Well this is nothing short of awkward
Just lying in bed at the mo, as you do. With my 'boyfriend' on the floor.

With the guy who he slept with last night. Hmm.

Whats the most ridiculous situation you've ever been in? And where should i stab him 1st? Hes got some explaining to do.
(i should have joined myspace, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 12:39, 32 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

Are you not the person
who has two partners?
(Bazongaloid, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 12:47, Reply)

Nope.
That was Stimpy I think.
(Paolo Nutini's Bikini Better than Frederick Fleet's optometrist, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 12:56, Reply)

That is indeed me!
And personally, I think they both need to ejected, proferably with the help of badgers. Although I suspect this has already happened, as I am rather late to the party.
(stimpy, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 17:09, Reply)

Nope
Just the one. None soon i would think
(i should have joined myspace, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 12:57, Reply)

Kick them both out
then throw his clothes out the window along with all his belongings, pray for rain and then go to the pub.

What a bastard...not only being unfaithful but bringing them back!

You deserve better.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:00, Reply)

That was my initial thought
but as she seems calm enough to leave them on the floor and tell us about it instead of tearing him a new one I think there may be some backstory...
If I'm wrong and you're massively upset and pissed off you have my apologies.
(Paolo Nutini's Bikini Better than Frederick Fleet's optometrist, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:04, Reply)

Maybe that's shock
I think I'd be in shock...for about five minutes and then I'd tear them both a new one or two.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:11, Reply)

You'd last a whole five minutes?
If I woke up to find my mrs with someone else, i'd have them both out in about 30 seconds.
(Bazongaloid, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:23, Reply)

It would be five minutes
because I'd be pinching myself just to make sure I was awake and not hallucinating.

Then the very large stick would come out.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:27, Reply)

I am completely devastated
But what the hell do I do/say? Its just too weird to deal with at the moment. Cant really believe its happened. Plus all our friends are here so I cant really scream at him for being bummed.
(i should have joined myspace, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:33, Reply)

Oh. Shit. I'm sorry.
In that case you've got a shedload of self restraint. A quick "outside - now" followed by an open-air bollocking/questioning might be the best idea. If your friends know what went on I'm sure they'll understand.
Then maybe take chickenlady's advice.
(Paolo Nutini's Bikini Better than Frederick Fleet's optometrist, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:51, Reply)

Was he definitely the reciever?
Because that's a bit weird.
(Bazongaloid, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 14:32, Reply)

But in response to your initialy question
i.e. what do you do? I would have it out with him right now regardless of who is there. If he thought he might be gay while being in a straight relationship there are ways and means of dealing with the situation, bringing home a bloke to your girlfriends place is not the way to deal with it so make sure everyone knows what a cunt he is. Gay or Straight, cheating is cheating so tell him to fuck right off.
(Bazongaloid, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 14:35, Reply)

^^This

( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 18:13, Reply)

The most ridiculous situation I've been in?
Probably the time I glanced up in a nightclub and saw my girlfriend getting off with my ex. Do I watch? Do I go over? Try and take part? Do I pretend it didn't happen? Do I sit in front of them rubbing my thighs, drooling?
And as for you, I'd hold back on the stabbing for a while. Did you know he was bi-curious before today?
(Paolo Nutini's Bikini Better than Frederick Fleet's optometrist, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 13:00, Reply)

were they drunk at the time? cause i would count that as extenuating circumstances

( willenium Fist bump for verification, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 14:03, Reply)

Want to go camping?
I have booze.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 14:25, Reply)

That's true actually
Or, if the other guy just gave him the come on really obviously, in that situation it wouldn't be fair to blame your boyfriend, he's just doing what men do naturally.
(Bazongaloid, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 14:31, Reply)

Rubbish
"just doing what men do naturally."

Men (or women for that matter) are not naturally cheating bastards who can't keep it in their pants.

Not even you are like that MrTheGeordie.
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 18:15, Reply)

Having sex whilst Im in the room is not natural.
Its damn rude for a start off.
(i should have joined myspace, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 18:19, Reply)

Now that's the biggest understatement ever!
Rude, unnecessary, unpleasant and downright WRONG!
( chickenlady b3ta's very own Elizabeth Taylor, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 21:34, Reply)

People who cheat on their partners deserve to be hung, drawn and quartered
...oh, feck
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 14:59, Reply)

Unless they're cute and cuddly


Mind you, you're still fucked.
(Bazongaloid, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 15:06, Reply)

Too right I am
but I just noticed the 'drunken extrenuating circumstances' up there^, so I could be ok.

Maybe next time I'll try being fucked by a bloke though, you have to be open to new experiences
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 15:08, Reply)

The difference is though
he was drunk enough to get bummed, which means he could have been outrageously drunk. You were sober enough to still get it up, so you're still in the wrong.
(Bazongaloid, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 15:14, Reply)

Ouch
You would almost have a point there if it weren't for two things:

1. I get a hardon if the wind changes direction, no matter how drunk I am.

2. I was too drunk to come, and I've never been too drunk to come before.

How drunk do you have to be to get bummed if you're a straight guy in a relationship? I'm beginning to think maybe this other guy took advantage
( Bert Monkeysex is waiting for the mods to delete him, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 15:16, Reply)

His sexuality has been hanging in the balance for some time
And this other guy has had a girlfriend for two years. I waited until they got up then I just left.

Im going back afterwards. I think we need to talk.......
(i should have joined myspace, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 17:19, Reply)

So - how has this played out then?
Are you ok?

Has he even apologised?
(Shippy likes linebreaks and doesn't care what you think, Sat 24 Oct 2009, 23:33, Reply)

I havent spoken to him
Tried to give him a ring before, phone is off but I know for a fact that guy has guy has gone home.

Sigh. Any tips on what the fuck to do are much appreciated.
(i should have joined myspace, Sun 25 Oct 2009, 0:04, Reply)

Well he sounds like a prize cunt and no mistake
remember that revenge is a dish best served cold.

I would be inclined to find him and ask him what the fuck he thought he was doing. I can't believe you didn't say anything at the time.

I'm not normally one for revenge but I think you have justification here. Between us all we can come up with something.
( Mrs Entity is in hiding., Sun 25 Oct 2009, 0:18, Reply)

Well, this is what I understad of the situation:
You have had a boyfriend for a length of time, I don't know how serious you are.

He has some issues with his sexuality.

You two were at a party and whilst you were there he let/invited a guy to bum him in the same room as you.




So, unless otherwise explicitly stated, sleeping with anyone else is absolutely not on. There's no respect there and no recognition of boundaries. Knowingly doing it in the same room as you is inexcusable and I'd be very wary about making excuses based on whatever chemicals he'd taken or how drunk he was.

Assuming that is the situation and if it were me, I don't think I could ever forgive him. I guess I'd want an apology but I'm not sure that would make things better at all. If you don't think that's normal behaviour, then maybe it would be better to find someone who also thinks it's not normal behaviour.

Sorry for being negative, but from what I've read, I'd be all for moving on to better things as soon as possible.

Obviously talking to him is a good idea, at least to tell him how you feel. But do it when you're not raging. Maybe write a letter to get it all out beforehand and then talk when you're calmer.

Good luck, and I hope you get things sorted out for you.
(Shippy likes linebreaks and doesn't care what you think, Sun 25 Oct 2009, 20:36, Reply)

dump him
that is all.
(knackerz is skinning up, Mon 26 Oct 2009, 2:36, Reply)