Darth's the one you want to see about that sort of thing.
_{I hear he's a BUMDER.}
(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:09, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

It occurs that if every time someone wanted to insult me on Facebook, they used the word "bumder" instead of "gay"
All of this fuss might have been avoided
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:21, Reply)

or if your friends were a little more light-hearted.
christ, if my mates and I got that bent out of shape about insults we'd never get anything done.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:26, Reply)

I take it you read it then
I lost my rag cos that one chap had the nerve to say he rarely calls me gay, and I can't remember the last time we had a conversation when he didn't. Don't need people like that IRL, got plenty on here to keep me occupied
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:29, Reply)

I saw the beginning of it yesterday and skimmed the rest just now
that bit was rather unnecessary of him, even without knowing him you can pretty much tell that he was fibbing when he said he doesn't call you gay!

it's an unfortunate situation that you've got a group of friends who really don't like gay being used to describe something, and a different group that do just that. I have limited sympathy for both though. Life's too fucking short to get worked up about trivial crap like that.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:33, Reply)

Mostly I let it go, as you say it's not worth the stress
but I wanted to take Simon to task for that, because as I say he never apologises and I've had enough of it now
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:34, Reply)

that's fair enough, if he's telling an outright lie on there and sticking to it hard then he's a tool

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:35, Reply)

I think Daisy's comment
along the lines of "I don't know you, but I have a memory, and it tells me you've called Darth a gay every time you've commented on his FB" was my favourite.

Am planning a cull of friends soon anyway. Debating whether it's too heavy-handed to make my status "Am planning a cull - if you're not a prick, you'll be OK"

then removing him, changing my status to "If you can read this, I've decided you're not a prick" - given that I'm also friends with his GF

Yes I've overthought this. I were steamin' yesterday
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:39, Reply)

not worth the bother
either tell them they are pricks straight out, or just cull them. no point in anything else.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:42, Reply)

I'll freely admit that I'm shit at confrontation
Reading back what I wrote above it does seem childish. It also bugs me that I'm thinking about this and I know he'll have forgotten it already. Gah. Someone talk to me about something else
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:49, Reply)

I find that very passive aggressive.
Some of my friends do that, or used to- seems a very 16 year oldish thing to do.
( Lampito rise with the moon, go to bed with the sun, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:43, Reply)

I'm glad I didn't write that I thought it was passive agressive now as well
it was close
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:46, Reply)

Yeah, going on the point that blousie began above,
I'd only use "gay" as an insult if I was sure of the company I was in (and then obviously not as a serious insult) - trouble is not everyone will realise that you're not being serious, not everyone will realise you're simply being "un-pc" because you're being silly, rather than being a massive homophobe. Trouble is, unlike b3ta, facebook attracts everyone, particularly the sort of retards who think "god bles babby p u iz wiv da angles now" is a serious tribute rather than something completely and utterly risible, and who have not been out of their caves long enough to work out the subtleties of your slightly more "risqué" sense of humour.
(LongJohnBaldry, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:30, Reply)

As I said to Kitty yesterday
the whole "ha ha you're such a bumder" thing is mildly amusing on B3ta as hardly any of you know anything about me really, that's sort of the point. My IRL friends know it winds me up and yet they persist. That's annoying
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:33, Reply)

Where I used to work, I used to get loads of homophobic comments aimed at me, even though I'm 99% straight (I think, I donno that bit).
To get to the sushi place or marks'n'sparks, I have to walk past them, and on mondays some fat fucking life failer works there. This monday, I walked past, and he kept on going on about how he has a boyfriend to me, and my mind went blank, all I did was smile and say "Thank's, not interested".

I should have asked him how old his daughter is these days, who I think is about 15... if he said under 16, I'd say "Oh well, not long to go now" or if she's older I could say "Hook a playa up yo'".
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:38, Reply)

I was mildly amused by your post
until I got to the last bit, which made me spray my keyboard with coffee.

Points, sir
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:40, Reply)

Thanks =)

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:42, Reply)

I feel really bad that I've got in the habit of saying 'gay' instead of lame
like "the internet at work is being gay", because an actually gay friend mentioned a while ago that it wound him up when people did that, but I'm already in the habit so I say it without thinking. I need a shock collar or something.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:45, Reply)

I know gay people who don't give a crap about it though
if you thought like that you'd have to stop saying bastard, and I couldn't do that.

or stop saying twat for fear of offending twats.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:48, Reply)

The difference is
that people choose to be bastards and twats, you don't choose whether or not you're gay. Look at Perez Hilton. It's not his fault he's gay, but he's only got himself to blame for being a dickhead
(Darth Foxtrot A one-man army dedicated to making fetch happen, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:52, Reply)

not by the proper definition of bastard
and most twats just are like that
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:54, Reply)

I don't use 'gay', because it's a rubbish insult
When you've got others like bender/bumder, shirter, fanny bandit, sausage swallower, Darth, etc which are far funnier
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:36, Reply)

If for fuck's sake, just shove your cock up their arse and be done with it, you can always brillow the sweetcorn off afterwards if it get stuck under your helmet.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:30, Reply)

beautiful contrast between your post and that of The Supreme Crow there
I salute you both
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 9:33, Reply)

=)

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 15 Jul 2010, 10:01, Reply)