Have you tried deleting your mother and fucking yourself?
Do you really think spending (what will no doubt amount to being) several thousand pounds when there isn't much more than little chance of change?

Also going back to court and having her say 'he hasn't paid maintenance for months' wouldn't look good for you in front of the judge.

EDIT: not worth it IMHO.
( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Tue 8 May 2012, 14:57, 2 replies, latest was 13 years ago)

Nice twist

( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 14:58, Reply)

The thing about the maintenance is
that it's paid in cash and not declared to the benefits agency. If I have to bring all this up she'll be exposed as a fraudster. I might be able to get what I am looking for with just a solicitor's letter.

Also, potentially I might never get anything other than three hours a week unless I try to tackle this now.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:01, Reply)

Could swipe not get you a letter done up on headed paper?

( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:02, Reply)

That's asking a bit much though eh?

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:03, Reply)

Not really, no
It doesn't even have to be backed up or anything, just look official and be full of legalese
( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:05, Reply)

not if he wants it to be effective
i couldn't use my firm's without charging £400 plus VAT an hour. and i've never done any family law, so the advice would be Wrong.

but i know a man-who-can.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:13, Reply)

Ask a solicitor
would certainly help. Go swipe!
( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:13, Reply)

^Fucking hell it's the internet^

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:05, Reply)

?

( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:09, Reply)

i definitely think getting a property lawyer you know online to fake a legal document to you is a really good idea

(Quintno EXPERIMENT RUINED CANCELLED, LEFT 4EVER, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:13, Reply)

You're asking her to get sacked and throw away her career
Sending a letter on the firms paper is pretty much tantamount to malfeasance or the equivalent, as it puts their professional indemnities at risk. She works as a com prop/lit solicitor for a city firm of solicitors who wouldn't do family law if their heads were on fire, there is no legitimate reason for sending 'mates letters' at all. That'll be gross misconduct and a nice escorted trip from the office for a final time please.
( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:13, Reply)

rory is 100% accurate, here, online

( rachelswipe with a fork, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:13, Reply)

Fair do

( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:15, Reply)

i'll do it, 50p per word

(Quintno EXPERIMENT RUINED CANCELLED, LEFT 4EVER, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:28, Reply)

Ah. It makes more sense for you to attempt it now you have explained in more detail. Might as well start with the solicitors letter

( Fucking hell Jeff I am not a robot, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:09, Reply)

I don't think maintenance payments are taken into account regarding benefits.

( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:17, Reply)

Aye, have a look here:
www.direct.gov.uk/en/Parents/ChildMaintenance/Arrangingchildmaintenance/DG_199174
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:20, Reply)

I had a quick look as well
it said it doesn't affect income-based benefits; I'm not sure if that encompasses all benefits ie, disability allowance, council tax benefit etc which I would assume she is on?
(berk, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:31, Reply)

Aye, I think you're right.
It would affect council tax benefit and housing benefit and the like.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:37, Reply)

That’s only been the case for the past couple of years: the first two years of my kid’s life they should’ve been declared.

( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Tue 8 May 2012, 15:33, Reply)