From the newsletter.
blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/

I kept telling everyone this but no-one believed me.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:49, 92 replies, latest was 17 years ago)

Can you summarise is for me BGB?

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Men on dating sites will look for and message women a lot younger than themselves but only a year or two older than themselves.
And the older they get the longer the lower limit stretches.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:52, Reply)

Cheeky deluded bastards

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:52, Reply)

I think
you should ask him out but only if you're younger than him
( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:04, Reply)

You sound like that Al now!
I'm older, but within the upper age limit.
So he's not entirely safe.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:08, Reply)

He's not safe at all if you ask him out

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:08, Reply)

No he's not
I sound like nails on a blackboard and smell of deli meats and olives.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:09, Reply)

You see, i've got an erection now
just imagine what he would do if he saw you in person. You should ask him out.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:15, Reply)

you should totally show him
this page. Definite win.
( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:16, Reply)

You think?

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:18, Reply)

Your objective is to scare him away right?

( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:20, Reply)

No, she wants to get down and do the nasty with him
she's got plans that will make his entire feet curl, not just his toes, she's going to milk him so dry he'll need an IV for a week to recover, but it will be worth, god yes it will be worth it.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:21, Reply)

I'm not doing THAT until at least Easter Saturday
I've bloody told you that.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:22, Reply)

But if he's a nice boy he won't want to jump you the first chance he gets
as it gives a bad impression, so you need to go on a couple of dates before Easter Saturday so that as soon as Lent is over you can have the candles lit, the lights down low, Neil Diamond on the stereo and your favourite duvet cover washed and ironed.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:25, Reply)

I was going to stay away from boys completely until Easter Saturday
Like not even do snogs.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:26, Reply)

You can have a date and not snog but give very strong hints that you would like to see him again
and then on your second date your allowed to snog, but only short ones (jesus would approve of this plan don't worry) and make it very clear you would really like another date, but this time it's dinner at yours, and then it's easter saturday and BAM it's soggy gusset time.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:29, Reply)

Thanks Al
You should be Prime Minister.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:30, Reply)

I know, I just need the rest of the country to realise this.

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:32, Reply)

I've often thought
that Gordon Brown would be better received if he gave out sex advice. There's nothing quite as exciting as a Fife man on the make.
( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:35, Reply)

You just want that to be true

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:37, Reply)

The Waterboys just mentioned Fife

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:37, Reply)

No, you lemon!
So stop giving me duff advice or the wedding's off.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:22, Reply)

I read it as "Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me"
"Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me Me "
(PsychoChomp, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:52, Reply)

That said, it's an interesting article.
It quite similar statistically to a lot of work I do.
(PsychoChomp, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:56, Reply)

Well that would probably be because it is about me.
Pillock!
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:56, Reply)

I'm just outside your upper limit, sorry
*Breathes sigh of relief*
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:53, Reply)

Pfft!
Are you dead?

No?

Then your in my limit.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:57, Reply)

But I printed the graph and I'm out by 3 weeks.
Shouldn't your reply be in QOTW?

Where I come from that's flirting that is.
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 13:59, Reply)

I'm confused.
Don't you mean your just In my upper limit?
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:02, Reply)

No, your upper limit seems to be a gentleman of 50 years
I'm just over.
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:05, Reply)

Sorry! I haven't studied the graphs.
I just got the gist of the article from reading it and basically it hasn't told me anything I didn't already know.

I was beginning to think you'd been stalking my dating site profile. *laughs*

I don't really have a higher or lower limit but bloody men my age do.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:10, Reply)

I recall you mentioning your age a little while ago
and I just checked the graph.

See how I haven't actually said what it is. I'm a proper gent me.
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:14, Reply)

Everyone knows my age.
Which makes some people's,(psychochomp), accusation of my trawling the boards for action somewhat ridiculous.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:20, Reply)

I thoroughly recommend it.
Get yourself a man who's young enough to stay up all night to look after the baby.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:23, Reply)

"I like this"

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:25, Reply)

I don't want babies but I do have some decorating that needs doing.

( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:29, Reply)

I could decorate your "Ladies Parlour"
with some off white shades
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:34, Reply)

I'm going to use this in the clubs and hostelries tonight

( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:36, Reply)

You're spoken for sonny jim.

( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:38, Reply)

No I'm not
I'm a gay batchelor. I'm a roarer and a gorger. A rogerer and a puker.
( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:42, Reply)

I'm sorry to hear that.
Your 'little problem' rear it's head again.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:43, Reply)

I don't know why women can't accept
that I like to make love while watching Count Duckula.
( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:46, Reply)

Seems a reasonable request to me. *shrugs*

( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:48, Reply)

And bonkers

( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:47, Reply)

well that goes without saying ;)

( djtrialprice, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:52, Reply)

Your highness

( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:58, Reply)

Fnar fnar!

( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:37, Reply)

I haven't broken down and tried to use a dating site yet.
I've got my sights set on one guy and if nothing happens this weekend I reckon I'll take a look around
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:03, Reply)

Out of interest what age range would you put?
That is how many years older/younger than you?
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:07, Reply)

I'm 27 so I reckon I'd select from 25 to 40.

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:13, Reply)

Now if you were looking for a woman...
...would you pick from the same age range?
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:21, Reply)

No. I'd say from 21-29.
But I don't want to date or marry a woman.
I just like to have sex with them.
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:22, Reply)

So therefore would it be fair to say...
...it is not that men prefer younger women but we all do?

Apart from certain niche markets?
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:25, Reply)

I have no idea
I can't say for anyone but myself.
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:30, Reply)

Stop sitting on the fence
have an opinion, be judgemental, move your hips like yeah, nod your head like yeah.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:33, Reply)

'Stop sitting on the face'?

(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:39, Reply)

I objectify women.
I go to strip clubs to see the skinny girls with fake tits and too much make up. I only like the ones that can dance really well to hip hop.
I only watch porn with the same sort of women.
I have no interest in dating a normal woman. I've done it before, they're too fucking dramatic.
I have no problems paying a girl to shimmy in front of me and blow a dollar in the air with her pussy.
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:46, Reply)

But, but, but ..... I thought you were off cock?

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:09, Reply)

Dating doesn't always mean sex.

(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:10, Reply)

I'm sorry I've lost you somewhere
can you explain that again.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:12, Reply)

*psst - that was for the benefit of the laydeez*

(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:17, Reply)

Haha!
No laydeez here.

Only B3tans.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:21, Reply)

Are you suggesting
that we are all sexually enlightened beings or emotional retards?
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:23, Reply)

Do we really need to answer that?

( thealternativefact, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:24, Reply)

I'd like you to
but do it in your dirty voice, and smack my arse at the same time.
(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:26, Reply)

You'll beg me and you'll thank me.

( thealternativefact, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:28, Reply)

Yes Miss Clendrix

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:29, Reply)

Just dirty bastards.

( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:24, Reply)

That is worth celebrating.
*danger wanks*
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:26, Reply)

unless I'm in a committed relationship
or he gets me drunk enough
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:14, Reply)

For the promise of sex
Men will commit to anything.
( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:15, Reply)

I'm getting married, that's how commited I'm prepared to be

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:16, Reply)

QED

( Bartleby A dead man on vacation, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:18, Reply)

And that'll be the end of sex for you!

( thealternativefact, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:24, Reply)

LALALALALALALALALALALA

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:27, Reply)

*dances*

( thealternativefact, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:28, Reply)

Sad but true

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:24, Reply)

Oh fair enough

(Bazongaloid, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:15, Reply)

I always believe you BGB, but:
Those "older" women that article discusses (upper 30;s throught he 40's) are actually "younger" women to me now that I'm over 50. Does that mean if I get divorced I have to start dating women in their 70's? (I'm not ready for that yet!!!!!!!!)
(MichaelS wasn't picked again, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:28, Reply)

I don't think women in their 70's are really looking so don't worry too much.
As long as a guy in their fifties can still stand to attention at every opportunity and likes a laugh then I'm here.
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 14:33, Reply)

what that article fails to take into account
is that most men on those sites probably aren't looking for a relationship beyond one that goes "I want someone who looks pert and young while riding me"
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:08, Reply)

So where are all the men that aren't wanting that.
TELL ME NOW!!!!
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:13, Reply)

I don't understand your question

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:16, Reply)

That's because your a man and can never understand my struggle.

( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:17, Reply)

you don't seem to understand men
and seem surprised that given the choice a man on a dating site will send messages most often to younger women.

there are several reasons why this is the case. allow me to ennumerate them: (these are all in general)
1. younger women are more attractive (less sagging etc.)
2. younger women are more flexible
3. younger women are likely to be less set in their ways
4. older women may have reached their sexual peak in their mid-30s, but I strongly suspect that is in terms of desire, rather than actually being good at it.
5. if an older woman is on a dating site it is more likely that she is mental or something, otherwise she'd have been snapped up.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:24, Reply)

*commits suicide*

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:26, Reply)

these things don't necessarily apply to the real world
only dating sites, where the women are conveniently categorised.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:41, Reply)

Oh ok
I don't go on those
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:44, Reply)

I'M NOT SURPRISED.
THAT'S THE WHOLE POINT!!!!!
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:29, Reply)

BLOODY HELL
It's YOU'RE. YOU'RE.

Getting it wrong once, young lady, is acceptable. But thrice? And without ironic intentions?

*fumes*

Where's the bloody Grammar Badger when you need her, eh? EH? EH?!?

bibbledroolbibblegurgle
(Deadly Octopus no deaths since, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:26, Reply)

Bog of.
*does only one f on purpose*
( girlinthehole, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:29, Reply)

That's bhogg, not bog.
Crikey. Do I have to come and type for you?
(Deadly Octopus no deaths since, Fri 19 Feb 2010, 15:32, Reply)