is it wrong to get with your friends ex?
It seems to be that in my circle of friends it doesn't really matter.
But I think I like someone. And they've just gotten out of a relationship with a friend.

alt: beer
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:04, 5 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

If you're friend's properly over them
then fine. Most people won't be even when they say that they are, though.
( Kroney, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:08, Reply)

yeah, I don't know, they're both friends of mine
and I'm thinking it's best to just not go there.
Maybe wait it out. I DON'T KNOW. *slams face into a wall*
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:12, Reply)

No.
Never mess with another girl's boyfriend, but exes are fair game. *has slept with two of her friends exes and got with another two*
It's hard to avoid in my group of friends, we all seem to get passed around.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:09, Reply)

haha this dumb bitch at the bar last weekend was yelling GO GREEN at my group of friends, because they like to recycle partners lolol
but really, I don't know what to dooooooooo.
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:11, Reply)

How recent is 'just'?

(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:16, Reply)

this week
it's been dwindling down recently
I'm not trying to say anything to them yet, cause it's fresh.
Just thinking mostly.
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:17, Reply)

Shortest I waited was a week,
Although that was a special case since a) Me and my best friend's ex getting together was completely unexpected, b) She has the exact same view on exes as me and so didn't mind and c)At the same time, she was screwing his best friend in the next tent along.

Other than this, I would usually wait a bit longer. Couple of weeks maybe? Oh, actually. Who did the dumping?
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:21, Reply)

It's good you both feel that way.
Not sure, but the one let her ex stay over and had the other staying at a friends because she was confused. This went on for a couple of weeks. Then they broke it off. Not sure who did the actual dumping.

edit for clarification: I'm interested in the one that was told to stay at a friends.
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:25, Reply)

Hmm, it's not quite a sinple cut and dry,
But I say give it a couple of weeks and then go for it.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:33, Reply)

coolio
thanks!
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:41, Reply)

I take no responsibilty for anything that happens as a result of taking my advice.

(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Ask first
That's crucial. If they say no, then back the fuck off. Not worth the trouble.
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:13, Reply)

"hey is it cool if I get with xxxxxx??"
yeesh, I dunno bout all that.
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:16, Reply)

If it's just a shag, you'll be fine
But if you're actually interested, going out for a drink with just them, and saying about how you've been getting close to so-and-so, and is it alright with her if you give it a go?
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:22, Reply)

awesome, I thank you

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:41, Reply)

I tried this once and still have the scar to show for it
A friend of mine had broken up with his ex about six weeks before and one night she showed some interest in me, I put the brakes on anything temporarily and went and had a drink with him to see if he'd have a problem with it. Saying he didn't I went ahead and orgainsed a date for that weekend. On the Friday night after a few drinks the guy changed his mind and decided that the appropriate course of action would be to smack me round the back of the head with a lump of 2x4. Not his finest hour but he did end up takeing me to A&E afterwards and she turned out to be madder than a box of frogs so it all worked out OK in the end.
(bill, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 15:30, Reply)

You are young so just think with your loins.
It's the roolz.
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:19, Reply)

I'm 28. I think I'm supposed to be thinking with my ovaries.

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:22, Reply)

Are you really 28?
Oh forget that then you old hag.
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:25, Reply)

Nah, 27, but I figure I will be 28 in less than 6 months so I might as well just say I'm 28.

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:27, Reply)

they're thinking
mmm fried or scrambled?
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:25, Reply)

over hard!

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:26, Reply)

One of my best friends
ended up living my ex (who I was with for over 7 years): it didn't really bother me - I simply wished them the best of luck. They lasted a year.

Hope this helps.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:33, Reply)

thanks, sir!

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 23 Sep 2010, 13:41, Reply)