Does anyone here suffer depression or bipolar disorder. I am doing a bit of research. Could you gaz me?
If not you can either a) ignore this or b) place a humorous joke as a reply. Lovely.
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Edit: And you might want to check Off-topic. It's got all the QOTWers, they'll be pleased to offload their personal tragedies.
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I have a few questions and stuff.
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They wax lyrical about how depressed they've been and all that shit. I think most people have had brushes with depression/self-harm/feeling blue. Depends if you mean Depression, or depression.
If you mean Depression, diagnosed, there's lots of forums out there. Given the propensity of b3ta to go off on one and get all melodramatic, I'm not sure it's the best place to ask, personally.
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Can you stop depression in others becoming Depression, or is that just wishful thinking?
I know, it's a heavy thread. I'll check offtopic. Thanks for the response, much appreciated.
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Diognosing a 'friend' (is she fit by the way?), is going to make him or her shut off from you. Nobody wants their mate turn into a doctor, they just want the world to fuck off for a little while. Don't do any kind of "But it's not so bad, you've got XYZ good with your life", it dosn't work that way.
The best thing you can do is call them out for a drink or two, or get them to do something they like. Engage them in coversation that they're interested in and let them forget their worries for a few hours. If things get emotionaly hot'n'heavy, the don't say much more than 'yup, yeah', *nod*, sure.". Tell them about a 'mate' who went to the docs to get some pills, and that s/he should give it a go, "worst case, give them to me, they're quite nice.".
But the worst thing you can do is diognoise him/her, nobody wants to hear that shit unless you have certificate on the wall.
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But don't worry Gigly, rather than offering advice or contradicting what I've said, let's just call me an idiot and be done with it.
(, Wed 24 Jun 2009, 12:24, archived)
see also: rape
(, Wed 24 Jun 2009, 12:32, archived)
so you're mentally ill too?
what helped you out the most? music therapy or art therapy? did you try that CBT thing etc etc
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Not sayin' you did really, but I kept most of that part of my life offline.
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I imagine you're drugged up to the eyeballs now on happy pills though
which padded cell did they give you?
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It's not a pissing contest to see how fucked up you are.
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It's not a fit bird, sorry. It's actually my dad.
I'm going to have a gentle chat with him and see if I can get something done. I'm also wondering if there is a bit of a placebo effect in place when getting help (for anything, not just depression), and even a placebo right now would really help (till the meds kick in).
Thanks again - this is really, really appreciated and now I know what 'line' to take I feel a lot less lost. I don't want him to feel I am patronising him or forcing him to admit something he hasn't admitted to himself.
(, Wed 24 Jun 2009, 12:18, archived)
Get one of his mates to do the above, he can't talk to you about all sorts of things.
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my mum takes it
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I was a little surprised at how much effect it has as a herb.
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He's on loooads of tablets for various things. But if it's OK for him I am going to get some.
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He needs to see his doctor if he's going to start taking that stuff. Everything interacts with everything else when it comes to meds, throwing something else in might fuck it up.
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does this count?
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and I want to approach it the right way, rather than offend them.
But it's OK, I wasn't *forcing* anyone to Gaz me.
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I thought someone on here might be able to help, and indeed I've had some really helpful advice on what to do.
I wasn't sure what the extremes of bipolarity are, and no, it's not obvious to me. Sorry.
(, Wed 24 Jun 2009, 12:09, archived)
if your friend is not seeking help there is little you can do, unless they are suicidal, then you may have a chance to get them sectioned
(, Wed 24 Jun 2009, 12:12, archived)
it's actually pretty difficult to get someone sectioned
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If you think your friend has a problem, I would take a step back and try and work out if meddling is going to help. If you're feeling low, maybe you don't want someone in your business. As their friend, I would suggest simply making yourself as avaiable as possible to your mate, offering a beer or a coffee whenever they need it.
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Efficiency is your bed fellow on the road to well-being.
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offer a depressant or a stimulant, maybe some speed balling into the vein too
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That wasn't my point and you know it.
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See, I've tried all the regular stuff, going shopping, to a movie, out for dinner but they are getting less and less involved and more and more 'down'. They only have me and I feel a great responsibility. I think they'd freak out if I got a Doctor involved.
I've heard St John's Wort can help lift the mood so I might broach this with him in some way.
(, Wed 24 Jun 2009, 12:11, archived)
grab them by the collar, touch noses and shout "SNAP OUT OF IT YOU EMO CUNT OR I'L PUNCH YOUR FUCKING FACE OFF!"
See? Told you I could help.
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It'll probably be better to leave them alone to wallow in self-loathing. They'll probably come round eventually, so let them know your there throughout but without pushing them too much.
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Also, I think tennis scoring is the most stupid scale of scoring, it makes no sense.
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Based on Love!?!?!?
I hate Tennis. So much grunting. So uncouth.
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but I like the deuce/two clear points to win the set thing, yes I do
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Yet I'm not depressed. Perhaps I need a new home!
(, Wed 24 Jun 2009, 12:15, archived)
hang around there long enough and you just might
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Insert Penis Joke
Insert Insertion Joke
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It's for research too.
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it's that he knows his target audience very well
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