Oh, Tess.
Please sit down, y'all, and get settled in for a long 'un. Oo-er.

This is a story of me and my friend Terese, also known to all and sundry as Tess. She's Danish, blonde, tall, into photography (like-what-I-am), likes the outdoors (like-what-I-does) and is stunningly attractive.

I kid thee not, she looks very similar to Scarlett Johannsen, but working for a web company in London. And she's gorgeous. Did I mention that?

Tess and I met many moons ago at a festival where she and her friend were face painting. I actually saw her friend and her friend painted my (31 year old, at the time) face with a large saltire (Scottish flag (of St Andrew)).

We spent pretty much the entire weekend together with me pointing up various photogenic subjects (i.e., musicians, still lifes etc) and we competed as to who could get the bestest picture.

On the Saturday evening we went for dinner at my favourite (Scottish) restaurant on Trafalgar Square and met my friend the organiser who gave us both back stage passes for the Sunday. On the Sunday we met for breakfast (Ed=serious, attentive male without any first-date-nookie ideas) before going off to the festival again.

We stay in touch. When we meet, we kiss and have been each others plus ones for weddings and parties.

She designs and builds a website for me for DS09 and acts as the creative director type but then - shock, horror - I discover (from her) that she's involved on a casual basis with another who appears to treat her in something other than the pedestal-placing that I desire to do.

So, dear reader, here's the question - do I ask THE question? There are many, many logical reasons why we should be together but then there's also the point of the famous film When Harry Met Sally - why fcuk up a perfectly good friendship with a relationship?
(Eds Meds Mathskillz=1,Socialskillz=0, Thu 28 Aug 2008, 23:55, 13 replies)

If
she's a web designer/worker in london, is there not a good chance she might just be on b3ta too? Might she recognise herself? Is this actually you posing the question in a roundabout way? :-P

Might work...
( MadAdamUk was last alive on, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 0:02, closed)

The simple answer is
Yes.
( enoughblueskyforsailorstrousers, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 0:11, closed)

It worked
for me
(Shpadoinkle Serious Awesomness, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 0:19, closed)

yes, but you must remember,
how did that film end? Hint: not in divorce
(Stu Moo winner of five nobble piece prizes, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 0:34, closed)

Yes
You have to ask. Seriously. You MUST.
(Lump, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 9:58, closed)

Ask her
But time it right. If you don't, all will fail horribly.
( PopePollo defloculating the soup of the surreal, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 12:40, closed)

nothing ventured, nothing gained.
can you handle just being friends? i've been there myself, it's harsh.
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 13:45, closed)

Update
Tess and I are taking Henry for a walk tomorrow. Will ask then!
(Eds Meds Mathskillz=1,Socialskillz=0, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 17:11, closed)

the walk
Good luck!
( pixxelated mocks you with their monkey pants on, Fri 29 Aug 2008, 23:23, closed)

If you don't ask, you'll never know.
On the upside, she might have been waiting for you to ask for some time now.

On the downside, the worst-cast scenario is that you lose something that, let's be honest, is worth the risk considering what you might gain.

But either way, at least you'll know. There's a lot of satisfaction to be had in that.

And you'll earn clicks if you keep us updated!
(jessemoya, Sat 30 Aug 2008, 3:52, closed)

Ask her!
If you don't, you'll regret it. Maybe not today. Maybe not tomorrow, but soon and for the rest of your life.
( sm.pl.crt.rs I don't fucking know, do I?, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 12:55, closed)

How did it go?

(Fuckarma was masturbating into your handbag, Mon 1 Sep 2008, 15:47, closed)

^ ^
See this post.
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Wed 3 Sep 2008, 0:04, closed)