Not long at all - next week, argh!
I'm impatient, bored, hot, excited and terrified.

We were culling our guest list the other night. It seemed like a big enough venue until we listed everyone we should invite. Then we just listed people we liked and there were still too many.

A bit off of your best friend though. I wouldn't miss my best friend's wedding. Then again, I did miss my best friend's child's christening as I was abroad, but I didn't see that as a big deal (given that I'd already travelled from another country to see the baby, handmade her a patchwork quilt, and I'm an atheist so couldn't see the point of christenings, and one where the baby's father was already married with 2 kids and hadn't told his wife so he wasn't there either seemed a little hypocritical to me). She sulked with me for weeks.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 13:41, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

yes
the list making was fun, I listed all our friends, then culled that list. then family, culled that list. then my parents insisted on inviting their friends, even though they aren't paying for the fucking thing. managed to cull that list too.
still wish we could have eloped!
I would happily miss a christening, and we're planning a naming ceremony for sproglet at some point, which I fully expect only mrvitC, myself, and possibly a few aged rellies to turn up to. not a problem. weddings though, I make the effort!

good luck next week! go to the cinema and when you get home shag a lot, because it'll be a long while before you can do either again. (sob sob!)
( ascorbate, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 13:46, Reply)

Shag?
But she's pregnant! You can't have sex when you're pregnant, the baby gets in the way!
(Bazongaloid, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 13:50, Reply)

I've heard that a lot of women say that
to men they don't want to have sex with.
( ascorbate, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 13:51, Reply)

I would imagine choice of position to be a bit limited

(Bazongaloid, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 13:53, Reply)

not a limited as chances once sprog arrives and screams constantly the minute you put him down somewhere

( ascorbate, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 13:55, Reply)

I'm so glad my mrs agrees that we aren't having kids

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 13:56, Reply)

She'll change her mind

(Bazongaloid, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:02, Reply)

I agree with this, hormones will get her, they always do!

( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:06, Reply)

I might as well
I fucking doubt it though

if anything seeing her sister and husband, and my brother and wife having kids has put her off more.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:06, Reply)

I used to hate kids then my cousin had two
and they're bad, whiney, screaming little twats.
But they are sweet and kind and loving.
And amazing.

edit: sorry, I guess my point is that you know your kids will be different
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:21, Reply)

I'm familiar with all the arguments
but the fact is I'm a horrible impatient bastard.

people often tell me I'd be a good dad. to me this just means they don't know me well at all.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:30, Reply)

But when you actually have kids
you'll be surprised. When I was an au pair I actually found it really good fun.
(Bazongaloid, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:31, Reply)

I wouldn't want to have kids on the basis that I might be surprised at how well I deal with it
on a more practical note, even if we were to have them, we couldn't afford them any time soon. My mortgage is fucking enormous and I don't have enough cash for my liking anyway.

I'd rather not have them than bring them into a household where we can't afford to do anything because of them. That's a shitty recipe for resentment.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:50, Reply)

I don't want kids for the same reasons my dad didn't.
Whoops.
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:34, Reply)

It involves sex with a northern woman?

(Bazongaloid, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:35, Reply)

My mum's not Northern, neither is my dad.

( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:38, Reply)

But they had sex in the north?

(Bazongaloid, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:40, Reply)

Yeah, but only with me
Think my sister was born in Frimley
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:41, Reply)

your parents had sex with you in the North?
those filthy fucking swine!
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:47, Reply)

Yeah
Incest is Wincest.
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 14:50, Reply)

I will pass that on to some of my Somerset friends
they will be pleased to have something they can say. if they can get their cleft palates around the syllables.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 1 Jul 2010, 15:02, Reply)