Update on the nutter I posted about on Sunday
I got a phone call today. She's just had a sprog, and her fella's upped and fucked off, leaving her homeless.

Should I help? In my heart I really want to, but my brain is saying 'No fucking way'.

This is the girl who once smacked herself in the face and then told everyone we were living with that I was beating her because I wouldn't take her to her ex-boyfriend's house party...
(Half of Stephen Fry's right buttock pissed on your dog on, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:14, 27 replies)

RUN AWAY!
Like a knight saying 'Nih'.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:18, closed)

That's what I thought.
But every time something like this happens and I do ignore her, I feel like a bastard.
(Half of Stephen Fry's right buttock pissed on your dog on, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:20, closed)

NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
Absolutely not. I wouldn't even be speaking to her after doing something like that.
(kabukisteve, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:21, closed)

You are NOT a bastard
You didnt do it to her, man! Free yourself.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:21, closed)

Something about pigs flying and hell freezing over.

( idonthaveafunnynickname Drink-Aware? Sure. I'm aware I want another drink., Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:22, closed)

I think, for your own sanity,,,
you should lace up those shoes and run the heck away.

If you choose not to, make sure you don't get in to a situation where she can hurt you again. Make sure you're the one in control.
( Devil_In_Tights the *real* DiT!, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:22, closed)

Don't do it
She's not your problem anymore.
(Kia Ora it's 2 orangey 4 crows, it's just 4 me and my dog, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:24, closed)

I think you should marry her and raise the child as your own
NOT!!!
( Colonel Dracula Two manky hookers and a racist dwarf, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:34, closed)

don't do it
you'll get shat on
(happylittletulip helpless and delicious, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:35, closed)

NAY i say


Noes dont do it :O
(Kuja335, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:38, closed)

You're smart enough to post on QOTW
So be smart enough to tell her to fuck off.
( Cawl, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:42, closed)

Be kind to yourself first
Run fast and run far
( seeballs Doo da da doo da da doo da da doo, da da doo da do, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:45, closed)

hmmm
not your problem. leave it
( vigilante_18 WHO SENT ALL THESE BABIES TO FIGHT?!?!, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 17:57, closed)

You have got to be kidding me
you are actually thinking of helping this woman? You do so to your peril, and you know it. Run away!
( flirting with badgers What? It sounded good at the time., Wed 11 Jun 2008, 18:00, closed)

Change your phone number
and let her get on with it. Personal responsibilty may not be fashionable, but she needs to try it out.
(TheWeeWitch hasn't been here much recently .., Wed 11 Jun 2008, 18:17, closed)

she's a nutjob.
she'll have your spirit broken in record time. you'll be looking after her kid while she's telling everyone you're a complete and utter abusive bastard.
run like fuck. she got herself into this, let her get herself out.
( Smash Monkey lowering the tone of the whole internet, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 18:18, closed)

.
To use a metaphor in which you are me and she is a dog (not to say anything about her appearance):

Once, I tried to pet this dog.
It bit me.
I tried to pet it again.
It bit me again.
I tried to pet it AGAIN.
It bit me AGAIN.
Do you think I should try to pet it again?

I'm inclined to say no. A more accurate answer, though, is probably more along the lines of "not unless I want to put in a hell of a lot of work, and probably get bitten many times in the process. Odds are the dog will never become a nicely rehabilitated poochie, but there's a very slight possibility that could happen".

Okay abandoning the metaphor...my dog is 12. He bit me last month...AGAIN.
(chase, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 18:21, closed)

^ Chase
bite him back. Just hard enough so he feels your teeth. Works on kids, but I admit I've never tried it on a dog! If he rips your arm off, I will accept no responsibility (and its not worth sueing me either!)
(TheWeeWitch hasn't been here much recently .., Wed 11 Jun 2008, 18:24, closed)

In the words of the great JC
Your politeness will be your undoing.
(johnson, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 18:28, closed)

Agreeing with the others in here.
Dump, wipe and flush, and be sure to wash your hands thoroughly after.
( The Resident Loon Not a demographic. Do not measure., Wed 11 Jun 2008, 19:25, closed)

I wouldn't say 'run away'
Just lock your door and pretend not to be in.
(Good Looking Deity Grew a magnificent beard on, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 19:37, closed)

Listen to your brain,
Tis oh so easy to get sucked into listening to your heart - or indeed, groin. Consider, though, that about 20 people (so far) on here are yelling "BRAIN" and they ain't zombies.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 19:39, closed)

NO!
*smacks on nose* NO! Not your fault, not your problem. She will only take advantage. Ooh I'm jaded and cynical!
( baw__bag contains traces of nuts on, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 20:08, closed)

do you have any evidence
that what she's told you is true? You've already said that she made up that you beat her.
(apeloverage committed the vile act of onanism on, Wed 11 Jun 2008, 23:17, closed)

GET OUT.
GET THE FIRE BRIGADE OUT. & STAY OUT.
(TAZ220 Not giving a toss since, Thu 12 Jun 2008, 9:10, closed)

don't do it
it's a trap!
(panda_sam, Thu 12 Jun 2008, 10:30, closed)

My advice
Sever all your ties with this one mate, will do wonders for you in the long run.

Was in a similar situation myself, used to date a young lady, we broke up (not amicable in the slightest either) and went our separate ways for 4 years.

She got back in contact with me a year ago, towing three kids (different fathers) with her and in a bad situation. I felt sorry for her (I still do), but I knew that the best thing was to just bail for my own sanity.

She has managed to sort herself out somewhat, and I'm glad to hear it, but I was not going to fall into that pit.
(UncleChuckles "Cthulhu fhtagn", Thu 12 Jun 2008, 11:18, closed)