Hysterical
One of the happiest, most amazing moments of my life occurred at Leeds Festival last year. The sun was out, it had stopped raining and I was stood watching the Yeah yeah yeahs and Karen O go a bit mental on the main stage. I was stood with my head leaning on the shoulder of a good friend of mine. Things had taken an interesting turn at the festival and weeks of joke-flirting had turned into the realisation that we both actually really liked each other. As we stood in the crowd, arms wrapped around each other, both of us absolutely filthy and probably starting to smell a bit, he gently kissed the top of my head. I looked up into his face and realised that for once in my life my terrible, terrible fear of commitment and reliance on someone else had completely disappeared, and for the first time I actually wanted to get into a relationship with someone. Just as Karen O launched into the chorus of ‘Hysteric’:

“Flow sweetly, hang heavy. You suddenly complete me, you suddenly complete me”

I later fell in love with him, but sadly things didn’t work out as hoped due to poor timing and circumstances beyond our control (me going off to uni and him having to work full time to fund his gap year travels). And although us calling it a day was a mutual decision, and the fact that we’re still just as close now as we were before Leeds, that song still makes me tear up every time I hear it, because I would do anything to be back in that field, ankle deep in that mud and thinking that this could be the beginning of something pretty fucking awesome. In fact, the screen is pretty blurry right now.

He gets back from his five month trip to New Zealand in May. And I have no idea if I should let this one go or tell him I still feel the same way about him when he does.

Apologies for emo soppiness and lack of funny etc.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:19, 16 replies)

Tell him you love him
but don't sleep with him until you have got him well and truely checked over, Thailand etc. Besides everyone needs a little heart ache.
(TwinkleFuckingToes Has a ingrown toe nail, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:24, closed)

Tell him.
It's always better to know, otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life kicking yourself and saying "What if?".
( jim_bob can herd cats., Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:26, closed)

Tell him
if he says no then oh well, if they are worth it then do it, just make sure you don't lose a friend
(Halfy By light alone, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:32, closed)

you need to tell him
don't let this pass you by.
(khcm8jw, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:45, closed)

When I read YYYs
Thought this would have been about Maps, not Hysteric..

"Wait.. They don't love you like I love you"

Edit: ^^ also what he/she said.
( Rusty Shackleford www.junt.co.uk / @joeyrobbo, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:48, closed)

I love that song.
The acoustic version they played for that set is absolutely beautiful.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 16:26, closed)

You should not bother contacting him
Not really.

Lovely story and all, but this is pretty much a no brainer, so I can't see what the problem is?
( Michael Ellis contributes nothing, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:48, closed)

I'm still in contact with him. We chat all the time.
But I'm terrible at reading people, and I can't tell if his flirty jokes and references to what we had are just him being himself - a charmer, or if they actually still mean something.

I'm just can't bear the thought of loosing the brilliant friendship that we have if he's moved on.
(Applebite Uh! A cow!, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 16:31, closed)

He'll probably come back all worldly
and with a sense of mystery and you'll still be the same girl he left in a little town with small minded people all those years ago.... It'll never work give up now and save yourself the heart ache.

But if it does work out don't come back here and dribble on about how your found your love after so much time apart, no one likes to be reminded of how crap their life is in comparison.
(TwinkleFuckingToes Has a ingrown toe nail, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 15:56, closed)

Sorry to say this...
But that's fucking miserly. Don't be such a cunt.
( jim_bob can herd cats., Thu 28 Jan 2010, 21:18, closed)

You should definately make contact,
but don't go professing love yet! He may come back having pined for you all this time, or not.
Play it cool. (Ha, coming from me that's a real laugh!)
( Blind Meach Cautiously optimistic, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 16:06, closed)

Do it!
Honestly, it's much better, at least you'll know.
I've been through a very similar experience recently, fancied one of my best friends for years, flirted quite a bit, then I went to Canada for a few months. Liked it so much, decided to stay, but popped back the UK first for a couple of months to wrap things up. My friend finally thought then was a good time to go out with me for a short time, just before I was intending to leave the country for good. I left, we were sad. I've been in Canada over a year now, but long story short, I was back at christmas, proposed and she said yes. She's now moving over here in a month or so.
It might not work out, but you might as well give it a shot, wonderful things may come of it. Good luck
(badfiremonkey, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 19:41, closed)

Do it!
You will only regret it even more if you dont! good luck :o)
(Fishbone-didi, Thu 28 Jan 2010, 19:42, closed)

DO IT
Do it. DO IT DO IT DO IT. I don't know how to link to answers, so I gotta go with this and hope it works..

www.b3ta.com/questions/books/post159966

I'm getting married to this man in August, and right now we're trying for a baby. If he hadn't been waaaay more brave than me, it never would have happened. Do it. The worse that can happen is that...it never happens - and that's better than spending a lifetime wondering, surely?
(mookroolz, Fri 29 Jan 2010, 20:06, closed)

Dude seriously...
tell him before it's too late. Me and a girl i really liked had to call it a day before we even decided to get together. We both had strong feelings for each other but were too shy to let each other know until IT WAS TOO LATE. No seriously, just get it out in the open.

The worst that can happen is you don't get together. But that'll happen anyway if you don't let each other know what your feelings are.
(Captain Sensible "I'll be your animal in a yellow plastic bin", Fri 29 Jan 2010, 23:36, closed)

Regret
"What if ...?" is a terrible question to have to ask yourself later in life.
Do something. Anything.
(Le Grenouille, Sun 31 Jan 2010, 20:45, closed)