I've just got a new job
after 13 months not working.

Good !

I've also realised I have no desire to contact my Dad about this. To my mind, this indicates that I have finally - finally after too many fuck-ups on his side - come to the conclusion that he's a waste of space as a parent / grandparent to my children.

So, as ever, every silver lining has a cloud...
( I_Was_Mordred, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 16:40, 11 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

Some Dads are pure fail
it's best to accept it and move on. Good for you, as you were.
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 16:40, Reply)

Congratulations!
Apparently I'm safe from redundancy at mine, which is good. However my housemate isn't, which is making him a little grumpy.
( jim_bob can herd cats., Wed 2 Sep 2009, 16:41, Reply)

Get in! Well done.
I met my biological grandfather once. Even at 11 years of age I could tell he was a cock. I tried to warn my mother, and I told him on the phone that I was alright with the non-biological (like soap-powder)grandpa who I grew up with thanks very much. He did not disappoint in his ability to be a huge disappointment. Goodbye.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 16:44, Reply)

Congratulations!
Sometimes you just have to cut loose as the parent/grandparent isn't going to change for the better no matter how much you want them to.


This I have learnt with a grandparent and I'm a lot happier because of it.
( girlinthehole, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 16:53, Reply)

Thanks BGB !
and yes, you're right. Easier to accept that things are as they are. Upsetting as it wasn't always this way - it's just got worse over the past 3 years, with no real reason behind that. Saddening to realise that once he'd have been the first person I told...

...but onwards and upwards.
( I_Was_Mordred, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 17:06, Reply)

How much worse has it got?
If his manner's got worse and different from how it was before for no real reason, then there's a serious possibility it could be the very early stages of Alzheimers. I know that sounds a bit dramatic, and of course I have no idea how else he is or whether he's just becoming a crotchety old sock, but I have several friends whose parents suddenly started behaving completely off with them, descending into downright nastiness sometimes and playing siblings off each other for no apparent reason. T'was the 'heimers starting to kick in.
( Hampster Squared has stuff at www.tilla.co.uk, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 17:24, Reply)

My grandma has always been a cunt.
No alzhiemers where she's concerned.
( girlinthehole, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 17:25, Reply)

There is no cure for Alzheimers
And no cure for cunts
( Hampster Squared has stuff at www.tilla.co.uk, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 17:31, Reply)

Ahem.
Hammers work for both.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 17:44, Reply)

He's only 62
too young for brain troubles...no, he's always been "odd". It's just got worse with age, as these things can do. And I've got less patient, being a parent myself and hopefully doing it the right way. Or at least not as wrong as his way...
( I_Was_Mordred, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 20:09, Reply)

Bollocks
My mum started becoming paranoid at 60. Early Onset Alzheimers. Dead by 63.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Wed 2 Sep 2009, 23:32, Reply)