I was chatting to the missus last night
About my mate who's dad has sadly admitted to alcoholism and is getting some help. The conversation went...

R: Its sad but im glad hes getting some help.
J (Missus): Yeah but YOUR dad drinks alot
R: Yeah... but he doesnt sit in all night drinking he just goes down the pub everynow and then. Every Thursday night he has a business meeting with his business partners and then goes down the pub with his mates.
J: EVERY THURSDAY?
R: Yes
J: I feel sorry for your mum. I'd never let my husband do that!

I was under the impression that this was kinda the way life is, going down the pub with the lads on occasions for a pint, getting away from the wife and kids for a bit.

Do I run for the hills or make her understand about the man/pub/mates relationship?
(Eggstrovert isnt patronising you...honest..., Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:40, 33 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

Weird woman.
If he went down every night, I'd understand her concerns, but complaining about once a week?

How very odd...
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:42, Reply)

Absolutely
before it goes too far. Otherwise you'll go for weeks and weeks without any proper social life, and then when there finally is some sort of special night out that she wouldn't go to, you'll find you end up having to ask for permission, you feel guilty for going, you watch the clock all night because she'll ask what time you're going to be back and she'll sulk if you're late. You generally have a shit night.

Ask me how I know.
( sandettie light vessel automatic New Twitter - @bollocksreally, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:46, Reply)

I'd point out that having at least one evening apart each week is practically vital for a healthy relationship
if my other half wanted to stop me going to band practice or something on a thursday night then I'd tell her in great detail where she could shove it.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:46, Reply)

Hmmm
It's not just a man/pub/mates relationship. A lot of people (women included) like to go to the pub at least once a week for a little natter and a beverage. I don't think you're weird of you DON'T do that, but I wouldn't say it suggested impending alcoholism/ruin.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:47, Reply)

Get her addicted to heroin,
then act all high and mighty.
(PsychoChomp, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:47, Reply)

Hahaha
Chomp's patented method for relationship win.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:06, Reply)

What does she think - that couples should be together all the time?
I'd go fucking nuts.
So would he.
( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:48, Reply)

But we're *never* apart.

(Slip Digby is a meat puppet, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:56, Reply)

I'm with you right now.

(Slip Digby is a meat puppet, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:56, Reply)

*goes fucking nuts*

( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:57, Reply)

*hides in cupboard*

(Slip Digby is a meat puppet, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:58, Reply)

*locks cupboard*
*goes to pub in a manly way*
( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:59, Reply)

*escapes*
*sprints to pub*
*gets job as barman*
*wipes bar*

Oh, hello there, Clendrix. Usual?
(Slip Digby is a meat puppet, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:59, Reply)

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:00, Reply)

We're all out of that, I'm afraid.
How about a nice Babycham?
(Slip Digby is a meat puppet, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:03, Reply)

*gives in*
*takes you home with the Babycham*
( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:08, Reply)

I think
you and Clendrix are the same person. and then when I looked on Wiki to read about schizophrenia, I wandered onto this article which made me titter like a loon.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schizophasia
( sandettie light vessel automatic New Twitter - @bollocksreally, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:04, Reply)

Where we come from, we call that piffle.

( girlinthehole, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:06, Reply)

I am about to spend the next two years learning about all this shit.
*sighs*
I am not Slipsy. He is someone else entirely.
Shut up.
No, you shut up.
Fuck you.
*goes nuts in shopping centre with machete*
( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:10, Reply)

I once heard a local-news reader on tv
report that "the man threatened the shopkeeper with a machete".

Except she pronounced it as "Makeet"
( sandettie light vessel automatic New Twitter - @bollocksreally, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:18, Reply)

Ha
You're going to learn about people like ME! It's been a while since I last made a word salad.
( Captain V, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:22, Reply)

Word Salad
sounds like a daytime TV quiz show.
( sandettie light vessel automatic New Twitter - @bollocksreally, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:26, Reply)

I am going to climb inside your head
and sit there until I understand.
( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:28, Reply)

Oh dear
I'm now imagining a tiny version of you inside my head pulling leavers and pressing buttons to drive me around.
( Captain V, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:35, Reply)

This would bring me more joy that I could have previously imagined.

( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:46, Reply)

If only we were.
I'd have boobies to play with then.
(Slip Digby is a meat puppet, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:10, Reply)

And I could put my willy in a glory hole.

( thealternativefact, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:12, Reply)

I'd kick her right in the mimsy.

(Slip Digby is a meat puppet, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 12:56, Reply)

As long as you would give her the chance of getting away from the husband and kids for a bit.
Then I see no problem.
( girlinthehole, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:02, Reply)

^ this
Otherwise you'll go stir-crazy, then at some point she'll be invited to a girls' night out and there'll be a row about how she never goes out. Possessive women can be like that.

Not my missus though, we cleared that up years ago and now she's just very rude.
( sandettie light vessel automatic New Twitter - @bollocksreally, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:07, Reply)

I can't understand relationships like these
"I'd never let my husband do that!"

What spend a single evening (per week) with some friends!? That surely shows a huge lack of trust and respect? My g/f would get a punch in the eye socket for that!

Then again perhaps your other half isn't being serious...
( whenanimalsattackhumans clad in global hypercolour, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 13:26, Reply)

exactly!
who the fuck does she think she is saying what she will "let" you do?

Did you sign over your autonomy in order to gain entry to her gowl?

fuck that!

rafter
baz
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 14:04, Reply)

Weird
and controlling and possessive and insecure. I'm sure it will just work itself in due course. Just do nothing at all, it'll be fine. Its like cancer that way, harmless if just left alone.

Dont listen to me though.
( I have run out of coke is a little sweaty, Wed 5 Aug 2009, 15:41, Reply)