Did he change his personailty after the wedding?
I don't get why people do that, I mean, what's the point, you got your personailty and everything is fine, most people develop that in their teens, they get a life together all sorted, then KABALMO, they turn into cunts; what's the point?
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:40, 1 reply, 16 years ago)

turns out
he'd been a cunt all along, lying, shagging around, etc. He started an affair 4 months after the wedding :(

edit: I didn't realise he was a cunt until just after 1 year of marriage (8 years together)
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:42, Reply)

I don't get why people do that.
If someone wants to shag around and all that, fine, let them go ahead and shag whoever they want. Then, if they wanna settle, find someone to settle down with and stop the shagging around. It's common sense, if you want random sex, go for it, if you want regular sex, then for that that.

I'd feel horrible if I was seeing someone reguarly, and I hurt them. I'd feel bad for a lot longer than the time it takes for me to feel good about having a shag. I'd have to basicly be shagging 50% of the time, constantly, like I mean 12 hours a day, for it to be worth it... and it doesn't matter how amazing I am in bed, I can't do 6 hour sessions any more.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:50, Reply)

cheese and rice, Gonz
where do you find a girl to stay still that long?
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:53, Reply)

Put an ad up in the papers, "Excedes minimum requirements".

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:54, Reply)

you know, I don't think I have any minimum requirements
do people actually check off a list or something?
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:57, Reply)

Ah', that's a job-refferance term over here, means it's a penny above min wage.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:01, Reply)

apparently it helps if you have no conscience

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:54, Reply)

I can see that it would.

( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 19:57, Reply)

Dear Femalehood.
Stop going for pricks, you daft twats.

Lots of Love,

The good part of Manhood.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:01, Reply)

message recieved
and understood

from
a small part of femalehood
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:03, Reply)

Good, please spread the word, thanks.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:07, Reply)

you should probably move here and introduce the 'hollyoaks, chinese and hand holding' to our society

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:12, Reply)

It's moved onto Sushi, but yup, that'll be good =)
Hollyoaks is really annoying me at the moment, they're introducing a load of charcters who are footballer's wives types, which sucks 'cus I can't relate to them in the slightest. I'm sure they'll be alright, every year around this time they add/remove a family or two, but this year they've done half the cast.

I get £5 an hour at work, yesterday after work (3 hours) I went and spent £15 on sushi.
Same thing today, but I spent £25.

I'm determind not to have any more sushi this week though, or if I do, I'll get a bento box for lunch, rather than a shedload of stuff.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:18, Reply)

maybe you should try making your own sushi
may be cheaper in the long run

or maybe just not eat it, cause it's gross
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:22, Reply)

It's lush.
There are no raw ingrediants in what I've bought tonight, if that's the bit that puts you off.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:25, Reply)

it tastes like generic fish
and ocean
but not yummy ocean
fishy ocean
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:28, Reply)

Whenever it is you come to Lahndan, if you do, we'll both get a take-out, you get whatever you want, I'll get a japanese....
... and we'll swap around a bit so you can get a taste.

Tonight I had
2x Prawn Dumplings (Ebi Goyza)
2x Salmon Skin Maki (inside-rolls)
1x Edesomething Beens
1x California Temaki (Hand roll; like an ice cream cone)
1x Egg [not-inside-out roll]

You like indian, innit? England is probably the best place in the world to get an indian; including india.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:38, Reply)

or we could pretend and I'll just eat mine and you can eat yours
or we can share mine and you can have yours as well

I prefer venetian summer rolls
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:42, Reply)

wtf why did I say venetian I mean vietnamese

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:49, Reply)

[to both]
Yeah', fair 'nuff, I'm easy going, I'm open to trying new things. I really wanna go New York this or early next year.

I donno what Vietnamese food is like, what's a summer role?
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:51, Reply)

like a spring roll
but it's raw, made with rice paper, lettuce, bean sprouts, rice vermicelli and PRAWNS
dipped in peanut sauce
omfg *dies*

also, it's likely you'll get to new york before I will
*sad face*
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:56, Reply)

Sounds well nice, I'd be up for trying that.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:59, Reply)

there's a vietnamese round here
we're not allowed to make napalm burger jokes
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:52, Reply)

1.get aquarium
2. grow fish
3.??
4 SUSHI!
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:25, Reply)

Homer was wrong about lobster, it takes 3 years to grow =(

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:39, Reply)

Not always that simple Gonz
I was a massive massive bastard to the ex. She was a bitch right back mind, but that's no excuse. I'd like to think I've grown up and become a bit less of a cunt in the last decade.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:03, Reply)

Thing is though, sometimes I can be hurtful, I know if I wanted to be.
But I'm self aware enough that if I was the kind of person who was a bastard to someone, then I wouldn't put _myself_ through the bad feelings that go with doing that.

And I know what a loveless marridge is about, very aware of that. And I'm also quite aware of how horrific it can be to hurt someone you love... if you're not going to think about the other person when you do that, think of yourself, why put _yourself_ through hurting someone else?
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:15, Reply)

I'm with you there Gonz

( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:17, Reply)

Lets just say I ended up hating her, and it was completely mutual
It was just an endless cycle of plate smashing, screaming and physical violence on her part so I didn't feel too guilty about being a bastard to her. We'd both fallen in love with other people by then and we'd basically been young and stupid and trapped ourselves into something poisonous.

Glad I went through it all on hindsight as it made me grow up very quickly.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:20, Reply)

I see what you mean, life is just as much about the downs as it is the ups.
My favorite moments in my life are very very bitter-sweet, normally when some horrific things have happened and something shining through like a becon in a pit of hoplessness.

I would have left before it got to the plate-smashing phase though.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:28, Reply)

Didn't last very long and the fallout was awful
She told everyone in the town that I'd used to beat her, which short of accusing me of rape was the worst thing she could have said. She's ended it, shacked up with someone else, and then she did that. It was the most horrid, spiteful thing anyone's ever done to me. Some people believed it as well, although most knew me well enough to know I'd never do anything like that.

*edit* Shit, this is supposed to be a happy thread. I do apologise everyone! It's all in the past and water under the bridge and all that :)
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:31, Reply)

sorry
i think I started it in a misery direction. SAy something funny or rude or draw a cock or something
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:39, Reply)

I like breasts
That's all I got, sorry!
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:39, Reply)

I could tell you were a wife-beater
Your eyes are too [I can't remember whether it's far apart or close together].
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:40, Reply)

Nope
It was me on the receiving end.
And I reckon my eyes are quite nicely spaced thanks :)
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:42, Reply)

OUCH!
I'm not even his wife and he just hit me, you all saw!
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:45, Reply)

*shocked*

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:47, Reply)

Girls who cry rape/abuse are vile creatures, or have serious serious mental problems.
It could be that she was like that because she wanted you to end it, donno the truth in that, just saying it could be.

Chapter Closed though,aye ?
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:41, Reply)

Chapter long closed
She doesnt live in the town any more so going home isn't horrifically awkward. She's married and has two kids. Her mum and dad even say hello if I bump into them so time heals all is the lesson there.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:43, Reply)

If _her_ 'rents are hello and smiles to you, it speaks volumes mostly.
The trouble is with that sort of thing, is that it isn't the police you gotta worry about, they know it's all fake, it's the people who listen to her with the metal chains and baseball bats.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:47, Reply)

Didn't come to that fortunately
It worked itself in the end.
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:49, Reply)

Life has a funny way of working itself out, can't explain why, but it all happens.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:51, Reply)

I think it's dangerous to think of one's life as a narrative
coz then you lose your self determination.

There again, if I get the job I am now applying for, it fits my story quite nicely
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:58, Reply)

Nice one =)

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 21:08, Reply)

I've never stuck with a prick for long
I normally see sense and do a runner.
That goes for men. I was an emotional retard when I was with the girl because she got me in my formative years. I had no idea how to get rid of her and when she finally went I was sad for a while.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:12, Reply)

Live'n'Learn, innit.
Not that I really know the details of what you went through with, it must have tought you enough lessons to not put yourself through that again.

What I'm saying doesn't count for things like violance and drugs, or if you have kids, it's not as clear-cut as what I'm making out in those cases... but in a lot of them, it is.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:21, Reply)

Oh aye
It made me a bit keen to run off before giving someone a chance, rather than get hurt. But I've no regrets. Deep down I don;t think any of the ones I scarpered from were meant to be my True Love or owt.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:29, Reply)

Good on you, I reckon that's the best way to be.

( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Fri 13 Aug 2010, 20:35, Reply)