it's their responsibility to stay faithful to their other half
this only counts if you do not know the other woman.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:38, 2 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

We had sex in her parents house : /

( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:42, Reply)

good lord

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:42, Reply)

Really rude sex.

( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:43, Reply)

well go on and tell us about it then

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:44, Reply)

No but can I just remind everyone how lacking in self esteem I am and moreso back then.

( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:45, Reply)

How is that lacking in self esteem?
Having "rude" sex? Sex is sex.
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:47, Reply)

I bet it was up the shitpipe

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:48, Reply)

Across the dining room table. In front of her parents. And her.

( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:49, Reply)

Pfft!

( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:51, Reply)

If I had self-esteem I would have remembered that i was better than him and good enough to find someone else.
I tend to grasp at anyone who'll have me.
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:49, Reply)

I don't see how this means you lack self esteem.
Did you have a good time with him?
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:53, Reply)

He was a cunt.
Had I thought better of myself then I would have stayed the hell away from him.
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:56, Reply)

sorry, I don't know why I'm arguing with you, you're the only one that knows how you feel
hope you're in a better place my love :)
( Lisette von Falcon, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:57, Reply)

Oh it was a long long time ago.
I am : )
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 14:01, Reply)

Elbows on the table?

(PsychoChomp, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:44, Reply)

hahaha

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:47, Reply)

They were talking with their mouths full too

(Bazongaloid, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:48, Reply)

hahahahaha

(PsychoChomp, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:43, Reply)

nope
as a grown up, you have responsibility, too. Hence why I would like to have sent gone off fishfingers to the bitch who my husband was fucking.
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:45, Reply)

I'd never touch a married man with a ten foot bargepole.
Even if it was Jeff Bridges.
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:47, Reply)

but you think marriage is balls
so as do someone's fella, you may as well be comfortable doing someone's husband.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:49, Reply)

I know it's the same thing but I was flattered by his attention.
Low self-esteem.
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Well I know you'd do neither now
But I'm just saying it's not much different doing a huband or a fella, especially if you don't hold marriage too highly anyway.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:52, Reply)

I think had I been the only one he wanted to cheat on her with then I would have declined.
He even cheated on her with her cousin. He then dumped me stating how he wanted to start being faithful to her and then took up with some other daft bugger in the same office.
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:54, Reply)

I'm not on about you and that fella
I just thought the difference between married and not-married was a bit irrelevant in the scheme of things
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:55, Reply)

You have a point.
What I should say is that I wouldn't go near anyone else's fella ever again.


Except maybe Monty, Lab, Al and DJtrialprice
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:59, Reply)

not met me yet ;-)
speaking of which, are you going to be at the Crackfaceceilidhbash in December?
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 14:03, Reply)

haha!
Sorry I forgot about you.

Edit: I am : )
( girlinthehole, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 14:05, Reply)

splendid!

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 14:20, Reply)

Yes, but what if he didn't tell you?
You can't be held responsible for something you didn't know.
(berk, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:51, Reply)

Well, I suppose having said that, I don't have much conviction for it anymore
I have been the girl who someone was cheating on their girlfriend withand it was annoying that no one blames the cheating bloke, so I always maintained that it was the cheater who was at fault and not (entirely) the third party.

However (soppiness coming up) at the age I came to that conclusion I hadn't had a proper relationship and so I think that now if it happened I would feel just as betrayed by the other woman. However, the bloke is still 90% to blame for cheating.

But I wouldn't actively pursue another woman's man ever again. So not worth the hassle.
( Kitty v1.0 desperately naive, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:50, Reply)

Not worth the hassle?
And a downright nasty thing to do as well!
Yes, okay, you weren't the one telling lies to his girlfriend but only taking 10% blame is getting off a bit lightly!
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:54, Reply)

I can't make a judgement on this
because I was with someone when I got together with Mrs V, however I was pretty certain from the offing that Mrs V and I would have something pretty significant...

not been involved in any kind of cheating otherwise. It'd fuck me right up if it happened now though I think.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:56, Reply)

it'll break you into a million pieces

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:58, Reply)

it really would

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:59, Reply)

As I recall you and the lady before were on the rocks and you did the right thing and ended it
You weren't 'shagging' behind your bird's back' in that sense or for very long.
And she did not deliberately persue you as far as I know.
I always think it best to end one before going into another, but look, you're still together and you're getting married.
i think setting out to 'steal' someone is well mean.
( Roota zweeeeeoooooowm, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:59, Reply)

not on the rocks so to speak
but I was slowly coming to the conclusion that our futures weren't compatible.

Didn't have sex with Mrs V until after breaking up with the ex either.

I would have broken it off immediately but we were all doing our finals and stuff at uni, so thought best not for the time being.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 14:02, Reply)

both are to blame, I agree
she was just all whiney and 'just think how I feel'. My reply was that she was a grown up and knew what she was doing. silly cow
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Thu 28 Oct 2010, 13:57, Reply)