anyone still up?
I should be off to bed but I'm got tomorrow off work (using uo mholiday allowance) and I've just spent an hour and a half talking my best mate down and I feel strangely unsleepy.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:42, 4 replies, latest was 14 years ago)

me

( SteveFrench Cardio is for homo's. do you even lift bro?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:42, Reply)

Hey Bobster, you ever coming back?

( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:44, Reply)

unfortunately back at christmas but I want to stay forever.

( SteveFrench Cardio is for homo's. do you even lift bro?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:45, Reply)

Well as a teaqcher you might just make it in
with the right qualifications and an offer of work. If you really want to stay, talk to the people you are working with about sponsoring youe immigration.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:55, Reply)

The management seem to like me already as I have 9 years in a pressurised sales environment
and this school is a for profit business. As long as I don't fuck up in the next 6 weeks I have a shot.
( SteveFrench Cardio is for homo's. do you even lift bro?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:01, Reply)

would I be right in thinking the meal portions are a lot more generous Stateside?
*Standard 'Bob is a bit tubby' type comment*
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:03, Reply)

depends where you go, more conte nt than siz

( SteveFrench Cardio is for homo's. do you even lift bro?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:45, Reply)

Worth doing iof it's really what you want.
I gather (was married to someone who desparately wanted to live there) getting a job is the main thing and the biggest hurdle. you have your foot in the door, I reckon if you can impress them over the next weeks you have a very good shot.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:03, Reply)

I'm going to bed shortly.
Amuse me in the meantime.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:43, Reply)

Hey Jeff.
out of curiosity would you say you normally date head cases or sane wimmins, given that there is such a thing?
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:45, Reply)

I married a nutter.
I'd like a sane one, for a change. Like.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:57, Reply)

I can see this.
I asked because the question "why do we always go for the nutters?" came up talking to my friend and the answer seemed to be everyone else is too dull. That said you seemed fairly normal and sane so maybe you'd get on with a nice normal girlie.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:05, Reply)

I don't watch HIMYM generally
but one episode had a good explanation of the hotness versus mentalness chart
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:08, Reply)

I'm going to be a nutter in my next relationship.
That'll show everyone. EVERYONE. YOU HEAR ME. EVERYONE.

Already, I'm more of a catch than I was.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:10, Reply)

Good for you.
I think it might be my turn to be the mental one too.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:15, Reply)

I kind of was in my relationship
in fact I nearly didn't go out with him because I was worried I'd be all dangerous and spiky from the whole previous shitty business. Mostly kept it hidden and only did the unreasonably paranoid thing once, and I was aware it was unreasonable and said as much. Stupid baggage. Anyway, it was fine and we both came out as better people - yay!
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:20, Reply)

*coming out of things as a a better person fives*

( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:23, Reply)

whereas you asked me because I'm a mental?

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:11, Reply)

I think you're mental in a good way Caves.
Please take this as the compliment it's meant as.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:16, Reply)

I'll have it written on my gravestone

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:20, Reply)

For my money you're the best kind of people.
I'm aware this is not a lot of help to you, but it is sincerely meant.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:24, Reply)

*shuffles awkwardly*
uh, thanks
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:28, Reply)

The world it no fun without people who are different.

( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:31, Reply)

I'm still up
it's half term this week, but I have to get up early to get my car serviced
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:47, Reply)

What up caves.
Same question as to Jeffers, but with genders swapped.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 22:55, Reply)

I've only had 4 boyfriends
3 are lovely (perhaps slightly mental in a good way) people who are still friends to varying degrees. The other I married. He was/is proper mental in a subtle habitual liar/conniving and selfish kind of a way.

So, not really enough to gereralise
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:00, Reply)

Thing is...
I can't see my self getting involved with someone with out at least a history of mental interestingness, how could they ever understand me, it would feel oddly like paedophilia. I think just someone who had had none of the experiences I had had, who had had a vanilla life, what would we have in common?
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:08, Reply)

surely you are something beyond your mentalness?
find someone just a bit mental in a good way instead, maybe? Normals are dull
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:09, Reply)

Well, yes, I'm now thinking I need some one with the history, but who is past the majority of their problems, as I think I am.
This seems a bit rare though.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:11, Reply)

But that's just what you think
being a nutter doesn't make someone interesting or more valid. In fact it generally makes them more selfish and narrower minded
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:10, Reply)

Maybe I'm phrasing it badly.
I'd not look for a nutter, but I think I'd find it hard to relate to someone who had no experience, first or second hand of some of the stuff I've been through, or watched others go through. They weren't there man, they weren't there.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:13, Reply)

They'll have their own problems
and as long as you look for those issues in people, all of the attendant ones will always come with it
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:15, Reply)

Maybe.
Maybe it's just a matter of life experience. I feel I've packed a fair bit in, and while I can be childish as hell, sometimes I feel old before my years.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:18, Reply)

I think most people feel that though

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:20, Reply)

Meh, you're probably right.
still not attracted to vanillas.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:22, Reply)

What constitutes a vanilla
in this sense at least?
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:23, Reply)

It's hard to define.
It's a feeling I have, something about not seeing the darker side of things. Maybe I'me inventing distinctions where there are none and every body has suffered their own stuff, what do I know I'm in a philosophical mood and way out of practice. I feel bad for my friend.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:40, Reply)

I think the idea is not to go for nutters in the first place

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:03, Reply)

It's a nice theory, but I always do.
it's more about explaining reality at this point that changing it.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:09, Reply)

I'm still awake and likely to be for a bit
I think tonight is the first really cold night that is going to hurt my feet
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:05, Reply)

Have a hot toddy!

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:06, Reply)

I'm tempted
my feet are really rather hurting me.
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:07, Reply)

I'm sure you can walk as far as the honey, whisky, lemon and ginger.

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:08, Reply)

hot water bottle?
Or is thayjust too fucking obvious and I should shut up?
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:09, Reply)

It's a good idea :)
but won't do much for the pain just for the cold
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:11, Reply)

You need a cuddle

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:12, Reply)

Like a human size hot water bottle

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:13, Reply)

*Phones Mister HumanSizedHotWaterbottle*
*Yeah mate, It's Jeff, pop round Amberl's for half hour, eh? Cool, Cheers mate!*
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:16, Reply)

He'll be there in 10.

( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:16, Reply)

Excellent
that'll cheer me right up. Hope they like watching House
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:19, Reply)

I thought the pain was causing(or at least exasperating) the cold.

( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:14, Reply)

it's the temperature change
not just the cold. So another steep temperature change will just make it worse
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:15, Reply)

Gotcha. I'll shut up and stop teaching granny to suck eggs.
Interestingly men tend to offer (and look for) practical advice, hence Jeff's an my response, women, on the other hand generally offer and expect a more emotionally comforting response to such things. /stuff I heard somewhere.

In light of this: That must be rotten, hope it gets better soon *proffer internet hug*
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:21, Reply)

I've heard that
not sure if it's true. Anyone who knows me, knows my first reaction is to be practical and suggest stuff. Thanks anyway!
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:24, Reply)

Some women can have typically masculine traits (my frind who is hurting is one)
and some men can express feminine traits (despite my obvious and excessive masculinity I have been told I am in touch with my feminine side more times than I am altogether comfortable with).
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:42, Reply)

Yup obvious and excessive ;)

( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:43, Reply)

Damn right, but I keep it in my pants most of the time to avoid making horses feel inferior.

( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:45, Reply)

I had a wander round oxford today and thought of you
how's things, apart from sore feet?
(berk, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:11, Reply)

Not bad thanks
think I'm becoming a tad down, but nothing too bad. Enjoy your wander?
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:13, Reply)

yes, oxford is lovely
and it was all sunshiney and stuff. I had no idea what any of the buildings were, though. Except the camera and trinity, obviously.
still no joy at all on the job front? not even temp stuff?
(berk, Sun 23 Oct 2011, 23:18, Reply)