he's not my boyfriend, i don't like tags on things
he is just "the boy". AND he's not going, there's about 20 of us who were all at school together going.

so there.

the greek guy who runs the restaurant is glorious, sooooo greek. i love him. we were winding him up once about greek guys being gay, and he just said: "darling, we invented it, ees true. but i am ALL MAN."

we laughed at him a lot.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:54, 1 reply, 14 years ago)

Isn't "the boy" a tag?

( tangledupinblue hairy badge with moving eyes, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:54, Reply)

There really is no point in taking this any further.

(Bazongaloid, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:55, Reply)

ah, if only your parents had said that to one another about 9 months before you were born...

( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:58, Reply)

I imagine it was probably the last thing your mother was thinking.

(Bazongaloid, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:01, Reply)

why would you imagine that?
wait, wait, i think i've got it.... was it to try and make someone you've never met, and never will meet, feel a bit unhappy on a friday afternoon?
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:05, Reply)

No that's just a gender.

( girlinthehole, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:55, Reply)

But doesn't the inclusion of a definite article turn it from merely a description of gender into a tag?

( tangledupinblue hairy badge with moving eyes, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:57, Reply)

Shut up.

( girlinthehole, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:59, Reply)

i should just have said this

( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:00, Reply)

"the boy" is a nickname
it's very different to "my boy", which i don't like.

it has connotations of the sameness of the same person forever and ever and a lifetime of domestic drudgery of cooking and cleaning and washing and never being able to go on holiday with the girls or fuck off travelling or to live in new york or alaska if i felt like it and all the other things that most people seem to find normal and appealing but that terrify me!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:58, Reply)

I use to feel like that.

( girlinthehole, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 13:59, Reply)

Wow, and I thought I had issues.

( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:00, Reply)

i'm exaggerating a lot
but i do find the whole concept of marriage and settling down a bit stifling where most people seem to find it comforting and secure.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:09, Reply)

I agree to some extent
but I have a badly failed marriage to blame for my hang ups. Never mind swipey, it'll all be fine when the hormones kick in.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:16, Reply)

haha
everyone's different. look at cancertwat yesterday - on a serious note underneath the horseshit, he genuinely thinks getting his wife knocked up and tying himself down when he was so young was a great thing. which is baffling to ME. and he genuinely thinks that my work hard, play hard lifestyle of loads of friends, boyfriends, socialising and travelling is a bad thing. yet presumably we're both pretty happy with what we've got.

it takes all sorts!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:20, Reply)

This is true.
It's also true that we tend to justify our decisions/lifestyle as being the best way to do things after the event, rather than deciding to go a certain way because it makes sense. I'd say this applies to you and CJ both, probably me too.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:23, Reply)

bit of both
people who want to settle down generally have serious relationships from a young age, for example.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:28, Reply)

True, but there is also an element of justification after the event.
when you find yourself shackled in a loveless marriage with no life and 7 screming fucktard children you tend to find reasons why this is really what you wanted all along.

Equally when you find yourself working most of your working hours with little human closeness in your life and little spritual fulfilment, you tend to deride those who are happy and settled.


In fairness I should add that when you have made a royal fuck up of both your marriage and career you tend to look down your nose at people who have been successful in either area as if you have some how chosen to have nothing to show for 36 years of your life.


*commits suicide*
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:36, Reply)

hahaha
it's hardly as black and white as all that!

eg you can be very happily single without feeling a lack of human closeness - that's what friends and family are for!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 14 Oct 2011, 14:42, Reply)