Please can I get a dose
of MTFU. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday because his daughter keeps telling him stuff I've said, but embellishes it to make me look bad when she's drunk (Want me to take you shopping for clothes for your new job turns into Dad, sue said I am fat and ugly and will never make anything of myself) Seriously. And even when she is confronted with the truth I still get blamed (dad, Sue said I,ve been drinking and I haven't, even when she's passed out and I've told her to sober up before he gets home).

It's killing me, but I won't tolerate being lied about and I just can't fucking do this anymore. I need to man the fuck up, but is it ok if I die a little inside and cry?
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 3:43, 22 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

You have already MTFU
by refusing to accept a bad situation.

What you haven't told us is whether he constantly believes Daddy's Little Girl or whether it's just her lies you can't bear.

If his daughter is old enough to get drunk then she is old enough for you to have a relationship with her Dad but not with her until she grows up some more.

Whatever, sympathies, hugs and so on. Nothing wrong with feeling pain and sorrow...without it we're not human, and the relationships count for nothing if they fail.
( I_Was_Mordred, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 4:39, Reply)

Both.
She lies, he takes it out on me even when he knows she's lying. It's killing me and yeah, it was my choice but it's not what I wanted.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 6:23, Reply)

go ahead and cry
but it sounds like he's the one that needs to mtfu
(tuqueboy has been in a medically -induced coma since, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 4:43, Reply)

yes
i got the boot three times last year and im still hung up on my last one, still working my way back from the mentals :(

what a manipulating little mare.
( rosalicious i fucking love youve been framed, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 5:35, Reply)

Damn.
You can MTFU in a couple of weeks if you're still hung up on this.

In the meantime, feel what you need to feel.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 5:57, Reply)

mm
Sounds like she is jealous of you getting the attention from her dad, just walk and wait for her lies to unravel.
no need to mtfu, you did that a long time ago
(Halfy By light alone, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 6:44, Reply)

it sounds like
both of them Dad and daughter need a cunting in the fuck for that sort of behaviour.

Also, how old is she? 10?
(knackerz is skinning up, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 7:05, Reply)

21,
22 in December..........I'm 35 and she wins all the time.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 7:19, Reply)

fucking hell
she's 21? what a sad, pathetic cunt
( rosalicious i fucking love youve been framed, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:24, Reply)

Yeah, and no matter what I've tried to do for her
giving up Thanksgiving and Christmas as they're family holidays (and ultimately spending them alone hurrahing over my own turkeys).
I understand her mom died. I understand that her mom died while she was in jail and couldn't be there. Is it awfully selfish of me to say that I couldn't be there when my mum died?
I just wasn't in jail, I was beholdend to the INS rules. But even though I'll never get over the fact I wasn't there, I guess I'm just old enough to understand that that was life. Mum told me many a time it was MY life, and even when she knew she was dying she forbid me from giving up my green card application to go back.
I've tried so hard to accomdate her feelings about her mom, and not try and be her mom - every holiday I spend alone as well as her moms anniversaries and my moms anniversaries so as not to upset her with my tears.........
Wow, that sounds really selfish, but it's not meant to be
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:34, Reply)

That's not selfish at all!
It's her that's be selfish and ungrateful - she not realising that you know *exactly* how she feels and that you've given her so much space to just be her when she needed it. She's the selfish one there.
(Potty Jag har smör i min rumpspringa, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:39, Reply)

I don't know what she was in jail for, but
it sounds like she likley has some serious mental health issues. Her Dad is not helping her at all by what he is doing. he must be pretty emotionally lazy/wimpy to take the easy way out and suck up to his daughter instead of telling her like it is and to MTFU.

Good Luck you did the right thing. If your partner doesn't support you, he/she is not really a partner.
(MichaelS wasn't picked again, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 16:19, Reply)

i know it makes no difference but i seriously think you're better off without them both.
if he hasn't got the bollocks to put his grown girl in her place now and again then what hope have you got?

i don't date anymore. it's madness out there.
( rosalicious i fucking love youve been framed, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:41, Reply)

It sounds like he needs to MTFU
What this guy has is 2 women in his life, you and his adult daughter. You should not have to compete in this competition, and he should see through his little angel's remarks.

If you get back together, which is not a recomendation by the way, then you should ignore the little bitch as much as possible. If it helps her grow up a little, all the better. Your relationship with her cannot be as an equal, if you have a few beers with her then shag her dad, how would you feel? She is either confused or jealous, both of which mean that she has to react badly towards you.



So, hugs and good luck to you, your faults are few compared to their's.
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 7:42, Reply)

*sadface*
Sorry to hear that my lovely. But sounds like the right call, as you said he obviously can't deal with the fact his daughter is a lying shitbag and instead tries to make you look like the badguy.

Cunt them both in the fuck then have a nice pint by the lake fishing styleeeee
x
( TGB checking Off Topic is still shit at, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:17, Reply)

You've done all you can
This sounds remarkably like my sister and my dad. You've done all you can, including MTFU-ing, and all you can do is wait for the trainwreck to happen when she pushes it too far. You've done the best thing by getting out of there.

Now, who's with me for a lynch mob?
(Potty Jag har smör i min rumpspringa, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:36, Reply)

Punishing you for his daughters misdeeds is a foolish way to go.
I understand that a Father's love toward his child is near unconditional, but should not be at the expense of his missus.

No need for MTFU.It might help if your ex grew a pair but I think that's a whoe different thread.
(SpunkyMcSpunkbubble Diddled your nubbin on, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 8:58, Reply)

Wow!
Seriously b3tans, thank you.
I was expecting either nothing or a couple of "stop being a stupid cunt" replies, but I needed to get it out.

Thank you.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 9:04, Reply)

Time for tough love I reckon.
Stay away and don't return calls or speak to either. If it's important enough to them they will visit you personally and talk to you face to face. If it isn't at least you'll know.
(porkylips looks better as the sun goes down., Wed 8 Jul 2009, 9:07, Reply)

I also think that he needs to MTFU
She's a grown woman and needs to take some responsibility for being a fuckwit. If he can't see that and always takes her side then he needs a good kicking as frankly he doesn't deserve you.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 11:34, Reply)

MTFU.
in the mean time i have sent you a little something that may help...
( blaireau69 , the Cumbrian Travis Bickle., Wed 8 Jul 2009, 18:14, Reply)

Do not MTFU just yet.
*squishyhugs* cry if you need to, and indeed gaz me if you need to x
( Maladicta, Wed 8 Jul 2009, 19:06, Reply)