This is actually my second formulated response as I thought you deserved a more considered reply than my first.
If you had a serious problem, would b3ta really be your first port of call? Of course not. You would ask your doctor or friends and family before you posted it onto a comedy website where you knew full well that people may treat it seriously or they may well take the piss.

I will freely hold my hands up and say that I encouraged the dissemination of HSH threads because they were filled with the same posts day after day and then went on to advocate different threads on different subject matter to keep things interesting here. If you went to a cake shop – OMG SHE SAID THE ‘C’WORD!1!!!1!!! – and you ordered the same thing every day, would you not get a little tired of it perhaps? I know that I would. Reading the same hugs, cup of tea’s and lasagne comments day after day gets mundane and dull very fast.

I don’t think I ever stated that I wasn’t a cunt, correct me if I’m wrong. It’s not something that I revel in, but yes I certainly agree with you that I have a nasty side. Guess what though, EVERYONE DOES. It’s up to them whether or not they reveal it though. Many of you have met me and would attest to the fact that I’m not a mean or nasty person in real life, but nor am I greatly different to how I am on here. If I don’t like someone, I let them know if they have upset or offended me or I put them on ignore. Let’s face it, if I was mean and nasty, I would have very very few friends on here or in real life, no social skills... in fact very few of the things that make me the person I am. Thing is though, I like me. I like being me. I didn’t like myself for a long time – but that’s a story for another day – but I’ve come to terms with the person that I am and face my own demons each day just as everyone else does.

"she's trying to blame others (again) for the fact that she hurts people" How exactly am I doing this? Unless you’ve seen the gazzes that I’ve sent then you have no idea of the suggestions (actually nice, non patronising ones – shock horror I know!) that I have sent to people. I don’t agree with people who go through life acting like a victim because of something that was beyond their power at the time. I truly feel that there comes a time when you need to accept responsibility for your current actions and either apologise or fuck off. So on that note, I hereby apologise to anyone I have offended by my actions on the internet, but I also ask you to reflect on your own behaviour if you are less than the perfect figure of a man or woman that warmfuzzyfeeling seems to hold as the current standard. I am a flawed person and I’m happy with that.

So in taking off the meat puppet as they’re clearly so very last week...
Warmfuzzyfeeling, thank you for your considered response. You make a helluva lot of assumptions about me having never met me and never spoken to me other than to talk AT me on facebook via someone else’s wall post. That’s also very brave of you instead of gazzing me or calling me out on the board. Well done. You state that you would call me a cunt and an attention whore in real life then go on to retract that because you don’t like confrontation in real life. Which is it to be? Granted we’ll most likely never meet, but why make such statements if you’re then going to backtrack further down the line? Hell you even speak to me ‘as a friend’. I don’t have friends that call me a cunt, so I reject your friendship thanks all the same. Taking the internet too seriously maybe? I’ve never said anything derogatory about you, but you’ve come in all guns blazing, calling me a cunt after the fact which makes me wonder how long you spend thinking about an appropriate response and then posting it. You don’t like me, not a problem as I don’t know you. Put me on ignore then.

Vampyrecat, we’ve spoken many times on here and via gaz. I have no expectations for you other than to behave like a b3tan – maybe try reading the FAQ up there if you’re in any doubt as to what the creators of the site have decided the general tone of the site is. None of my posts have been said out of hatred, especially to you. Merely confusion as to what you’re doing on here really. You seem like an intelligent person who is capable of formulating interesting posts and responses and yet they all end in fluff or teenage angst. Yes I have queried your lifestyle choices, but then to me a 17 year old who is planning on moving several thousand miles to be with a guy in his 30s, whom she’s never actually met to escape from her current life speaks volumes about you. I wish you no malice and I’m sure nobody else on here does, but honestly try to not take things so seriously or put anyone who annoys you on ignore as you’re so keen on advising me.

Everyone else, I’m not going to revert to offering tea and cake and fluff, but nor will I be spending as much time on here in the evenings if this place goes back to how it was. No great loss for me or for you I’m sure. I like and admire a lot of you and I will miss some of our daytime chats.

At the end of the day, b3ta is a comedy website and I would have no problem saying this to any of you in person, my opinion of you may change if we met as indeed your opinion of me might change. That’s the power of words, you can choose to let them hurt you, or you can ignore them and move on with your life. It’s really your choice. This isn’t a flounce in case you were wondering, merely me reiterating what I’ve been saying for a very long time now.

That’s 15 minutes of my life that I’m not getting back, but I think it deserved to be said. I make no apology for length...but then I’m a cunt, so you wouldn’t really expect an apology. Would you?
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Sun 12 Jul 2009, 18:26, 2 replies, latest was 17 years ago)

OK
If I've made assumptions I'm sorry - I've just been going off the information in front of me, both here and on facebook. I've seen you make personal attacks on people and then insist it's their own fault they're upset. Yes I agree, as I said - people's feelings are their own responsibility and I don't believe in victimhood. But when an attack is deliberate, you can't hold THEM responsible for YOUR behaviour. That's what I take issue with. That's not comedy.

Speaking of FB, when we had that discussion on FB I mentioned that I had actually called you out on the board too, but you must have missed that. You never answered it. Anyway, I called you out here today.

EDIT: And, um, I didn't call you an attention whore, and I didn't speak to you "as a friend". Anyway. I hate splitting hairs, it's so petty.

I never said you or anyone else should be perfect. I'm not a fascist. Just don't like seeing people getting hurt by someone who is deliberately trying to do it.

I stand by everything I said. I haven't backtracked on anything, only said that I'm not very confrontational, and I probably would not confront you in real life. And yes it took me a while to compose that post because I'm not very confrontational on the internet either... We're not all blessed with your confidence.

And as I said too - the internet does make hypocrites of all of us. I shouldn't have called you a cunt. Sorry.
( warmfuzzies Isn't here, Sun 12 Jul 2009, 18:55, Reply)

Having never met me or spoken to me before, yes you have made assumptions about me. Please don't think for a second that you know me or anything about me other than what I choose to put up on these boards.
I also stand by what I've said. I think it is someone's fault if they are upset by words on a screen, said by someone who doesn't know them. I'm not in the slightest bit upset about what you've said about me today, mildly irritated which is why I came on here to answer it, but it's not something that will keep me awake at night.

Again, if you knew me you would know that I'm not the most confident of people, I have my hangups just the same as anyone else.

Edit: I didn't reply to what you said on the board because it was around 12 hours after the fact which I referred to up there. I didn't see what good it would do to stir it all up again after we had already discussed it at length on facebook.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Sun 12 Jul 2009, 19:06, Reply)

Interesting
...Again, if you knew me you would know that I'm not the most confident of people, I have my hangups just the same as anyone else....

You may not believe this, but from this end of teh interwebs, it doesn't appear that way...
(CheatingRabbit, Sun 12 Jul 2009, 19:46, Reply)

Certainly interesting since my pet hate is arrogant people, they're the reason why I left my BBC job as I'd go home in tears most days.
Oh well, I guess you can't please everyone.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Sun 12 Jul 2009, 19:59, Reply)

.
I meant that to be complimentary...
(CheatingRabbit, Sun 12 Jul 2009, 20:14, Reply)

Puts down stick, picks up correct end of it.
Thanks
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Sun 12 Jul 2009, 20:23, Reply)

Jelly?
Or mud...
(pizzaforcat ate some cement and HARDENED the FUCK UP on, Mon 13 Jul 2009, 5:30, Reply)

Baked fucking beans
Every time!
(porkylips looks better as the sun goes down., Mon 13 Jul 2009, 11:36, Reply)