Yeah, and no matter what I've tried to do for her
giving up Thanksgiving and Christmas as they're family holidays (and ultimately spending them alone hurrahing over my own turkeys).
I understand her mom died. I understand that her mom died while she was in jail and couldn't be there. Is it awfully selfish of me to say that I couldn't be there when my mum died?
I just wasn't in jail, I was beholdend to the INS rules. But even though I'll never get over the fact I wasn't there, I guess I'm just old enough to understand that that was life. Mum told me many a time it was MY life, and even when she knew she was dying she forbid me from giving up my green card application to go back.
I've tried so hard to accomdate her feelings about her mom, and not try and be her mom - every holiday I spend alone as well as her moms anniversaries and my moms anniversaries so as not to upset her with my tears.........
Wow, that sounds really selfish, but it's not meant to be
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:34, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

That's not selfish at all!
It's her that's be selfish and ungrateful - she not realising that you know *exactly* how she feels and that you've given her so much space to just be her when she needed it. She's the selfish one there.
(Potty Jag har smör i min rumpspringa, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:39, Reply)

I don't know what she was in jail for, but
it sounds like she likley has some serious mental health issues. Her Dad is not helping her at all by what he is doing. he must be pretty emotionally lazy/wimpy to take the easy way out and suck up to his daughter instead of telling her like it is and to MTFU.

Good Luck you did the right thing. If your partner doesn't support you, he/she is not really a partner.
(MichaelS wasn't picked again, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 16:19, Reply)

i know it makes no difference but i seriously think you're better off without them both.
if he hasn't got the bollocks to put his grown girl in her place now and again then what hope have you got?

i don't date anymore. it's madness out there.
( rosalicious i fucking love youve been framed, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:41, Reply)