THERE ARE NO BELLS! THERE WILL BE NO SMALL PEOPLE!
Except me, that is. Whee!

I've been with my man for four and a half years now. EVERYONE, including my dad, my grandmothers, even my boss at work, is absolutely convinced I just can not wait to be legally bound to someone and then pop out shrivelled squiggles while stretching my skin and ruining my future of adventures.

I don't see the point in marriage. Why do I need to sign a legal document to say I love someone? I say it to him, and he knows I mean it. He says it to me and I know he means it. We'll continue saying it, no pens or dresses needed.

And children. Now I really don't understand them. People actually act shocked when I don't coo or covet their wriggling forms. They're not cute. They're not desirable. I want to adventure and look after a little budgie who sings and nibbles my fingers!

I'm not abnormal. There have always been women who're like this. I love being the little woman, I like being smaller than my man and giggley, and him wearing the trousers (I get to wear the skirts and I do love my skirts) and being looked after. But that's about as womanly or girly as I get. I'm happy staying like this. No accessories are needed. I'm happy. I have everything I want, except a house with him, and see no reason for those things. They would make me sad and ruin every dream I ever had.

I can't explain that to them though, because I'm a woman and I'm supposed to want those things! ~sigh~

P.S- I'm more than happy for other people who want those things to get them though and I can not wait for the day I become an aunt! I'll be mad and give them pennies, then send them home to their mother. Heehee!
( vix0r was not Matthew on, Sun 27 Dec 2009, 21:59, 5 replies)

I'm with you...
I have caved in on the marriage thing as he really wants it but babies will not be happening...Everyone seems to think I should be desperate for them by now (being the very wrong side of 35 and all) and they are all so bloody surprised when you patiently explain that you aren't interested in cooing over babies.
(cmouse is pondering about life in other jobs, Sun 27 Dec 2009, 22:25, closed)

Quite fair enough.
We've gone for the whole married-with-kids route and are very happy with it, but I can't see why it should be forced on everyone. I get really annoyed by people who try to force their own narrow definition of a life plan on everyone around them.
( Colonel Boris "...a desperate Buzzfeed imitation...", Sun 27 Dec 2009, 22:55, closed)

same here
i've no intention of having children. i've nothing against children and i dont mind baby sitting but i just dont want any of my own. the thought of something that size coming out of down there doesn't appeal to me at all haha
(stitched, Sun 27 Dec 2009, 23:06, closed)

Just make sure you have some kind of legal paperwork involving medical decisions and the like
Provided such things are necessary where you live -- I've had friends who believed legal marriage was 'nothing more than a piece of paper', but then found themselves in situations where that paper (or a power-or-attorney piece of paper) would have spared them a lot of legal wrangling, money spent and emotional pain endured. A hundred quid is just paper, too, but I wouldn't turn it down!
(louveciennes , Volvospotter, Mon 28 Dec 2009, 19:51, closed)

I'm totally with you there
I am also a girl, and I don't get the whole marrying/kids thing.

I am totally for people being able to do what they want - ie. get married and have kids, if that's what they desire - but I believe that a lot of people just do it because they feel that's what they're meant to do in life, or they just let themselves get pressured into it by their friends, family, or boyfriend or girlfriend. More fool them, I suppose.
(BlackArmadillo Avoided writing that article on, Sat 2 Jan 2010, 2:47, closed)