I can understand the deeply depressed bit
as I've had good friends go through similar

being drunk isn't an excuse for things in my book though.

mind you, I'm not in the best position to judge, because I'm thinking "man I wish at some point there would've been a load of people I didn't fancy wanting to shag me"
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:11, 3 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

Same here Vipros
Same here
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:12, Reply)

damn this exceptionally late blooming business
it's almost wasted now. If I weren't so goddamn vain that I didn't just enjoy it...
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:13, Reply)

I know!
I'll always be plagued by thoughts of the hot women in my life I could have had sex with if only I had been less shy, more forward, or a rapist.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:15, Reply)

I know exactly how you feel

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:18, Reply)

I bloomed too fucking early
I had a great figure at 14. Then my boyfriend called me fat.

At a size 8 :(
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:16, Reply)

I know the feeling
nothing worse in the world
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:18, Reply)

that sort of thing baffles me
clearly my mind isn't set up to think like a cunt, and wasn't when I was that age either.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:19, Reply)

This
I can't be a cunt, even in computer games.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:20, Reply)

Well, this was a year later
but yeah, I still was reasonably slim.

He was just a bit naive. And didn't entirely think about what he was saying.
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:21, Reply)

Then your boyfriend was a gargantuan cunt
8's certainly not fat. Hell, 14-16 isn't fat, it depends on your overall figure.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:20, Reply)

Oh, that's not the worst one
There's been the one who refused to tell me whether I was dumped or not that evening because he "didn't want to lose sleep over it", the one that dumped me for being "physically unattractive", I've been called fat in more imaginative ways...

Now do you see why I don't have a healthy relationship with men?
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:22, Reply)

Because you're not having relationships with men
You're trying to have relationships with boys.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:24, Reply)

^fucking this

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:27, Reply)

Is the being upset with someone telling you that you're "phsyically unattractive" anything to do with the fact that you'll now only date people you fancy, eg, find "phsyically attractive" ?

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:29, Reply)

No, it was the dating me, acting very keen, then suddenly switching off
and that being the reason he gave.
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:32, Reply)

Oh, he probably just wanted a sha, eaither a one night stand or regular.
As they said above, try stopping dating boys who'll pull on your emotional pig tails at any opertunity.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:34, Reply)

He was the one doing all the running, texting me a lot, and who asked me to make it "official"
I tried to be hesitant, knowing I'd probably end up hurt. Let my guard down, decided just to enjoy a boy taking interest in me for once, BAM.
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:37, Reply)

Yeah', he's a 'boy'.
or a cunt, eaither way.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 18:41, Reply)

When I get quite drunk, I'm not entirely aware of what I do
I know that sounds like an excuse, but it goes some way to explaining how I ended up in some of the situations.

It was more like "It's a shag. You don't really fancy me either".
The last guy I thought I liked. I was wrong.
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:15, Reply)

also out of interest
a question for male b3tans. At what point does someone become a slut? How many people?
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:23, Reply)

it very much depends on circumstances I would suggest
sluttiness is more about how you dress and act, and as such I don't think anyone here qualifies from what I know about them.

as I said, it wasn't the appropriate word.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:26, Reply)

fair enough
I just find it odd that men are so aware of who has been before them, but don't think that standard applies to themselves. Not directed at you Vipros, just in general.

I think you're right- sluttiness if used at all is more about clothes and attitude. But there are two conflicting signals. On the one hand, men want women to be free and easy about sex- unconflicted and unihibited, and on the other hand they only ever want them to be like that with them.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:29, Reply)

I get where you are coming from
but it's not something that I consider really. I don't know how many people my mrs has been with other than it being a few more than my meagre score, nor do I care as what we have is awesome.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:46, Reply)

which is really nice
I've never asked a partner how many people they've slept with. And if they asked me I'd be reluctant to tell them because I wouldn't think it was any of their business. Plus (like you claim) mine is a ridiculously low number due to relative unattractiveness/ tendency to long relationships)
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:53, Reply)

it has bothered me in the past a little (not in this relationship)
but I think that was more down to my own mild insecurity than anything else.

Fortunately that's not so much of an issue these days as I have my hands full restraining my massive smugness and ego.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:55, Reply)

yeah
and you need both hands for that :D
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:59, Reply)

too fucking right

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:59, Reply)

I don't mind talking about it, but then again I have slept with over a thousand woman
Unfortunately only around 7/8ths were models
( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 18:04, Reply)

7/8th scale models?

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 19:16, Reply)

It's nothing to do with numbers for me
A slut is someone who sleeps with people in order to hurt others. For example, a guy sleeps with another girl to get back at his girlfriend for saying she thought celebrity X was fit, or a girl who shags a guy in order to piss off another girl who fancies this guy.
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:27, Reply)

No one from here, in my mind, is a slut.... well, none of the women, anyway.
I reckon a slut is someone who sleeps with people behind other people's backs, like when they're in a relationship or something. If you're single, and the other person is single, and even the third person is single, then it's all fair game.

The biggest slut I can think of is Katie Price, I fucking hate the vile piece of work.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:33, Reply)

I agree with you Gonz
(and Lab for that matter) being a slut is about hurting others. (a) I don't think Lampito's slept with enough people to qualify for the term of slut even in the horrible way, and (b) I really doubt she has ever slept with someone to hurt them.

And yes Vipros I know it was just the wrong word used :) but it never hurts to have an interesting discussion
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:38, Reply)

interesting
not given it too much thought previously other than some nebulous thoughts that it's to do with dress and attitude. The hurting people part is not something I would've put under the slut label, but can see why you would, and hence why you would consider it a nastier term then I.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:49, Reply)

Slut isn't made from numbers.
It's made from attitude.
(porkylips looks better as the sun goes down., Tue 15 Jun 2010, 17:50, Reply)