Tonight I am mainly going to be having an ethical quandary
tennis boy has accidentally left his email logged on on my laptop - when I signed in to msn it told me I had new email, so I clicked it, only for it to load up his email. So far, so innocent. This has happened before and normally I go 'oops' and log out.

However. There's an email from match.com in his inbox from today saying his profile is proving popular. Isn't match.com one of the dating sites you pay for? So he would have cancelled it after meeting me, right? ...right? Argh. Now what do I do?
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 20:52, 5 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

you can be on match.com for free
and they tend to send a lot of emails out

but I'm a suspicious bitch thanks to stupid ex-husband (who was found out because of emails) so I say confront him
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 20:56, Reply)

Log out and forget about it, be confident in yourself and the relationship.
Snooping NEVER ends well.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 20:56, Reply)

see above - it ended well for me
I got out of something I should never have been in
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 20:57, Reply)

Point taken, but if everything else is going well with him she's just introducing paranoid unfounded concerns.

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 20:58, Reply)

not if she just asks him
why he still gets emails from Match.

That or check the sent items/deleted items, no one ever remembers to empty those
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:00, Reply)

Can't.
Logged out. I have no right to be in there and no real reason to distrust him, other than my own insecurities.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:01, Reply)

She can't ask him.
You can't say "I just happened to see your emails" without it sounding like "I'm a complete mentalist bunny boiler. Don't make me cut myself"
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:01, Reply)

but if she says nothing
the paranoia will turn destructive, when it probably is nothing after all (seriously, I stopped using one site ages ago and they still send me emails)
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:02, Reply)

OR she could forget about it.

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:03, Reply)

is that possible?

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:04, Reply)

Well I dunno, out of the two of them berk seems the more emotionally mature
and, wait, can we talk about robots or paraplegics or something, this is getting far too serious. CYBORG ROBOT PARAPLEGICS!
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:07, Reply)

Robots! woo!
Yeah, I was getting a little too involved in that shit
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:08, Reply)

*speechless*
videosift.com/video/Robocat-Guy-Builds-Robotic-Body-for-His-Paraplegic-Kitty
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:10, Reply)

he looks like he's getting dizzy

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:12, Reply)

Cute
but that cat looks suicidal.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:12, Reply)

One step further away from logging off and forgetting about it.
He's a man. Men do these things. Maybe he just hasn't cancelled it, or hasn't clicked the unsubscribe link. Just because he's got an email doesn't instantly mean he's off fucking someone else or even thinking about fucking someone else. Hang on, no, he's a man, he's probably thinking about fucking someone else. But we all do that, it doesn't mean he's actually going to.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:03, Reply)

Also, if he had anything to hide, do you think he'd be stupid enough to leave his email logged in?

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 20:57, Reply)

Not stupid, just incredibly forgetful.
Which he is.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:02, Reply)

considering how he's proven to be, mentioning it will likely end the relationship

( Lisette von Falcon, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 20:58, Reply)

Already have, I spotted it there
knew I'd want to open it and logged out immediately instead. There could be emails from a hundred girls in there and it wouldn't give me the right to look at them.

I just feel rather paranoid now.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:00, Reply)

Fuck his brains out, that'll teach him.

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:04, Reply)

If I were confident of my ability to do so
then I probably would.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:08, Reply)

Practise makes perfect.
I didn't become the slut I am now overnight you know.
( girlinthehole, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:16, Reply)

Go through the deleted box, you should hit gold there

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:00, Reply)

This is what I would probably do. Would rather know. Fuck trust.

(ThunderCuntThePendejo officially less shit than NakedApe, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:03, Reply)

It's a fertile ground for solid gold to throw back into someones face, see text messages as well
It's worth it alone just to see the change in face pallor
( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:05, Reply)

I know there must be something wrong with me
I'm arguing the same point as Rory
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:06, Reply)

Bitchs know I be right

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:11, Reply)

If there's nothing there you pretend it didn't happen and continue to routinely check.

(ThunderCuntThePendejo officially less shit than NakedApe, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:06, Reply)

...and try and set up a keylogger
oh god, I'm a monster
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:07, Reply)

Once bitten, twice shy and all that
but that's not something I could ever do, even though I've been messed about before.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:10, Reply)

I wouldn't do it to a new guy
but the slightest bit of suspicion and I'd freak the hell out. Basically I am not fit to be in another relationship
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:13, Reply)

a girl I know has just split with her partner and downloaded all of the ex's texts to throw back in her face
bitches be crazy
( Lisette von Falcon, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:07, Reply)

It's totally worth it, the high ground soon crumbles
GUTTED
( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:09, Reply)

Innocent until proven guilty
and I would certainly not be innocent if I went trawling through his emails only to find nothing incriminating.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:06, Reply)

KNOWLEDGE IS POWER

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:07, Reply)

then stop talking about it
leave the internet
because reading this shit will just plant a seed that you don't need
( Lisette von Falcon, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:08, Reply)

The lady I'm now married to once looked through my e-mails
when we hadn't been going out long.

It was a bit of a sore point for a while.
(Bazongaloid, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:09, Reply)

Oh man, I can see why you prefer DJ.
He would never let you catch him doing that.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:13, Reply)

I have a sore point because of you........................IN MY PANTS!!!

( girlinthehole, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:14, Reply)

Heheheh

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:15, Reply)

You have pointy parts?

(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:16, Reply)

Just one little nubbin.

( girlinthehole, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:17, Reply)

Snigger.

(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:20, Reply)

I think the main thing is, berk
You know him. We don't. Do you think you are just being paranoid? If there is something going on there, you would have already had suspicions. Honestly, go with your gut instinct.

In the very early days of being with mr b3th, I found something unsavoury on his computer, and I completely freaked out. It turned out it was a worm that nearly fried his PC. My point is, give him the benefit of the doubt. I think he deserves that much.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:09, Reply)

It just plays on pre-existing insecurities really
the shy fat ugly chick I've always been still can't believe that this guy is interested in me, or that I'm interesting enough or good enough in bed to keep him interested...so why wouldn't he look elsewhere?
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:16, Reply)

Cos he's got YOU.
Have you seen the popular page?
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:16, Reply)

No...?
what's on the popular page?
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:22, Reply)

A wonderful gonz post that may ring a bell or two.

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:28, Reply)

Ahahahaha
oh, bless him.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:34, Reply)

I can relate to this.
Just fight it.
( girlinthehole, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:18, Reply)

Well, obviously, I don't know you
but from your facebook profile I can tell you that you are neither fat nor ugly. Shy is something to work on by yourself. Personally, I can recommend having someone want to sleep with you.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:19, Reply)

I'm not now, so much
but I used to be extremely - ahem - plain. And chubby.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:22, Reply)

Yeah, me too.
Losing a bit opf weight and having boys look at me the way they never did when I was a teenager was the best ego boost.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:24, Reply)

Heh, tell me about it
but it also makes me a bit sad, knowing that I'm the same person but they never would have looked twice before. Men are deeply shallow, if there is such a thing.
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:26, Reply)

Everybody is shallow when it comes to physical attraction.
If I hadn't fallen in love with mr b3th online before I met him in person,I wouldn't have looked twice at him.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:28, Reply)

That says to me berk that he was looking for a relationship when he found you.
I've not used Facebook in years, but the cunts still mail me on a regular basis.

Chill.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:15, Reply)

Hmm.
how's the job?
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:23, Reply)

Hectic.
I wish I'd done a maths degree.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:45, Reply)

Eugh, I bet you don't really
lots of cashmonies though? Is it permanent?
(berk, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:47, Reply)

It does offer (on the face of it) resonable financial rewards
But I've got no idea (at the moment) how long my area of the project is going to be live for, I might be there for a few weeks, I might be there for a few months.

The danger of contracting, on paper, it looks like you're being paid a fortune, but the moment you work out that every day you don't work you don't get paid it becomes a slightly different story.

Add to the fact they want me in the office everyday - which is annoying, as I tend to be more of a night-owl and would rather spread my working day over 14/15 hours, than cram everything into 9 or 10 hours. But never mind, it's going well (I think).
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 13 Jul 2011, 21:59, Reply)