"a comedy site such a b3ta"

QOTW has grown into something more than just a 'comedy site'. Everyone sharing their secrets has helped bring us closer together, and it encourages us to bring out the best in ourselves. I find it heartwarming to see other people making an effort to offer good advice.
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:06, 3 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

If I want good advice I'll go and see an expert in the relevant field.
What I wouldn't do is go on b3ta. And I'm not only talking about personal issues...
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:09, Reply)

While I have been known to render this place a personal counselling centre.
I have only done so as a sounding board for certain issues. Boredom, an inability to share with close family members and being at an age where I don't really give a shit what people think have let me vent on here.


People can pick and choose what they read and answer to and no-where are there rules to what can be posted, (apart from porn of course), and even that has been close to the nub.

Get over it and move on.
( girlinthehole, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:15, Reply)

Oh my good lord.
'Get over it and move on'? Forgive me for expressing an opinion that goes against the grain of using b3ta as a personal fucking counselling service.

Of course I pick and choose what I read. And of course I sympathise that people have problems. But what I do think is that soliciting advice (often psychological) from untrained people is counter productive, and different to asking for advice about what to do about failed relationships or what to have for tea.

It's good that there's a community on b3ta, and I've made some great friends on here, but I draw the line at airing my dirty laundry online, on the internet. Once again, this is my personal opinion. Although I expect I should get over that as well.
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:24, Reply)

People come on here all the time complaining about one thing or another.
Oh what a shit day I've had.

What did you have for dinner.

This fucker cut me up the other day and I'm livid.

None of it is comedic and so if some folk go a bit deeper that you'd like. At the end of the day what does it matter?

It's all about venting and getting stuff of your chest and not finding answers from a bunch of strangers.
( girlinthehole, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:28, Reply)

If it's complaing about the same thing every single day then it gets a bit tiresome is all
Not singling you out here BGB as you're certainly not the only one to do it. I know i've done it in the past to an extent. But when people do it, it makes me skip posts and ignore others because there is only so much whining I can read before I get bored.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:33, Reply)

interesting thoughts there GBH.
we each have an "expert" inside us when it comes to personal issues, even the emotionally or socially retarded. it's one of the principals that group psychotherapy is based upon. "if in doubt then talk to your peers". or summink like that.
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:24, Reply)

Excellent cod-psychotherapy knowledge here.

( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:26, Reply)

I mean, you may as well have written
"I haven't a fucking clue what I'm talking about, but I'll have a say anyway."
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:27, Reply)

i used simple terms as i deemed them appropriate.
there is no right and wrong, merely things you get and things you don't.
peer based psychotherapy is widely recognised as highly effective.
or perhaps you don't get that?
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:34, Reply)

*cough*
SUPERVISED peer-based psychotherapy. Or do you advocate packing a room full of lunatics and letting them get on with it?
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:37, Reply)

But isn't that what b3ta bashes are all about?
NOW I remember the reason why I cancelled my birthday bash!
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:38, Reply)

Hey!
Bashes are supervised. I won't go unless I'm accompanied by someone with a fucking certificate.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:42, Reply)

I've got a certificate in Archery if that helps?

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:48, Reply)

No, it doesn't.
Unless you're now qualified to shoot people right in the emo.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:50, Reply)

Hmm...let me check it first and I'll let you know
I was asked today however, if I was 'one of those self harmers'. Apparently the fact that the person's cat was mauling my arm at the time escaped their notice.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:52, Reply)

Hahah!
Try looking a little less surly.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:54, Reply)

The little sod was going for my jugular
having said that, I take it you've seen me on the journey to work. It aint pretty.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:00, Reply)

Best b3ta post today right here.

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:42, Reply)

Really? Because I think that's fucking cool.
I'ld love to do some sort of shooting.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:04, Reply)

Listen, Becks, I'm really happy for you, and Imma gonna let you finish, but Beyonce had the greatest video fo all time.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:52, Reply)

O no u didn't
O fucksocks he did. Sadfaces
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:54, Reply)

KEEP THE MEME ALIVE !

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:04, Reply)

of course it needs to be supervised.
and "lunatics" is a bit 19th century for me.
if you have ever observed or participated any peer based psychotherapy then you will be aware of how little input is required from the "supervisor". the vast majority of the "words of wisdom" come from the mouths of the "lunatics".
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:43, Reply)

I think you're starting to believe your sig, sir.

( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:47, Reply)

the sig comes from an incident in pizza express on the occasion of my 40th birthday.
i was actually asked if i were a human-rights lawyer by a woman who mistook the political statement of my guantanamo bay t-shirt for reality. that is what the sig is about, nothing more or less.
and i don't think for one minute that you were being serious there. unless...
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:53, Reply)

I'm terribly sorry, in future would you prefer me to use the term mentals? I wouldn't want to sound old-fashioned.
I have thankfully managed to avoid any kind of psychotherapy thus far, but regardless of their "input" one would assume that a qualified supervisor provides a certain amount of "teacher in the room" constraints on behaviour. And, certainly if you're feeling fragile, threads here largely lack that - I take it you didn't see the famous suicide thread? Becuase I guarantee you, the same sort of behaviour would have gone on were it the person in question who'd started the thread rather than a concerned friend. And that wouldn't have ended well.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:50, Reply)

Group Theorpy works, it helps you bounce off ideas, and on an anominus forum it works even better.
But this place, esspeicalay most of hte people here, arn't anominius.

And there is a great danger of replacing real life friends with online ones, and that leads to a self distrcutive path.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:08, Reply)

I don't think anyone would give up real friends for the nutters on here.
Well maybe a couple.
( girlinthehole, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:11, Reply)

It's an easy mistake to make.
In a world where you want to shut everything out, all the emotions and reactions, you'll become more absorbed in it, and the more you are, the less your offline mates see if you.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:15, Reply)

Group therapy works.
Expecting to be able to unburden yourself online, especially somewhere like b3ta, without getting horrifically negative reactions (from trolls, people that just don't like you or indeed folks who're just in bad mood) that can be really quite damaging - that strikes me as an error.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:12, Reply)

Depends on how attached you are.
A negative comment from a stranger would mean nothing to me, one from someone form here would mean something, and from real life mates it'll be really negative.

This place removes a lot of the whole human contact experiance (facial expresions, moods, phsyical..etc), so it's too easy.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:19, Reply)

yeah, naivety is a dangerous thing.
there is no perfect system to deal with the multi-faceted thing that is flawed human psychology.
and flawed is what we all are.
every single one of us.
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:19, Reply)

it certainly can be unhealthy to replace reality with virtual.
i wonder just how many of the tens of thousands of b3tans actually know each other?
i'm not sure that an anonymous forum is any more or less effective. the trust that grows in a psych group is a different kind of trust than that which can develope online, surely?
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:16, Reply)

the "teacher in the room" assumption is simply that. an assumption and an erroneous one to boot.
in participating in group psychotherapy the individuals involved need to open up fully to reap the full benefit. some can do this, some cannot. for some people other forms of therapy are more appropriate. those who engage fully very quickly cease to perceive the supervisor as the "teacher in the room", i have observed. the group becomes a place where the troubles can be taken, where the deepest aspects can be discussed and wisdom shared.
this is not cod psychology. this is knowledge, experience and understanding.
i did see the thread in question.
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:11, Reply)

But surely if you've been through it....
... you'll know it's not just sharing, it's sharing AND human contact at the same time, and this place doesn't provide full human contact.

It's easy to say everything on here, it's a lot harder to do it in a room full of people. Eventually, you'll become a social recluse if you do that sort of thing here.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:13, Reply)

Oh my lord, you're *so* intellectual, your comments are so above me.
I mean, I like the way you have used references and provided evidence from your years of experience in the field.

Also, what Wookie said.
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:39, Reply)

But just who are your peers on b3ta though?
there's the cosy fluffy people who post on HSH, the less cosy fluffy people who post everywhere else, there's the lurkers...and then there's the rest of the world with an internet connection who have access to every single post that is made on here.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:29, Reply)

BUT PIXELS ON A SCREEN ARE MY FRIENDS.

( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:30, Reply)

Claps like a mong

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:30, Reply)

Especially the pixels you invited to your stag do.

( girlinthehole, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:47, Reply)

OH MAN, SHE NAILED ME THERE
The stag do to which some friends I met on the internet came. You'll notice I didn't invite them to my wedding.

EDIT: I see that sarcasm is passing you by tonight.
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:48, Reply)

Oi, what am I chopped liver?

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:49, Reply)

I've never seen you with no pants on.

( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:50, Reply)

This is very true
OMG, I remember your wedding pants. *chortles*
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:55, Reply)

Oh God, did I?

( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:58, Reply)

I got pics somewhere :)

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:04, Reply)

I fucking love me a bit of Chopped Liver.
Yay, and I managed to get a new 'I fucking move love me' auto complete.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:56, Reply)

Damn right you didn't.
Shitbag.
(wellgroomedwookiee is a filthy-minded hobgoblin, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:53, Reply)

I disagree with this one, it's like saying Mine Kamp is just words on a paper.
I honestly didn't mean to stir up this hornet's nest this baddly, I just wanted to go back to talking about 'normal' things.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:55, Reply)

I'd actually missed all the supposed furore because I've not been here that much
Yes I should be asleep or revising right now, but it's something that needed to be said. Due to the cyclical nature of this forum it will probably be said more than once due to differing opinions.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:57, Reply)

You missed some awesome cat puns before, then.
Highlights include

[in refferance to beyonce] "Wow, that studio looks small, you couldn'st swing a cat in there"

"What do you get if you put a coin in a cat? money in the kitty".
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:59, Reply)

It's ok, I deal with enough dead and half dead cats every day as it is. Cheers though ,)

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:01, Reply)

Kabab shop next door still in buisness though?

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:19, Reply)

An opinion? Online?
BURN THE HERETIC! ;)
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:58, Reply)

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:00, Reply)

And on that note, I'm off to bed to dream of lasagne and fluffeh kittehs and noms
*shudders*
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:05, Reply)

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( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:08, Reply)

For you maybe, for myself and others, less so
Edit: Yes, this ^
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:11, Reply)

Know what?
I think this may have been the least useful advice I've ever received. I received this on the day of my fathers funeral exactly one year ago today.

**IMAGE REMOVED BY REQUEST**
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:20, Reply)

jesus that is such bollocks
the height of sentimental bad taste. one of the reasons I'd mostly rather post on talk these days, and can only look at the boards here when pissed.
(raymond "three griddle pans" luxury yacht lovin' the christmas action, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:38, Reply)

You're right it is.

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:40, Reply)

Someone from /talk threatened to cave my face in after I did a "Oh shit, dad's dead" thread.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:56, Reply)

That was nice of them, I hope you thanked them.
I found out who my real mates were on here after my dad died.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 8 Oct 2009, 23:58, Reply)

Ditto, offline and online.
I didn't like the White Knight ones though.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:02, Reply)

Yup, I hear ya

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Fri 9 Oct 2009, 0:04, Reply)