the story...
I have just been dumped. Boo-fucking-hoo I hear you say. Well maybe but I'm not looking for internet hugs here, I'm genuinely curious.

Here's the situation. I've just been to the Download festival, she was going off to France with her son at the same time, for the same length of time, oddly enough. This to me puts her out of reach for a few days but I'm fine with that. We'd been going out for a year and a half, I'm comfortable enough that I don't need continuous contact if we're apart. I see her off thursday morning and I head off myself.

Saturday night I get a pissed off text complaining that I hadn't so much as even said hello to her and that I obviously don't really care and so on. Subsequent texting fails to resolve anything and it's over. I should also point out that this sort of thing has come up before but we've resolved it.

So this is it. Am I an arsehole for not doing something, even if I was thinking about her? Or is she a bit insecure? Or a bit of both, or something I haven't thought of...

Sorry for dumping it on you fine people, but funnily enough her friends backed up her point of view and I'm not ready to speak to mine yet. I need unbiased views...

Feel free to tell me to MTFU if you don't care in the slightest ;)
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 19:39, 3 replies, latest was 17 years ago)

Well for what it's worth I don't think you did anything wrong and certainly not enough to get dumped.
Sounds like insecurity to me chum.
( girlinthehole, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 19:44, Reply)

She sounds a bit insecure
But I would probably have texted everyday, just to touch base.
That's just me though.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 19:49, Reply)

TOUCH BASE????
God, I'm ashamed of you Beekers. You sound like you work for my organisation.

Touch base indeed.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:00, Reply)

*shames*
Sorry, my mum says it all the time.

*blushes*
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:02, Reply)

don't think i'll be touching any base
for a while.
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:04, Reply)

sounds like there is something else going on, she's insecure, or perhaps she was just looking for a reason out
her friends will always stick up for her, they're supposed to, even if you aren't there to hear them telling her to stop being a drama queen
( Lisette von Falcon, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 19:51, Reply)

He spent three days having fun without contacting her,
I don't think that's relationship ending but she has an excuse to be pissed off.
(PsychoChomp, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 19:53, Reply)

he only mentioned the fact that she said he didn't try to contact her
I'd be pissed if he ignored my calls and texts but he didn't say anything about her calling and him not answering.
( Lisette von Falcon, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 19:58, Reply)

I don't think he'll be in this trouble if that was the case

(PsychoChomp, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:00, Reply)

no
i had no contact until this first pissed off text 3 days later. she said she was waiting for me to text her. of course, questions about why she didn't text me earlier weren't really answered...
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:03, Reply)

it was a test,
you failed.
(PsychoChomp, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:04, Reply)

indeed
balls. big hairy elephant ones.
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:05, Reply)

Well you can either ask her why she's testing you
Or tell her why you didn't do what she wanted.

no good options there, lol gutted.
(PsychoChomp, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:09, Reply)

becaaaaaauuuuuuuuuuse, you weren't even thinking of her when you were off doing stuff while she was off doing stuff
what a rubbish boyfriend you are!!
( Lisette von Falcon, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:05, Reply)

possibly
i do try not to be though.
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:12, Reply)

she's guilty of the same infractions as you, perhaps turn the tables and say the same to her
'I cannot believe you haven't even tried to call me, you obviously don't care, my heart is broken in two'

or perhaps

'i cant b-leev u dint evn tri 2 cal ur such rubsh grl, u brok ma hrt 4eva xx'
( Lisette von Falcon, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:16, Reply)

ha!
i wouldn't try the second one, she's a nearly graduated english student.

plus i never ever txtspk unless i'm really running out of room ;) that did make me laugh though, cheers.
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:27, Reply)

Are you sure your naked buttock didn't accidently hit the 'accept call' button while you were pumping the oxfam rep?

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:09, Reply)

erm
yes. nothing like that.

ooh, a nice surreal answer. hooray!
(beanojam isn't really Ricardo Flange, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:11, Reply)

Oh man, because if you were totally checkin' out some junk in a trunk, it would be worth it.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Tue 16 Jun 2009, 20:23, Reply)