Bad memory
What do you do when your partner has such a bad memory that forgets any plan he's done with you and re-plans everything with his friends, without asking you, and you suddenly realize you don't have plans for a 4 days weekend?

I think I'm going to cry.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 14:51, 41 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

This doesn't help at all
So I apologise.

But:

4 day weekend with nothing to do would be a dream for me right now :)
( whenanimalsattackhumans clad in global hypercolour, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 14:53, Reply)

withdraw
all sexytiem rights for the following year and point out you arrenged this at the same time as arranging your weekend he has subsequently fucked up.

then throw a few plates of food at him.
(Halfy By light alone, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 14:54, Reply)

I am that man.
Provide him with proof or un-deniable reminders of the plans that were already made with you. He ^should^ revert to your plans and apologise for his error.

(I've learned to suffer the indignity of checking with the missus before I agree to anything with my mates)

If he refuses to honour your agreement, just accept the fact that he'd rather spend time with his friends and take whatever course of action you feel neccessary.
(Greencloud Wanted to go fishing on, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 14:56, Reply)

I always
double check with the mrs before making any concrete plans.

I'm so under the thumb.
( Bazongaloid, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 14:59, Reply)

I agree with all of the above
You should come first.

If you don't (without good reason - family commitments, someone's about to die, etc.) then you have to re-evaluate your situation.

Which means throw plates or dump him.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:01, Reply)

I've reminded him
word by word our conversation (I'm not a witch, I just have a VERY good memory). He doesn't remember, but he apologizes. However, he's bought tickets to see his friends and won't change them, so I imagine you're right and I have to accept he prefers his friends (we're just starting, you know...)

About the sextime... I like it too much to be a whole year without it. I'll miss it more than him probably.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:02, Reply)

@chickenlady
There has to be a bit of give and take too mind. Like if for example your favourite band were playing their biggest ever concert in the UK on the same say as someone you didn't really know that well was getting married and you went to the wedding then that should let you off not going somewhere else next time shouldn't it?

Not that I can imagine that situation occurring or anything.
( Bazongaloid, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:03, Reply)

Are you talking about me?

life is so boring if it's all planned out, go with the flow, live each day etc.

if you commit to something in advance then you'll be bitter if something better comes up in between!
( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:05, Reply)

Al,
Going to someone's wedding instead of a gig definitely gives you a free pass.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:07, Reply)

The story is longer
I'm living in Sweden and he's in Manchester. I'm travelling back next Wednesday to be with him until Sunday, and he's travelling on Friday morning to be with his friends until Sunday.

That leaves me with a long weekend on my own in Manchester.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:08, Reply)

Can I use you
as an independent expert during my next set of negotiations?
( Bazongaloid, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:09, Reply)

Oh, that puts an entirely different spin on things
That's really shit. Not to be too judgemental but you ought to cunt him in the fuck for that.
( Bazongaloid, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:10, Reply)

Under the thumb
There's a lad I know who gets called Milky Mike, cos he's so dominated by his girlfriend.

The Milky bit refers to him being 'UHT' (Under Helen's Thumb)
( Boss Keloid Got your mother's maiden name tattooed on my arm, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:11, Reply)

Hang on...
So you're free from Friday 31st til 2nd November?

There's a b3ta bash in manchester on the 1st Nov (saturday)
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:14, Reply)

Yes
I think I don't have excuses for not going now...

I'll see you there, 5pm at Salisbury, isn't it?
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:15, Reply)

Ok, thats shit bin him.

If you live in Sweden there must be a plethora of nice blond outdoorsy types.

At the risk of sounding ghey and sweeping, I've never met a scandinavian who wasn't just lovely!
( Naked Ape call me Caitlyn, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:19, Reply)

I'm meeting tonight
a very sexy Swedish friend, and believe me I'm tempted.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:27, Reply)

Yes!
Yes it is.

I'm going to try and get a picture of myself with the event organiser on friday, so you might know who you're looking for!
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:28, Reply)

I saw you already
In facebook. I think I'll recognize you as long as you don't change your hair colour.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:32, Reply)

Sorry!
That's an old picture!

I look like this now - photos-f.ak.facebook.com/photos-ak-sf2p/v252/18/112/618675545/n618675545_1169373_1200.jpg (the bloke)
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:33, Reply)

i hate
people who ditch their mates for their boyfriend or girlfriend.

but if you are making the effort to fly to manchester, he should be postponing his trip. hello mr aberracion, tickets are transferrable.

alternatively, he should be taking you with him.

teach him a lesson, cancel your own flights!
( rachelswipe with a fork, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:35, Reply)

It's the birthday of his best friend
who lives 2 hours from Manchester by bus. He's celebrating it on Sat night, so I thought he would be traveling there on Friday evening at least, back on Sunday. But no, he's going first thing on Friday, after I cried because he wanted to go from Thursday morning.

He forgot to tell me about the birthday. And he thinks his friends will find amusing if I go (I don't really want to go as they're all old friends and I think I'd be just disturbing them)
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:45, Reply)

For this time chalk it down to bad luck.
If it happens again then dump him like a tonne of bricks.
( girlinthehole, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:50, Reply)

@BGB
I'll follow your advice. I hope it doesn't happen again.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 15:53, Reply)

I can't see
why he wouldn't take you along. If there his friends they should want to meet his lovely swedish girlfried. And why would you disturb them? Are they all 14, do they think girls are smelly or something?
( Bazongaloid, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:09, Reply)

eh?
if dude cares for you, he should invite you to meet his mates unless you're a total pain in the arse. Are you a total pain in the arse?

Also, if you are FLYING to see him and he forgot, he's a fucking maggot.

Fuck him.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:10, Reply)

I'm not a pain in the arse
You know what? I think I'm going to have the best weekend in my life (even if I don't, I'll tell him that)

Well, maybe not, but I'm going to the bash and I'm going to get very drunk. Fact.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:13, Reply)

atta girl!
make the fucker suffer for being a dick.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:14, Reply)

You should
have some sexy tiemh with a nice b3tan and tell your man to fuck off before you leave.
( Bazongaloid, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:16, Reply)

That's
so far out of order it's not even funny. If it was just a normal weekend thing it'd be a bit unfortunate but you're flying out there to see him. I'd have dropped my friends on that basis alone.
( Kroney, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:16, Reply)

That's fucking awful
Unless he suffers from fully diagnosed amnesia, he's a disgrace and should be thrown away like a dead pet.
( Cawl, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:22, Reply)

Well
It's the birthday of his best friend. I understand he wants to go.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:23, Reply)

But birthdays don't change
He should've know about it from the one before.
And the one before that.
And before that...

It's pretty shoddy, I feel sorry for you.
( Cawl, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:25, Reply)

es un cabron
You should definitely make him pay...
Dump him! To me it sounds like he knows exactly what he's doing.
You can't FORGET that someone is flying over to see you. It's not possible. And if it's a birthday party, one more person going would not hurt.

Officially, sorry babe, but he sounds like a coward who just can't be bothered to tell you he'd rather do other things.

¡Qué se vaya a la mierda!
(The Apeface Cherub is not a cunty-uber-cunt, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:30, Reply)

Ja!
You made me laugh there!!

He's not un cabron... just a bit bad with these things. I don't expect him to improve, but then he makes me laugh a lot.

I'm feeling a lot better after this. I thought I was being a possessive witch.

Thanks.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 16:50, Reply)

Un beso
Don't forget to keep us updated!
Enjoy your long weekend
xxx
(The Apeface Cherub is not a cunty-uber-cunt, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 17:07, Reply)

Bueno
The long weekend is the next one, but I might work until Friday, now that I have nothing better to do.

This weekend I'm meeting him in Stockholm (I didn't forget he was coming). I just don't feel like spending the weekend with him.
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 17:08, Reply)

Hej
I'd forget he was coming this weekend, and go shopping in Kista Galleria ;)
(Ethelred is watching cheese grow, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 17:32, Reply)

@ethelred
I read that as go cock shopping in Kista Galleria, due to the placement of your sig...

But come to the bash in manchester if you're home alone!
(gin'll fix it, Thu 23 Oct 2008, 17:43, Reply)

Tak
That's a good idea, but I don't have the heart to do it.

One of my boyfriends used to say that the reason he was so mean with me was because I could never get really upset with him and that I never threatened him (he was a psycho... stupid fucking bastard)
(Aberracion Life's getting very complicated, but a lot of fun., Thu 23 Oct 2008, 21:28, Reply)

Tjena!
He's a silly, silly boy. It sounds like an excuse to me. How long have you been planning the trip for? Someone doesn't just forget their girlfriend flying in for a visit. Personally, I'd consider just cancelling your flight, as long as the penalty's not too much. Besides, the weather in Manchester's shit. Mind you, Stockholm ar inte sa mycket battre just nu.
Lycka till!
--Tuqueboy
p.s. forlat for min jatte daligt svenska
(tuqueboy has been in a medically -induced coma since, Fri 24 Oct 2008, 7:00, Reply)