I was working as a waitress in a cocktail bar...
About 3 years ago I started working as a waitress in a bar in Geneva. We had a few regulars, one of whom I got to know really well. He was a "wealthy businessman", but so down to earth that I didn't believe him at first, I thought he was a jobbing builder!

So during his frequent business trips to Geneva, we started hanging out after my bar shift on quite a regular basis. We were never anything more than friends, he was married and 15 years older than me, so the thought of any hanky panky genuinely never never crossed my mind - we just had a good laugh together.

Unfortuantely, I woke up one morning on the day he was flying back to the UK after one of his business trips and found myself counting the HOURS until he got back. "Oh noes!" thinks I, "I appear to have fallen for a married man 15 years my senior who lives in a different country!". I was very pissed off with myself for being such a wally and began wondering how on earth I was going to start "unfancying" him.

Anyway, the tale moves on, and he returns to Geneva a few days later on a late fight. We arrange to meet in a bar and I clock-watch like a loon, wating for him to arrive. He walks in the bar at about 11.30 and his first words are "I missed you, my little friend!". Hmph, I didn't want to be his "little friend"! After a few drinks in the bar, we headed back to his hotel for a few more drinks, a not unusual occurence, but as we drank more and more, we found ourselves closer and closer together until the inevitable happened and we kissed. We spent the night together, and the rest of his trip together too.

On the morning of his departure, we both woke up with a bad feeling and had "the talk" - I had no desire to be someone's bit on the side, and he was tearing himself apart for cheating on his wife. So with a heavy heart, we agreed it was over.

We continued to see each other on his trips over, but despite the obvious chemistry we both behaved impeccably. Until the day he told me he was planning on buying a house in the mountains outside Geneva, and would I like to come and see it with him?

It was the most beautiful house, with stunning views, in a charming alpine village. I was green with envy! We met up again the next day, when he broke the news:

"I've put an offer in on the house. And I'd like you to move in with me, I'm leaving my wife"

BANG! I wasn't expecting that! After getting over my shock and terror that he'd made such a big decision on such a brief affair, I threw myself into his arms and said "yes yes yes!"

We have been living in our beautiful house in our Alpine village with the stunning views for 3 years now, and I have never been happier. I must be the luckiest person on earth and wake up every morning thanking my lucky stars.

Sorry for length, but isn't it nice to have a happy ending?
(SnowmanSnails, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 8:23, 15 replies)

Wasn't a happy ending for his wife though
Was it? =P

Only joking, that's some nice work!
(TheManWithThePlan cussed your mum on, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 8:59, closed)

You are right
I'm certainly not proud of being a homewrecker (fortunately no kids involved), but seems it was going a bit tits up anyway, she's happily shacked up with her new fella with a nice pad in Harrogate and a BMW, so I've stopped losing sleep about it!
(SnowmanSnails, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 9:21, closed)

I've always
wanted a BMW.
(Himjim died a little more inside on, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 9:29, closed)

Awww
I feel a bit bad for the wife, but that's true fairytale ending for you and him!
(The Empress it seems you CAN polish a turd!, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 10:11, closed)

Hey Lady?
When is Daddy coming home again?
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 10:50, closed)

hahaha

( Firkinfedup last shat on your wife's tits at, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:02, closed)

Once a cheat...
...always a cheat
(Monkey the Chicken Twitter: death_stairs, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 11:18, closed)

^^
100% true
( snee held his breath since, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 12:20, closed)

I think
that depends entirely on the reason for cheating.

If he cheated because he fell in love with the new woman and then chose to be with the new woman in all honestly, like this guy did. Then I don't think the rule applies really.
(darras jeg har en grevling i hodet. Grevling, grevlang, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 13:33, closed)

But what about
the next new woman? Every business trip he ever makes, SnowmanSnails will (or should) be thinking ... "Who's he met this time? Who's watching the clock waiting for him?"

In fact it's worse, because his form isn't just a quick away-match shag then some guilt-ridden flowers from the garage. It's carrying on secret affairs, dumping wives and moving out. He's done it before. The statistics show that he's very likely (four times as much, iirc) to do it again.

If he gives you a BMW catalogue, SnowmanSnails, get a lawyer.
(ubergeekian, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 13:53, closed)

sometimes
the first marriage is a mistake.

Stastics can show that sure, but that still only gives you a generalisation. And sure, the majority of men who cheat will do it again because they're ratbags and assholes.

But some who do it because they made a genuine mistake with their first marriage, then realised what they had to do to change this by meeting somebody new, will then go on to spend the rest of their lives happily monogomous.(sp)

So... I don't know which this guy is here in this story.

I'm just saying that it's possible (not probable) that a man who cheats once will never do it again.
(darras jeg har en grevling i hodet. Grevling, grevlang, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:35, closed)

Some of you may think me naive
But what darras says is true - first marriage was a mistake and I was simply the catalyst for ending it. From first kiss to moving in together took 2 months, and we have not spent a night apart since July 2006 (which is actually a bit sad!)

I concur in a general sense with the "once a cheat always a cheat" philosophy, I would never do it and it would be over toot sweet if anyone did it to me, but to totally contradict myself, I cheated (only a kiss!) on an ex, and it was the act of cheating that made me realise things had gone tits up with that partnership, so we split up. I think there's a difference between serial cheaters and cheating being a catalyst for ending a relationship that is already dead.

Just my twopenn'orth!
(SnowmanSnails, Thu 11 Dec 2008, 12:30, closed)

You were working as a waitress in a cocktail bar...
...that much is true.

/coat
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Wed 10 Dec 2008, 13:57, closed)

I Thnik
You may have hit the nail on the head with that comment.
(never-right -getting it wrong since '78, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:32, closed)

Sorry to say this
but he probably has a mistress in a few different countries
( Firkinfedup last shat on your wife's tits at, Wed 10 Dec 2008, 14:03, closed)