Hey Monty
Do you have set arrangement in place for seeing your kid? Do you have certain days of the week, or is it just whenever it suits you and the ex?

I split up with my ex earlier this year, and I have my kids exactly half the time. The pattern is known months in advance, so there's no arguments. I get them every Wed and Thurs, plus every other weekend (Fri - Sun) so I get them 2 days one week, then 5 days the next. Thankfully my mother in law steps into the breach to look after them during school hols.

However I have just exercised flexibility this week cos the ex wants to borrow the kids for 1 night during 1 of 'my' weekends, cos it's a family party. It'll be interesting to see if she is equally flexible if I need a reciprocal arrangement at som efuture time. Probably not - until I make her look like a twat by pointing out my previous flexibility.

To be honest with you, I'd rather not have to see or deal with her ever again, but as long as we have kids, there'll always be a link between us.

I appreciate that my situation is nowhere near as bad as yours, but you have my utmost sympathies.
(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:33, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

When did we stop calling each other cunts at every chance?

(PsychoChomp, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:37, Reply)

You cunt.

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:39, Reply)

Sorry
you cunt.
(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:39, Reply)

Thank you
I get 10am-1pm alternating between the Saturday and the Sunday of every weekend. That's the legal minimum - I do see her more than that, but I am not allowed to take her out on my own, so my visits take place in my ex's house, and if we go out, she comes too.

It is, as they say 'fucking shit'.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:52, Reply)

How can they justify not allowing you to take her out on your own?
This was legally approved? It's ludicrous.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 15:55, Reply)

To change this will cost me another grand or two which I just don't have.
And also probably my undergoing independent assessment - which I'd welcome, that said. Ten minutes observing me with my child would be enough for anyone to see my ex is just being a vengeful cunt.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:02, Reply)

Haven't you got a nice relative who'd lend it to you?
You'd not regret it.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:05, Reply)

My mother helped me before to the tune of several grand,
and has just lent me 3k more for my roof. My father lost his inheritance in court so the Boyce millions are gone.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:07, Reply)

Arrange a benefit night

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:10, Reply)

I know a shit band that could play

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:21, Reply)

I'm not sure how a makeup application
party would help :(
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:25, Reply)

all sounds suspiciously 'Bowie' to me.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:28, Reply)

That is a fucking outrage my friend.
Why the hell is that happening?
(Reverend Fister "a disciplined fuckwit", Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:00, Reply)

Spite and vengeance on my ex's part.
Revenge for my dumping her for being a violent psychopath.

It is true I have certain, ahem, hobbies that are not strictly legal but I've never once been late or anything other than 100% sober and with it when seeing my little girl. Not once. What makes this even more ridiculous is that my ex was a LEGENDARY drug taker when we met, and she still dabbles now, too.

She'd fail a blood test as surely as I would - but I would never, ever do anything to jeopardise the wellbeing of my child and she fucking knows it - she just wants to upset me and my family to score points in her nasty litte mind.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:06, Reply)

you know this upsets me
almost as much as my weed going mouldy.

;-)
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:08, Reply)

That much, eh?
Haha
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:13, Reply)

indeed
that's how much empathy I have for you and your situation.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:15, Reply)

That means A LOT, man.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:19, Reply)

it should do.
in all seriousness, it'd be shitty if you were restricted to one weekend in two, but the unjustness of your situation, particularly when it is evident how much you dote on your daughter, is quite heart-rending.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:21, Reply)

Some men are offered every weekend
and only want one weekend in two - and only then when it suits them and not including Friday night because that's the night he gets to play daddy with his new gf's kids.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 17:00, Reply)

Steady on Vippers.
That is just the lack of THC causing you to lose perspective.
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:13, Reply)

Fucking shit indeed
It never fails to wind me up when people use kids to make a point by restricting access to them. Surely she knows that a kid would be better off with a Dad around, even if they are not together any more.

FUCKING BITCH!

What is your daughter going to think of her mam when she is old enough to realise what is going on?
( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:04, Reply)

^^This
You have to hold onto that - your daughter will soon realise that her mother is a bitch.

My hope is that all evil exes will rot alone.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:10, Reply)

Well said that chicken(lady)

( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:12, Reply)

At the moment it's me rotting alone.
I am so fucked up all this that no sane woman would go near me.

EDIT I'm also a complete wanker which doesn't help.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:15, Reply)

Have you considered bumderism?
(And this is not a chat up line.)
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:17, Reply)

Yes it is - give it up Tuggers.
Like I said in reply to your gaz, Monty just don't swing that way, yo.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:20, Reply)

*looks shocked*
You said you would keep your mouth shut (after having it so far open).
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:27, Reply)

I was drunk and I regretted it instantly.
It's just not going to happen again. When I think about that night I'm filled with disgust - disgust at myself, and disgust at you and your 'oh, my clothes got all wet and I haven't got any spare so I've had to put on this dress I found in the wardrobe, here, have an E' routine. I was vulnerable and you exploited me.

I hate you SO MUCH.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:32, Reply)

Monty.
I am having twins!
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:37, Reply)

*kills self*

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:38, Reply)

*steals stash and Motorhead ticket*

(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:40, Reply)

That's all I have to cling onto - the 'long game'....

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Aug 2010, 16:22, Reply)