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I don't get what the big deal about porn addiction is all about.

Humans naturally want to fuck, but society says don't do just anyone. So, if we don't have someone to do it with, or she's not in the mood, we masturbate. It feels good anyway, and it has some minor health benefits, so why not?

Then, our instincts also tell us variety is good, and collecting things is good... it seems totally natural to me to want to collect a wide variety of different prons.

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:55, archived)

www.flickr.com/photos/fracasnoir/3174382007/

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:56, archived)

me2 wanna do it doesn't have anything available to you.

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Cassius Kray floats like a butterfly, stings like a trout, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:58, archived)

Well, cutting down on collecting new stuff, that is a good thing. After all the years you are more likely to find good stuff on your HD than out there.

Giving up Masturbation? That is kindof silly, try Smoking or Booze first.

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:58, archived)

The whole smell issue may be a result of the anxiety or guilt that is generated by the masturbation.

Masturbation itself is not the whole problem, but your guilt about it is probably at the source of your problem. See a therapist.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:01, archived)

Massturbation???

_{advice needed: I am 16 years old (17 in a week). I started masturbating when i turned 16. I watched a movie, there was sex in it and then i started doing it. i just thought of it as nothing significant. i heard that this was called masturbation and after reading at wikipedia. i am disgusted with myself. I am a christian and stayed away from girls and porn and then suddenly got into it. Now i am scared to ask girls out because of my past. I want to stop it all now. In my college boys talk about girls and porn, is it possible that some of them do it as well?? i don't know what to do? i just want to end my life and have another chance to start again. i read that it's just as worse as having s e x. someone please tell me, i am really disgusted with myself. does anyone else here do it? will i be condemned to hell? will i ever be able to have a girl friend or wife or normal life? i am depressed now. someone please advise me, i would really appreciate it, man. bye, got deleted, writing again.}

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:04, archived)

First you gotta understand that overall ... it is a selfish act.

You only benefit yourself and nobody else by masterbating (masturbating). Sex is meant for 2 people not one. That is the natural way of life. Whenever you masterbate, your only having sex by yourself.

Secondly, do you ever masterbate w/out fantasizing? Usually masterbation (masturbation) accompanies fantasizing. They both compliment each other and make the experience more joyful. I would say fantasizing precedes masterbation (masturbation). Guys usually get in the mood by fantasizing about a hot lady. Once the fantasizing arouses the guy, the guy usually wants more pleasure and options to masterbates to create an orgasm for him.

I rarely seen a situation where a person does not fantasize while masterbating (masturbating).

That my friend is the answer to your question. If somehow you can stop fantasizing about hot models/actress/ladies, you will be less aroused. And if you aren't aroused ... why should you masterbate?

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:07, archived)

And if you aren't aroused ... why should you masterbate?

INTERESTING.

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:11, archived)

Dude...I beat off like nine times a day. It's cool.

(k3b/-\b Peace man., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:13, archived)

i am happily married and masturbat all the time also..been for years..i think my wife can notice when i do because i cant hold an errection as long and when i *** its not alot of semen. i feel horrible after i do this

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:14, archived)

Rather the opposite for me.

I can keep going longer.

(waxdart hello., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:17, archived)

Jesus loves those that have a good wank.

The Lord created you in his image. The lord is a wanker.
The make-believe sky daddy watches you whilst you wank. He is a gay wanker.
Some will say to you, that you will burn in hell for all eternity for wanking. Ask of them, what part of infinite eternity is this bit now?
I like a bit more 100% in my eternity.

(waxdart hello., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:13, archived)

If societal norms weren't in place

you'd be desperately trying to fuck girls in their early teens. You all would.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:56, archived)

Excuse me!

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J Peasemould Gruntfuttock Alpha Mike Foxtrot, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:57, archived)

Well, that's when most females reach sexual maturity.

I was 9, but most aren't *that* young.

It's purely conjecture, I should point out.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:59, archived)

Well, I shall stick with admiring the very lovely Sophie Marceau.

As well as your gorgeous self, of course.

*hugs*

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J Peasemould Gruntfuttock Alpha Mike Foxtrot, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:01, archived)

:-) all legal.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:01, archived)

*fondles*

Edit: Gotta go, wish me luck - I may be going to my very doom.

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J Peasemould Gruntfuttock Alpha Mike Foxtrot, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:02, archived)

Good luck precious *hug*

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:05, archived)

Sophie Marceau - IN A SEC - which is all I'd be able to give.

And Audrey Tautou.

(waxdart hello., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:04, archived)

I just googled her and saw a boob. True story. This really happened.

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:06, archived)

Juliette, of Shakespearean fame is supposed to be about 12...

ROWMEO WUZ A KIDDE FIDDLER!!!1one

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Sonic James Doom forgetting the date since... umm..., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:58, archived)

That was acceptable until fairly recently anyway (1890sish)

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:58, archived)

half-past Seven?

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J Peasemould Gruntfuttock Alpha Mike Foxtrot, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:59, archived)

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:00, archived)

THAT FRY AND LAURIE JOKE DOESN'T WORK IN THAT CONTEXT!

Lucky I did knock ten years off really, see how I trounced your plans.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:00, archived)

*is trounced*

Gah - foiled again!

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J Peasemould Gruntfuttock Alpha Mike Foxtrot, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:02, archived)

Exactly.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:59, archived)

I'm still interested in how society is going to deal with paedophilia in the future.

Though I suspect I'll be dead before any realistic thought it put into it.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:02, archived)

Hopefully

there'll be less pitchforks and more psychologists (in terms of those who fancy children too youing to be sexually mature, which is going against even the mating instinct then). I don't like this 'study and treat all illnesses except for the ones which upset us' thing.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:04, archived)

Well not even just that, the fact that they might in the future at least let them have their fantasies or dolls or whatever they want.

I mean banning completely fabricated and drawn sexual imagery with children in, apart from most likely pushing more people to go out and seek actual children, it's basically just thought policing. I accept that sometimes if people are criminally or clinically insane to the degree that they could or would harm someone, but I think I think paedophilia is something that could be dealt with a lot more effectively and permissively than 'lock up the nonce'.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:08, archived)

You raise several good points.

To be honest, I don't read the sun so I tend to more pity paedophiles than want to put them on spikes. It must be an extremely lonely existence. Perhaps I'm too soft.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:10, archived)

Has that sexual imagery bill actually been through the commons yet?

You know, the one which pretty much bans anything fun.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:13, archived)

I admit, I've not been paying as much attention as I should

the last I knew it was probably going to go through, but hadn't yet. If you're at home I'd suggest googling, I'm not so I won't be right now.

It'll be nigh on impossible to enforce, to be honest.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:14, archived)

Can't seem to find it under 'sexual imagery bill'

What the fuck was it called again?

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:23, archived)

Fuck knows.

'down with things we don't understand' vol 67.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:24, archived)

Well I managed to find this link by searching b3ta but nothing on google, nice one global image search.

news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/7422595.stm

Still doesn't name the new bill though.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:27, archived)

Yes

It has. Been law (of sorts) for about 2 months now.

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Smallbrainfield, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:31, archived)

That being said, sexual maturity isn't the only kind of maturity

a 12 year old girl can easily be manipulated by an older man and may "consent" at the time yet not fully understand what they're doing.

Not helpful for a person's development when they spend their formative years realising they've been taken advantage of like that.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:14, archived)

JUST SPITBALLING

before anyone accuses me of fiddling with kids, but could there be an argument in there to educate children earlier and more thoroughly about the entire sexual process? Not just conception-birth, but more encompassing the lead up to the sexual congress too.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:17, archived)

I'm not sure that's the school's job

and while I think that everyone has the right to a fair trial rather than having their faces pastered across newspapers (and a whole bunch of lookalikes getting mauled), I think 18 is pretty much the right age.

Some people develop earlier and some later, but the line needs to be in the right place.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:22, archived)

Oh I wasn't meaning the job of the school

I was happily sexing and aware of the consequences well before I was 18.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:23, archived)

the law needs to accomodate the ladies that weren't ready yet (within reason)

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:26, archived)

by making anyone who sleeps with the ones who are

a statutory rapist?

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:27, archived)

not sure what it's like over there, but in australia it doesn't count if they're both underage and within a couple of years of each other

laws can't have grey areas if they're going to work - you can't apply different rules to different people and call the system fair. Where would you draw the line?

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:30, archived)

If you have a decent way to determine consent (which is ultimately what all this is about, that younger girls can't give consent because they don't fully understand the sexual act)

then the ones who weren't ready would still be protected by a sexual assault or rape charge anyway.

Not that that helps given that the entire fucking world seems to want to convinct one paedophile and doesn't give a shit about the tens of thousands of rape charges which go floating about and never see conviction.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:30, archived)

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:34, archived)

There's always a bigger issue

but back to this one, how would you prove decision-making maturity? I think finishing school and making other life decisions should be a given.

The first major life decision a person makes shouldn't be whether or not to bang an old man.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:38, archived)

You say that but there's vast swathes (okay maybe not vast but they're are alot more than you'd think numerically) of women or men who do the whole 'daddy thing' with older men anyway.

I mean yes I understand manipulation and not being led into being what is essentially a fuck toy for an older man, but at the same time some people actively seek that out anyway so you can't really claim that they don't understand just because it seems like a 'bad' decision.

I suppose the best you could do to see if there was true consent would be to just talk to the girl/boy/man/woman in question, see if they truely understand the sexual act, outcome, aftermath, etc.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:44, archived)

but how would we make sure the system was fair for everyone?

would there be a checklist of boxes to be ticked to prove that someone was responsible enough? Why not just have a reasonable age that accomodates the majority?

Let's bear in mind that when a judgement is passed it sets a precedent, so if it's ok for one 14 year old it could be argued that it's ok for all of them.

Also, when I suggest bad decisions I'm talking about decisions that that person may regret/be ashamed of later in life, I'm not saying that their actions are inherently bad.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:52, archived)

People make those kind of decisions they regret are ashamed about in later life within the realm of consent anyway, you don't really start thinking about the future or responsibility until you're past your 20s or so anyway.

There never used to be any real age of consent or precedent, parents would just punch or threaten whoever they thought was manipulating their children into bad behaviour or sex
. It's not as if people are going to be able to run riot and be all predatorial, schools still wouldn't let any older people near children, parents wouldn't let any older people near children, and both would constantly tell children not to any older people near them.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:00, archived)

I'm really quite surprised that I'm having to justify jail terms for paedophilia here.

It's not being handled very well when newspapers can print people's faces but the law is there to protect people who don't have the complete ability to defend themselves.

Not every child/teenager is going to tell their parents until after the event. Not every child/teenager is going to have living parents. Maybe the foster parents are the ones they need to be afraid of. Maybe the kid is so scared of the person that did it that they'll just say they gave consent because they're worried about what will happen.

The focus for all crimes should be rehabilitation, but society needs to have criminals put in a place where they can't reoffend if it's going to function properly.

You're right that historically this wasn't the case but some of us like to think that we've progressed a little bit since then, and even if we haven't then we should be trying.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:09, archived)

Yes I realise that the law is there to protect people who can't defend themselves, which was why I said they should be given the right to exist.

Have their own fantasies and drawings and whatever as long as they don't encrouch people's freedoms. Doesn't stop me from hoping that in the future that society will be ordered and permissive enough for people to be sufficiently educated that they can mentally defend themselves.

Progress is dependent on what you see as good and what you see as bad, and given that kind of morality changes with time it's pretty futile to equate.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:18, archived)

Wait, we're talking about fantasies and drawings here?

I thought we were talking about actually banging kids.

If we're talking about banging kids and just having paedophiles in society and saying "she probably wanted it" then yes, I guess my concept of right or wrong would mean that I don't view that as progress.

It all comes down to whether or not it's a victimless activity. There's a big potential for there to be a victim.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:26, archived)

That's the way you view it, but look at somewhere like ancient greece, there was quite implicit and well known boy love.

That wasn't just a case of banging kids and saying 'they probably wanted it'.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:32, archived)

and you think little boys actually enjoy cocks up their arses?

just because those boys grew up to do the same thing doesn't mean it didn't cause suffering.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:34, archived)

If it was a society, and it was, where that was seen a higher form of love then it wouldn't have been suffering.

Also I'm talking about like 12-14 here maybe, not like really young kids.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:39, archived)

I'm talking about the physical/emotional act of having a cock in your arse

not some societal attitude. I'm sure more than a few kids were manipulated or intimidated into doing it. Just because their society turned the other cheek doesn't mean that kids didn't suffer unneccesarily.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:48, archived)

You realise it wasn't forced upon them, it wasn't like they were owned or anything.

And I'm sure there are more than a few women and men beyond consent who are manipulated or intimidated or pressured into doing sexual things these days, I fail to see what that has to do with anything. In fact in ancient greece the man-boy relationship was pretty much an act of moral and spiritual education, to the extent that abuse wasn't even vaguely tolerated.

It may seem strange to you, but that's because social positions and meaning changes ALOT. I suggest you read into it, if alone because it's interesting reading.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 15:56, archived)

saying that something happened in the past is no argument for something being justified in the future.

There were times where eccentric ladies were burned as witches. Suffering occurred.

There were times when it was acceptable to have slaves. Suffering occurred.

We haven't regressed by taking these things out of society.

Anyway I'm really hoping you're just playing devil's advocate here and you don't genuinely believe that sex with minors is cool.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 16:02, archived)

Saying that because something isn't tolerated now is no argument for saying it was reprehensible.

And as I said, you should read about it more before you make emotive reactions. And frankly it just seems incredibly ignorant and kneejerky to equate your modern perception of paedophilia to something you clearly don't know a huge amount about, for a start the maturation and education of children used to be much faster in those days. Boys were essentially expected to be educated in mathematics and spirituality and ready to be men much much younger.

Devil's advocate or not, we have to do something about it because you can't just have a large portion of people who aren't able to function or interact with society.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 16:16, archived)

Reading up on ancient greek boy love won't justify modern day paedophilia.

I haven't been especially emotive here, I've just pointed out that there is a large potential for people to suffer, and as such it should not be seen as a good thing.

You're clearly not going to accept that, which is unfortunate. Paedophilia isn't good. Sorry if that's the way you swing, but if it is then you should be denied access to potential victims.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 16:22, archived)

I hope you mean 'you' as in 'one', otherwise that's pretty lame debating implying I'm a paedophile.

There's a large potential for people to suffer in anything, condoning or making something illegal will rarely change whether anyone's going to suffer. The people who do things at the expense of others will still continuing doing it, it's just that others would be able to act without others suffering.

And as I said, it's the view of modern day paedophilia and children in society, that's not going to stay the same, nothing ever does, not because of a push to be more permissive but just because society and moral views always change. They just do. It's ridiculous to assume that just because something was acceptable in the past and now isn't, it will stay unacceptable. And frankly it doesn't matter if you feel it hurts people or it's wrong, you can't just say something "isn't good", you might as well just say it's immoral if you want to provide absolutely no meaningful analysis or insight.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 16:32, archived)

You're suggesting that because someone has already suffered they're not allowed to seek justice?

The only reason I have to suggest that you have some sort of vested interest in this discussion is that you're ignoring the viewpoint of the victim.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 16:39, archived)

Yes but by the same notion a naive 16 year old could be manipulated and misled in an identical manner.

I wasn't really suggested that we let people loose to have sex on whoever or whatever they want immediately, because it's difficult to work out a reliable method of consent which isn't tainted by manipulation or being led in hand or such. But I think for the meantime we should at least let them exist.

(Jeru War and Piss, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:19, archived)

I think they should be jailed in a fair and responsible manner.

Like I said above, it shouldn't be a big public affair, but it should still be illegal and enforced.

Just because some women mature earlier doesn't mean they all do. The legal line needs to be at a place where most women have matured, not just the early bloomers.

Actually this isn't just about women so please read all that as person instead.

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gronkpan https://twitter.com/VomitingLarry, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:25, archived)

paying a person to have sex with you is bad and naughty

but going to a bar spending half an hour bare faced lying to them to get your penis in them/a penis in you is perfectly fine.

yay ridiculousness :)

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arrangedletters, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:25, archived)

So Mr Glitter, What prompted you to build a time machine?

ERM?

(waxdart hello., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:02, archived)

You've used a societal norm that wouldn't be in place?

(waxdart hello., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:59, archived)

Come again?

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:00, archived)

Wwowowowowowowowow I'm ill and grumpy. :((((((((((((owowowowow

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:59, archived)

I'm hungry and fucked off.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 13:59, archived)

Wanna trade?

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:00, archived)

Yep.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:00, archived)

Fantastic. Because the pestilence I carry with me currently stopped me sleeping last night.

I do have Maryland Cookies though. But I'm not going to eat them for the fear of ELEVATING MY HORRIFIC PAIN. Oh yeah, did I mention THIS PAIN IS HORRIFIC.

and I'm only a little bit of a drama queen.

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:03, archived)

I'm going to try and sleep.

Have a good day. You're awesome.

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Ttssattsr, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:09, archived)

*hug* feel better

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:10, archived)

drinking for me was most fun when it was illegal...

...just saying.

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arrangedletters, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:13, archived)

:D dark.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:15, archived)

I try :)

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arrangedletters, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:20, archived)

Not... in the mood?

I do not comprehend

(Mrs Trellis GIN, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:00, archived)

You've never not been in the mood?

Never too tired/stressed/in too much pain?

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:02, archived)

*thinks*

Well maybe once. But he was too, so it didn't matter.

(Mrs Trellis GIN, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:04, archived)

Christ.

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Captain Wow currently being a cunt in Infamous, Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:06, archived)

I find this difficult to believe...

Then again, I've always had to rely on a warmup routine of nine hours of begging, pleading and crying before the unfortunate ~~victim~~ lady agrees...

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Sonic James Doom forgetting the date since... umm..., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:05, archived)

exactly, that's what I thought knives were for.

(k3b/-\b Peace man., Mon 27 Apr 2009, 14:05, archived)