That's because honesty is much more effective
If you try to let somebody down gently it'll hurt them all the more. If my ex had just told me she'd got bored of me and was moving on because she had a better offer, I would have shrugged and been happy for her.
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:46, 2 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

^This
Sometimes the most damage is done by trying to not hurt someone.
( girlinthehole, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:47, Reply)

Yeah but you can say stuff like "I don't want to be in this relationship anymore, I'm not happy"
which is honest, but the hurtful thing was the 'I don't fancy him anymore', which he probably could have done without.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:53, Reply)

I disagree
You have to be harsh or the message won't get through, if you don't fancy someone anymore it's better to tell them that and hurt them short-term than leave them thinking there might still be a chance
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:55, Reply)

More often than not you can tell when someone is lying about why they don't want to see you anymore.
This means you're left with sleepless nights wondering what it really was that was the problem.
( girlinthehole, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:57, Reply)

I had to break up with the guy I was seeing before Wiggy
because we literally were just too different, we didn't have anything in common and he thought all my gothy stuff was a phase. However, it sounded like such bollocks when I said it.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:59, Reply)

I suppose so
I don't bother with stuff like "I'm not ready for a relationship" or that kinds of bollocks but I do like to sugar coat things a little, otherwise I would have said to him "you're really patronising and close-minded, go back to your inbred family and stay in this tiny insular little village until you die in the house you were born in, whilst I go and actually have a life, without you". But that probably would have been a bit mean.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:57, Reply)

That would have worked for me
but your body probably would have been found in my wheelie bin a few weeks after I'd tried to run away to the Maldives
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:00, Reply)

he would have fed me to his cows

( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:03, Reply)

^ this ^

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:58, Reply)

The best way to break up with someone is to act like a dick enough so they feel compelled to take the first step.

( Undulating Tentacles of Love getting fun down to acceptable levels, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 10:59, Reply)

It really isn't.

(berk, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:01, Reply)

Worked for me everytime.

( Undulating Tentacles of Love getting fun down to acceptable levels, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:01, Reply)

Or shag their sister/mum/dog

( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:02, Reply)

the guy I'm talking about above did actually shag my sister
he's the one who said we had the same body.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:03, Reply)

Family-sexy-time-lolz

(PenguinOfDeath is Scottish, and most likely angry, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:08, Reply)

This is particularly effective if the sister/mum/dog is dead.

(lkjshaglkasjdhglkhjz lkcvl; g;aodh;owih, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:05, Reply)

*seethes*
stoppit.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:03, Reply)

If you don't like the way I'm acting maybe you should split up with me?

( Undulating Tentacles of Love getting fun down to acceptable levels, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:26, Reply)

That's what you want isn't it?!

( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 12:00, Reply)

You are
my BF AICMFP
(Purpledoris I've got afeckin' job, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:33, Reply)

b3ta.com/questions/offtopic/post798374
( Undulating Tentacles of Love getting fun down to acceptable levels, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:34, Reply)

I don't think I've ever been hurt by breaking up with someone.
I donno if it's 'cus I expect that from the begining, or it's 'cus I'm cold hearted in that department or it's 'cus if I think that's for the best; then it is.
( G/PP 💩💩💩💩💩&#128, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:04, Reply)

I'm always wracked with guilt
even if we've only been on one date.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 22 Jul 2010, 11:11, Reply)