, you like it and there's jobs a plenty".

At the time I was working for a guy who could opnly be described as a irritating shit demon in human form, my brother was in and out of prison, I was socially isolated, I was drinking for England, I weighed 17 stone and I could happily see myself with a 12 bore in my mouth in 6 months time.

So I jacked the job 24 hours after getting off the flight, I took one in a factory and lost all the weight, I got job ads sent down from the North and secured a position ....... Within 4 months I had upped sticks and moved.

It still remains the best thing I've ever done. I now have a house, a soon to be wife and a fat ole kitteh, a job I adore and all my friends about me. Granted it's not the same as going half way around the world to do it but that distance is what's needed sometimes.

Apologies for length/outpouring, VC if you need crash space if you pass through Yorkshire then gaz me.
(SpunkyMcSpunkbubble Diddled your nubbin on, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 10:48, Reply)

thanks spunk
sounds like it was definitely for the best for you! I'm glad you did that.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:07, Reply)

Hello happy people!
*pounce hugs everyone*
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:35, Reply)

Mellie!
hello! *huggles until you're slightly aroused*

Yup I arouse the ladies too! How are you poppet?
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:38, Reply)

Yay!
You know you can arouse me easily! One day I'll get you drunk and seduce you back..

I'm good though, essay writing *sigh*
How are you, pretty girl?
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:41, Reply)

well I *should* be essay writing
but can't be fucked.
I'm well thank you!

And Halfy may get jealous if that happened. :P As might Kaol.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:42, Reply)

I doubt they'd get jealous
they might get turned on though... and start rubbing eachother inappropriately
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:46, Reply)

it is possible
but you never know. I don't want kaol getting all stabby on me.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:50, Reply)

If he stabs you
he won't get any more sex ever.


and by that I mean I'll cut his penis off.
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:54, Reply)

aww well thanks Mell
would we build a shrine to it - pickle it like rasputins knob - or flush it down the dunny?
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:54, Reply)

I think a shrine would be good
that way he could always see it and be reminded of his shame :P
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:57, Reply)

So this is what women talk about when they think they're alone
Pickling men's knobs. I knew it.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 11:59, Reply)

What else
did you think we'd talk about?
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:01, Reply)

Celebrity gossip and hair care tips?
That or the secret recipe for a biotoxin capable of wiping out a medium size city.

And with that, I'm off down the pub for lunch. Have fun, and don't start any genocides without me.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:09, Reply)

aww but light
genocides are fun!

Mell - regarding the shrine - incense or candles?
or both even???
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:11, Reply)

Both sound good!
and sexy people standing to the sides of it throwing flower petals
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:14, Reply)

oooo okay
what incense does he hate most - and what colour does he loathe the most?

OH! We could advertise it in the paper and make it a public shrine so everyone would know his shame! 10 quid per viewing!
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:17, Reply)

£10?
Wow. Pour moi, I'd be worried that ideas would be planted a la John-Wayne Bobbitt :O
(Eds Meds Mathskillz=1,Socialskillz=0, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:21, Reply)

Poor Kaol
I'm starting to feel kinda guilty now...

but on the other hand it would be really funny to see!
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:24, Reply)

'Lo Edmund
Not seen you around for a while.

Today is a glorious day and we are off out shortly for a walk in the hills plus the added benefit of meat products cooked with the aid of a grill and some charcoal. And swearing.

I daren't say the 'b' word as it will ineveitably piss down if I do.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:26, Reply)

well hey
if he's stabbing me! Alls fair in love and war I reckons.

come here mellie and I'll seduce you a little bit more until kaol arrives. *winks seductively*
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:26, Reply)

hey DG
Thanks! Enjoy the walk, and congratulations on the nuptials.
(Eds Meds Mathskillz=1,Socialskillz=0, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:30, Reply)

Hey Ed, DG! *hugs*
VC I don't know if Kaol will be about today but you can seduce me anyway ;) *gets lotions*
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:30, Reply)

howdy DG and Ed!
Not sure we've met before ed - nice to meet you. :)
Glad to hear you're well DG.

Mell - if only - however I'm very much monogamous. the guilt will eat me up if I do much more then wink suggestively.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:32, Reply)

I know how you feel
People who cheat should have a worse punishment than having their genitals made into a guilt-shrine.
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:36, Reply)

I think the guilt would be enough though
I don't think anybody should judge someone who cheats though unless they're the one who's been cheated on. We can't know what's going on in their minds. They might be drunk. Or lonely. Or trying to cope with something else.

But I don't cheat. Ever.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:39, Reply)

I still don't think there's ever a reason for it though
I don't care what people say, if they are with someone but really want to be with someone else then they leave the first person, not cheat on them *frowns*
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:42, Reply)

oh no I agree with you
I just try not to judge people for it. Everybody fucks up after all.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:47, Reply)

I know everyone does stupid things
but messing with love is the worst thing someone can do and I've seen too many people really hurt by it.
I just get all agressive on this subject from seeing how upset friends have been when this has happened to them.
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:50, Reply)

mm well I suppose
you're older so you've seen more of the world then I have. I've seen people get hurt but I don't like getting involved or taking sides. I'm too neutral for my own good sometimes.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 12:58, Reply)

Being neutral's a good thing
it's nice to be able to see both sides to things :)

Anyways, how are you coming along with your saving and stuff? All good?
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:03, Reply)

Do you not think it's possible
To love more than one person at the same time?
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:04, Reply)

@ Chains
yeah, I think that's entirely possible.
But if you're going to be with two people at once the least you could do is be honest, being deceitful and lying is wrong
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:07, Reply)

I believe it's possible
Savings is good! I can go to the UK tomorrow if I wanted! I have the money! But I'd have to come back in three months. So will continue saving and will get all my paperwork in order.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:07, Reply)

That's awesome!
You should feel proud for doing all that :D
Hope the paperwork is easy and your exams are all okay next year :)
( Mellicious is made of candy, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:09, Reply)

Good Afternoon Lovely People
I have fry-up, beer and F1.

Life is good! *noms leffe*

*edit* And to answer the original question, I have done both. The first option has worked a few times. For the last 11 years every 4 or 5 I've packed everything up and fucked off somewhere else.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:09, Reply)

beeeeks!
*hugs you until you're slightly aroused*

glad to hear it mate.
Question - what do you prefer - Black with white stripes or white with Black stripes? and on what?
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:15, Reply)

VC
Typically when 17 year olds are desperate to get out of their home towns and do something different, they go to university in another city, not go to the opposite side of the world.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:15, Reply)

Light
since when have I ever given anybody here the impression of being a typical 17 year old??
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:17, Reply)

*enjoys hugs*
Er, black with white stripes.

On a zebra.

I've had a lovely drunken weekend, apart from setting my hand on fire with a cocktail on Friday night. I popped the blister this morning. Youchie!
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:21, Reply)

silly beeks
good effort. Pics or it didn't happen!

Our glass dishwasher in the bar is broken at work. I think I hand washed about 200 glasses a night over friday and saturday. took aaaages.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:22, Reply)

I couldn't operate the camera
What with my hand burning and stuff.

I did make sure the cocktail was salvaged before snuffing out the flame though. It was £6 to be fair.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:25, Reply)

eh well fair enough then!
Sounds like fun. I had a Toblerone the other week. Oh god it was good.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:27, Reply)

It was fun
And since its going to be weeks until I can see the onject of my affections again I'm slowly obliterating myself with alcohol:)
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:31, Reply)

hmm I bet the object of your affections
misses you just as much. Drink and be merry!
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:42, Reply)

She does
But works most weekends which limits how often she can come down to see me in Leeds.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:46, Reply)

hmm
you'll be able to make it work though! :)
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:47, Reply)

Oh totally!
I have no doubts it will work.
I just need to get through the next few months only seeing her rarely:S
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:52, Reply)

you'll be fine
if I can cope - you can cope. Drink and be merry - do what it takes. :)
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 13:59, Reply)

Drinking and wanking then...
Often at the same time.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:10, Reply)

is often the way
*grins*
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:12, Reply)

Its a sad state of affairs
Cock in one hand and a pint of flat Strongbow in the other.

*cries*
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:24, Reply)

hmm I was thinking more
Smirnoff bottle in the left hand, right hand wandering. But I don't have a cock so I wouldn't know about that part.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:26, Reply)

The way you say it
It doesn't sound as sordid.

Flicking the bean while sipping a cocktail sounds rather jaunty!
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:30, Reply)

well the last time I was explicit
I turned bert on in a very strange way apparently. And I didn't even mean to! And I don't know if he's lurking or not so I decided to "watch my language".

I've become a very very sweary girl since I started reading b3ta.
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:36, Reply)

Haha, What did you say then?
*is all ears*

Well, eyes technically since I'd be reading it...

*doesn't mind explicit*
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:41, Reply)

ahaha I bet you don't
Thing is I didn't even think it was that explicit! have a quick read of this
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:44, Reply)

Hmmm
Not particularly explicit.

Wh knows how his mind works though?
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 14:53, Reply)

indeed
I didn't think it was that explicit either. Certainly I've posted far more explicit stuff elsewhere on here.

Hmm. Now I want to write an erotica. With explicit stuff. But I have school tomorrow.
*debates*
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 15:00, Reply)

Hmmm
I've written some, but it contains alter egos and things so not for public consumption!

But I did write these ages ago - second one is a bit epic

www.b3ta.com/questions/offtopic/post191648
www.b3ta.com/questions/offtopic/post192593
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Sun 26 Apr 2009, 15:05, Reply)

ahah so have I
also with alter egos and also not for public consumption *reads second one*
(Poppet some assembly required., Sun 26 Apr 2009, 15:08, Reply)