my friends and i don't really insult each other as such
i have to say, i think silence is the most offensive weapon. ESP after a date/sex, then it is a total killer. my friend is now up to her 20th internetdatingboy and i keep getting texts that say things like "why would you spend all night flirting with someone and snog them and then say you'll call - and never call? why do this? why? why not just wish them a polite goodbye so they KNOW YOU AREN'T GOING TO CALL? and it's more rejection for me, oh god, i can't take it..."

i have no answer for this, so i normally resort to "they're all the same" or "what a total cunt". i am thinking of putting them on auto-complete.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:00, 4 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

you could suggest to her that her needy-desperateness is leaking out all over the floor.
;-)
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:03, Reply)

...or give her my number?

( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)

ha, she lives in didsbury
she'd make mincemeat out of you though, you're only 22...
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:07, Reply)

While that may be true, I'd thoroughly enjoy it!

( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:22, Reply)

you'd never walk straight again

( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:29, Reply)

Worth it.

( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:32, Reply)

she's really not like that, if anything she is scarily independent and fierce
she does have a fair whinging point though. there is absolutely nothing wrong with not fancying someone, that happens to EVERYBODY all the time. however, there is everything wrong with not fancying someone, but thinking "fuck it, might as well try and get my dick wet for the evening" or acting as if you are interested when actually you have no intention of ever calling them again - but saying "i'll call you" because you think it's easier than saying goodbye. this kind of feeble shit is maddening!

unfortunately, i've been through this with her so many times that i am now sick of it...
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)

I like it better when they run away.
You know where you stand then.
( girlinthehole, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:08, Reply)

it is a fair point
people are cowards though, that's why.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:09, Reply)

it's a really horrible thing to do
i mean FFS, i have no intention of picking up the phone when you call if you were dull/shit in the sack, but it would be nice to be able to have the option to ignore you!!!!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:17, Reply)

I don't see any difference between saying you will call and not
and not taking their call to be honest.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:19, Reply)

That's because there isn't.
Everyone just likes to be the one in control of the rejection, and if you can dress that up as "all women/men (delete as applicable) are utter SHITS" then all the better for the anger management.
( the mighty badger Aphrodite, on a bar stool, by your side, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:23, Reply)

precisely
which leads us back to saying you will call and not. Easy way out of not being rejected yourself.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:25, Reply)

i was joking, vippers
therein lies the difference.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:25, Reply)

I bet there was a grain of truth in it
and we weren't necessarily talking about you in particular.

The unfortunate thing is that as much as it sucks, it happens. Not everyone will do it. There is an element of needing to man the fuck up. It is not the fault of every man that she may have low self-esteem brought on by this, it is unlikely that any of them set out to bring her down.

Getting that worked up about it, and doing what seems like settling for someone awful because all the others she's been out with have been shit is a bit desperate in my view.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:32, Reply)

It's a fair point though.

( Lisette von Falcon, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)

If you're getting bored of it
arrange a date with me. I'll put on such a display of breathless arrogance and treat her with such emotional cruelty that she'll stop questioning you and live a life of miserable chastity.

Happy to help.
( Kroney, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)

Wait, what?
You can get away with dating/pulling and then never speak to them again?!
( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:06, Reply)

no
you might think you have got away with it. but she is likely to tell all her friends/your mutual friends, so your chances of fucking any of them/their friends immediately reduce to ZERO.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:08, Reply)

HA! 'Reduce', good one! :p

( Labia Majora You keep on talking but it makes no sense at all, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:09, Reply)

*trigger fingers*

( sporters I’m sincerely gratitude to you, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:12, Reply)

Just go back to you mate with the comforting words that are...
HUGZ4U LOL
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:07, Reply)

^this.
It's foolproof. (Assuming you're happy with the possibility of her never speaking to you again, of course...)
(LongJohnBaldry, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:08, Reply)

as a consequence of the other 19 fuckwits
she is now going on a 4th date with dr hug.

they have driven her to it.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:13, Reply)

maybe it's for the best

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:14, Reply)

Dr Hug?
Maybe I missed the backstory to this chap...but he sounds like some of children's cartoon character gone horribly, creepily wrong.
(LongJohnBaldry, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:15, Reply)

a loser from the internet
who puts "hug" about 50 times per text.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:26, Reply)

a loser from the Internet?
Have there ever been any winners from the Internet?
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:29, Reply)

very
good

point
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:31, Reply)

Sweet sweet desperation
Where would I be without you
( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:15, Reply)

a spotty bespectacled virgin
posting on the internet?

oh.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:17, Reply)

I'm not a proud man
if it works, it works. POWERHUGZ!!!11!!1
( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:20, Reply)

cockgaz
then i'll let you know if it has worked or not.

or re-post it on here. depends what mood i'm in.
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:25, Reply)

He's camera shy :(

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:29, Reply)

somehow
i don't believe you really tried hard enough!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:31, Reply)

He starts crying and it all gets a bit messy to be honest.

( Light In Chains maker of the ikea sofa, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:33, Reply)

But from what you've told us of Dr hug
being buggered to death with a red hot rusty poker would be better than settling down with him...
(berk, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:20, Reply)

yes
yes i agree. his texts drive me insane and i am only third party to them!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Mon 17 Jan 2011, 15:24, Reply)