OK, serious time
My mum died when I was 21. That's 16 years ago, folks. And it's still a bit of a headfuck. And it disappoints me in varying degrees.

1: She never saw any of her children get married. My sister was engaged when she was ill, but she never made it to her wedding.

2: She never saw me get married the first time around. I did a eulogy and got everyone in the room to stand up and toast her. My exact words, after thanking the bridesmaids, and my best man (Sean, where the fuck are you?), and everyone for coming, were, "And raise your glasses to the one person who should be here, but isn't".

Not a dry eye in the house.

3: Never saw her grandchildren. She would have loved that.

4: Wasn't around to pick up the pieces after my sister's, and then my, marriages, went to fuck. Having gone through it herself I'm certain she could have offered some sage advice (but not in the vein of 'if I were you...')

5: Being able to cunt my brother's ex in the fuck.

6: Seeing how happy I am right now.

7: Seeing how well we have all turned out.

8: Being able to poke her doctor in the eye and say 'it's OK, it's just an infection'.

9: Just not being here, really.





Mum, I miss you.



Lots.




And that's not the Ouzo talking either
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Fri 27 Jun 2008, 2:49, 19 replies)

I still have both of mine
but the Lunatic Artist lost both of hers twenty-odd years ago. I sometimes hear similar grieving from her.

*lifting pint glass of really good ale*
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Fri 27 Jun 2008, 3:03, closed)

*hugs*
I hear ya! I lost my mum 15 years ago when I was just 17. Everything you've written applies. Potty as she was, I wish she was still here.

*Raises a glass to lost mums everywhere*
(antigen is running away from something, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 3:35, closed)

Huge sympathy hug to you.
I can't imagine life without my Mother. I will most likely jump in the grave with her when she goes.
( flirting with badgers What? It sounded good at the time., Fri 27 Jun 2008, 3:41, closed)

I lost
my dad when i was 16. 17 years ago. All of the above. I mean, not specifically, but you get the idea. Just the not being here. and the fact that he was never there to see anything I would wanted him to see. Whenever I've achieved anything in my life, there's a dad shaped gap where I would have wanted him to be proud of me. nothing will ever fill it.

*hugs DG and looks forward to meeting him more now*



DRUNK EDIT: i had a shitty rotten day today. i came home and found a text from my mum, 4,000 miles away saying "call me anytime tonight, i switched the answer phone off so i can speak to you if you need me"

I'm not ashamed to admit that after reading that, then this, I cried like a baby.
(Rakky (forgot her password) The muffin maverick, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 3:57, closed)

Number 2, 3 & 6
Me too.
Bastard cancer
(conanow, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 7:49, closed)

HA HA HA HA HA HA HA
IN YOUR FACE!
(Youlotfeckingsuck, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 8:24, closed)

^There's always one pillock.
*Big hugs Davros*
( girlinthehole, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 8:28, closed)

With you on this Davros
Lost my mum in 2000 when my head was seriously messed up.

So many regrets, the biggest of which was not telling her I was sorry.

PS Looking forward to your grandson's appearance on TV tomorrow.
( Scaryduck LIKES EGG, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 8:31, closed)

*raises glass*
And *manhugs*.
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 9:29, closed)

aw, DG
*clicks*
*hugs*
(happylittletulip helpless and delicious, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 9:43, closed)

Hugs DG
.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 9:58, closed)

I lost my Mum only a few months ago
still hurts like fuck.

*hugs*
( thealternativefact, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 10:07, closed)

Aww, thanks you lot
Apart from the cunt half way up the page that is.

*hugs back and clinks the Loon's glass*

Oh, and Scary - I'm interested to see how he gets on, yeah. I hope he's not still trying to take over the universe, as that's sooooo 1988...
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Fri 27 Jun 2008, 10:21, closed)

Ha!
No cunt halfway up the page if you've ignored him!
( thealternativefact, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 10:24, closed)

^ re the **** half way up the page
No retaliation required.

With a user name like that, and such a response, that "person" has done their own damage.


*Hugs DG in the flesh*
( Tourette's ( . )( . ) has a monkey hair in her fried egg, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 10:25, closed)

I know the feeling
As the dead body question showed, I know the feeling. It's utter shite. Don't get me wrong, I have a stepmum who I know still adores me, but it's just not quite the same.

I was 8, my eldest brother was 18.

*man hug*
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Fri 27 Jun 2008, 12:36, closed)

* clickyhugs *
* hugs everyone who lost a parent *
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Sat 28 Jun 2008, 0:13, closed)

Christ.
That just really got to me. Lost my dad the day after my 21st birthday. That was 8 years ago yesterday. Feel very much the same.

No one ever understands how every single year when it comes round, no matter how long it's been, it gets you.

Every moment of happiness in your life is always cut against the fact they aren't around to share it.

Feel for you.

EB.
( Evil Bastardo, Mon 30 Jun 2008, 22:25, closed)

My mum's still kicking
Not much sympathy there, sorry.

But she did not so long ago mention to me, "Alien, I want to see you happy. But for Gods sake, I DO NOT want to be a grandmother."

No problems there, Mum.
( gareth_alien will be human again at, Tue 1 Jul 2008, 13:07, closed)