you could suggest to her that her needy-desperateness is leaking out all over the floor.
;-)
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:03, 3 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

...or give her my number?

( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)

ha, she lives in didsbury
she'd make mincemeat out of you though, you're only 22...
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:07, Reply)

While that may be true, I'd thoroughly enjoy it!

( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:22, Reply)

you'd never walk straight again

( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:29, Reply)

Worth it.

( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:32, Reply)

she's really not like that, if anything she is scarily independent and fierce
she does have a fair whinging point though. there is absolutely nothing wrong with not fancying someone, that happens to EVERYBODY all the time. however, there is everything wrong with not fancying someone, but thinking "fuck it, might as well try and get my dick wet for the evening" or acting as if you are interested when actually you have no intention of ever calling them again - but saying "i'll call you" because you think it's easier than saying goodbye. this kind of feeble shit is maddening!

unfortunately, i've been through this with her so many times that i am now sick of it...
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)

I like it better when they run away.
You know where you stand then.
( girlinthehole, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:08, Reply)

it is a fair point
people are cowards though, that's why.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:09, Reply)

it's a really horrible thing to do
i mean FFS, i have no intention of picking up the phone when you call if you were dull/shit in the sack, but it would be nice to be able to have the option to ignore you!!!!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:17, Reply)

I don't see any difference between saying you will call and not
and not taking their call to be honest.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:19, Reply)

That's because there isn't.
Everyone just likes to be the one in control of the rejection, and if you can dress that up as "all women/men (delete as applicable) are utter SHITS" then all the better for the anger management.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:23, Reply)

precisely
which leads us back to saying you will call and not. Easy way out of not being rejected yourself.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:25, Reply)

i was joking, vippers
therein lies the difference.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:25, Reply)

I bet there was a grain of truth in it
and we weren't necessarily talking about you in particular.

The unfortunate thing is that as much as it sucks, it happens. Not everyone will do it. There is an element of needing to man the fuck up. It is not the fault of every man that she may have low self-esteem brought on by this, it is unlikely that any of them set out to bring her down.

Getting that worked up about it, and doing what seems like settling for someone awful because all the others she's been out with have been shit is a bit desperate in my view.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:32, Reply)

It's a fair point though.

( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)