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Lanternchikk asks "How about a vibrant and stimulating discussion on sex toys?" What do you use to get off, and has it ever gone wrong? And yes, we've heard that urban myth, thank you.

(, Thu 17 May 2012, 11:33)
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Does this count as a sex toy?
I will soon be spending close to £400 on a customised sex toy, and it won't make me orgasm. It will do the opposite, as is the purpose of an MCD.

In doing so it will drive me insane with desire.

I've played with male chastity devices for a few years. From knowing nothing of them, it has become an addiction on a par to the masturbation it prevents. The difference is the feeling is more intense and longer lasting than any orgasm. The device attached to my cock is a constant reminder that my cock is there and I cannot touch it, you are aroused but cannot get a full erection. On average men think about sex 19 times a day. Whilst in chastity it's just once and it doesn't end. Concentrating on anything else is almost impossible.

Your other half, who holds the key, has the control. Can decide when you get a release, can take advantage and encourage behaviour they would like of you. When you are away from them, they are all you can think about.

And then there is the release. After 12 days of this, the orgasm is incredible.

Apologies for length, but it's not getting any longer any time soon.
(, Sun 20 May 2012, 22:00, closed)
I wish my wedding had been that cheap. Still, going on 12 years, now, so the release should be incredible, when it happens.
(, Sun 20 May 2012, 22:12, closed)
Considering many marriages end with the release in someone
else, it's probably more expensive.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 3:17, closed)
good lord.
who holds the key? tell me about your lifestyle choice *twiddles freud moustache*
(, Sun 20 May 2012, 23:51, closed)
I wouldn't go as far as to call it a lifestyle. Not at present, anyway.
My wife holds the key, it was her idea, she suggested it and it blew my mind. Just the thought of it was a huge turn on.
I've been predominantly dominant in my relationships prior to the one with my wife, but always felt more submissive. She will not entertain the sub role in any way, which is mostly fine for me, not that I have the choice.
She refers to it as 'her cock' and when not caged she will ask what I think I'm doing touching her cock, or I'll have my hands slapped.
I used to masturbate a fair amount. It had an effect on our sex life. Now when not locked, I hardly do. It's a selfish act.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 20:57, closed)
"It's a selfish act."
Of course it is - yet you seem to portray it in a bad light.

Hate to sound like the uncomfortable sex-ed teacher here but there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanking & anyone who says otherwise is more fucked up than any hairy-palmer you're ever likely to meet.

Excessive (make your own mind up on quotas) masturbation or excluding sex with your partner in favour of wanking ain't so good however - but to suggest that wanking is bad cause it's selfish is a bit like saying you shouldn't eat chocolate because it tastes good.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 21:44, closed)
I think you know what I was saying.
Were I single I would wank more. In our relationship I was not sharing the build up of sexual desire, and that was selfish as it often deprived us both of enjoying it.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 22:02, closed)
Scary shit

I hope it doesn't involve your back passage. I've heard that can be painful.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 2:17, closed)
This didn't enamour me of the idea.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 22:08, closed)

(, Mon 21 May 2012, 23:57, closed)
Might I just say this is hawt. Totally sexy. I applaude you.

(, Mon 21 May 2012, 8:14, closed)
Thank you, it is for me and I can imagine it's pretty hot for a keyholder, too.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 21:34, closed)
Hang on...
what happens when you need to take a piss?
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 11:18, closed)
I think you're misunderstanding how this works.

(, Mon 21 May 2012, 11:26, closed)
I spent a while reading about this after reading the original post.
I do understand how it works and I want to know what happens when you want to go for a piss or a shit. In the more simple ones it's obvious as there's a hole to piss out of and only the cock is involved though public urinals would probably be out of the question. In the full steel ones you'd definitely have to piss sitting down and even then it looks like you'd cover the thing in piss and it would be hard to dry. As for taking a dump, well, in the case of one I saw that would be pretty-much impossible.
The devices also look like they'd make strange lumps in the crotch of your trousers, so I can't help thinking people would wonder what was going on even if it is unlikely they would guess exactly what.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 12:10, closed)
You've put a lot more thought into this than me.
I'm recalling a distant, stoned visit to, I think, the sex museum in Amsterdam as my point of reference and am not googling this from work to see how close I am to the reality.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 12:36, closed)
Googling CB-6000. (Hint - It's not a motorbike)

I hope the OP's Mrs doesn't go for the "spoilt orgasm" release, before popping the lock back on and keeping him in there for another couple of weeks. Or giving him a countdown from ten to shoot his bolt, and if he hasn't by then, too late. After 6 weeks he WILL be able to think clearly and the last thing on his mind will be his cock. Enforced chastity brings focus and clarity.


Actually, I hope she DOES... he he
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 13:18, closed)
Course it isn't. A 6 litre motorbike? Preposterous.
Having said this, I'd put a few quid on being able to jam that up a coochie, although for the man it wouldn't be much fun.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 13:23, closed)
Never really understood those things...
...on the grounds that they are supposed to prevent the wearer getting an erection. Surely, given sufficient use, one would be 'conditioned' not to get erections - i.e. impotent?
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 14:52, closed)
It's about
Power Exchange. You hand over control of your primal urges to your Mistress who decides whether you should become turned on or not, not you, and that is what gives you pleasure.
It won't physically damage you, you'll still get a boner (when SWMBO deems you are worthy). I believe those who enjoy being put in chastity get great satisfaction in knowing they are no longer the drooling, cock-rubbing chimp that 99% of us blokes are, until they have permission to be.

I think the OP's other half should use some CBT devices (once again, nowt to do with motorbikes), it sounds like he's getting too much pleasure from being in chastity, he needs to know he's a BAD boy, and that filth won't be tolerated. My friend "Dr Pinch CBT" manufactures some fiendish devices...
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 20:23, closed)
Well, that's up to my wife.
Tease and denial, ruined orgasm are all good fun. Not had much joy with prostate milking. For some reason clothes pegs on the balls makes me cum straight away, which defeats the object.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 21:45, closed)
Apparently spome men can escape those.
Something to do with slipping your balls out or something, sounds too painful to think about. Also, they're relatively cheap.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 17:31, closed)
They say no device is escape proof, but that's not the point.
I don't think many are forced to wear them. I've not got to the point were I've tried or needed to cheat. Some don't use a device and go on honour, even with a device there is still an element of that.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 21:40, closed)
I'm guessing that...
...at this price, he's probably talking about one of those Neosteel jobbies (there's a video here: www.youtube.com/watch?v=SX9ZuwWRpRo). Even so, I'm guessing it would show.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 14:48, closed)
I guessed that too.
I would think you'd notice something if someone were wearing one though.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 17:32, closed)
I believe the Neosteel belts are considerably more expensive than my budget.
Check out Mature Metal. They are ball trap devices, but very well regarded.
I'm torn between the Pet Trap and the Queen's Keep.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 21:33, closed)
I'm not going for a full belt
There are those with full belts who say they can manage the piss problem. I guess cleaning after urinating is another reminder of the predicament. The backside issue varies by design. Some have a cable that has enough give to be moved aside, where a thicker metal band is used there is an opening to allow things to pass either way.
I don't fancy the cleaning aspect of a full belt, but the kick you get when a lock clicks shut is intense, I think a full belt, were you couldn't see anything would be even more so.
Full belts would have a less noticeable appearance. Of the ball trap devices I think the lock is what would cause an unnatural lump. Yes stuff is pushed forward and I've been conscious of it, but is an enlarged bulge between you legs a bad thing?
The new device will have an integrated lock, but the lump issue, you get over pretty quickly.
(, Mon 21 May 2012, 21:25, closed)

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