So he who I have a toxic relationship with
is going skiing over New Year with a bunch of girls who have asked that I don't even drive up for NYE. I just told him I hope he gets AIDS, even though I'm sat here crying
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:17, 36 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

wow, seriously, break up with him

( Lisette von Falcon, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:20, Reply)

play that one by me again
that sounds fucked up
( willenium Fist bump for verification, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:21, Reply)

Remind us why you're with him again?

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:21, Reply)

cos i is fat & ugly
and can't get anything else
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:33, Reply)

bullshit

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:35, Reply)

oh shut it
you should have more self respect, it's better to be alone than to be with someone that will treat you this way
( Lisette von Falcon, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:39, Reply)

completely this^
men who do that to women are complete cunts and give the rest of (who are merely bastard-coated) a bad name
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:49, Reply)

Bastard-coated. I like that
With a rich flavour of shitweasel.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:51, Reply)

stolen from the inimitable Doctor Cox
"bastard-coated bastard with a creamy bastard centre"
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:52, Reply)

Christ, I missed a Scrubs reference. I'm slacking clearly.

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:56, Reply)

it's all this work you are doing
everyone knows having a regular job turns you into a twat ;-)
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:58, Reply)

Ha, like I wasn't enough of a twat when I was unemployed!
I do need to rectify the whole watching fun stuff on tv instead of medical things to educate myself because I feel like I have to.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:00, Reply)

well, I didn't want to say...
hang on, what's wrong with me?
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:03, Reply)

Woah, you've missed it now. Your chance to be an intolerable smug bastard with a side helping of cunt.
FAILBOY
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:04, Reply)

as if I need another chance at that...

( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:08, Reply)

Listen to kristine
she knows
( willenium Fist bump for verification, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:50, Reply)

^ ^ What they both said

( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:45, Reply)

'cos i is fat & ugly and can't get anything else'
Hey! there's only room for one of us on here. *laughs*
( girlinthehole, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 21:51, Reply)

today,
I am queen of fat and ugly.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:11, Reply)

Does that mean I'm the princess?
Listen hon. The whole of my thirties was one long bad hair day and I survived.
( girlinthehole, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:19, Reply)

My hair looks like shit
and I hate being in my thirties.

I am such a miserable cunt right now I can't even joke about it.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:36, Reply)

Have a hair-rufflingly good hug
* hugs *
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:47, Reply)

fight yer for it!

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:37, Reply)

leave and leave now
i stayed with an idiot for 9 years and now it's 9 years later and it's like I wasted a whole bunch of opportunities

edit: I is fat and ugly and even I got chatted up when I went out single for the first time the other night..
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:37, Reply)

Don't worry
I shall send him a message and get it all put right. Did I mention you were looking extremely hot today?

Anyway, I think that the solution to your problem can be neatly summed up in seven points.

No. 1: Get a Wife
No. 2: Get a Child
No. 3: Have an inability to pass an open (or indeed closed) recepticle containing an alcoholic beverage.
No. 4: Become highly qualified in looking at things and then get even more qualified in hitting things with spanners and overcharging old ladies
No. 5: Build your own house becuase you're so amazing.
No. 6: Be right on the internet all the time. Even when you're not on the internet.
No. 7: Look, it's christmas, and you've had a bit of a bad day, so I think something a bit stronger is in order, why not have a margarita, that's the kind of drink they would reach for in Sex and the City. In fact, why not have two. Then lets have a mojito, it's only fair, they are so very good. But lets just keep this between us yeah? I'm sure you don't want other people fussing if your feeling a bit delicate. Best if nobody else knows right?
(stolen-name/blaireau69 is a massive cunt WHOM everyone hates, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:11, Reply)

just
gaz the mods
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:15, Reply)

To quote a very wise man
"I understand what makes a woman think that any man is better than nothing. I'll just never understand what makes a woman think she's got nothing. "
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:19, Reply)

I love this.
Who is this wise man?
( Maladicta, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:51, Reply)

Jeremy Goodwin on Sportsnight
An Aaron Sorkin shortlived comedy show.

www.imdb.com/title/tt0707429/quotes
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 23:42, Reply)

What a cunt he is
but has no one else noticed how cuntish it is of the girls he's going with to say you can't come? Let 'em all be cunts together and enjoy yourself without him, I would.
( Maladicta, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:46, Reply)

I told him I hope he gets AIDS from one of them.
And yes, these girls are supposed to be my friends.
( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:49, Reply)

That's just fucking horrendous.
As much as I'm terrible at taking my own advice, sever sever sever. You don't need cuntishness like this in your life, no one does. They all deserve one another, and the bad AIDS.
( Maladicta, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:50, Reply)

Happy Fucking Christmas.

( Batshitmentalist is sane for once, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:54, Reply)

Yeah, what happened to season of goodwill and all that?
sadface.
( Maladicta, Tue 22 Dec 2009, 22:59, Reply)

I concur with everything said . . .
and to add . . .

I've been there *
The "I can't do better - he's a shit but he's all I have." The "He's nasty sometimes, but I'm sure deep down, really deep down, he cares about me . . . he's just having a little bit of fun before he settles down; he'll realize soon that I'm the one who's been waiting patiently whilst he sorts himself out."

One word: BULLSHIT

No man worth their salt needs "space", "time", "freedom" or other euphemism for "I want to fuck around" if their heart's in the right place, and if they truly care about their partner.

It hurts to realize you've invested time, effort, emotion in someone who doesn't give a shit . . . and it makes you angry when you see they aren't hurt, or grieving at all.

But when you can finally look back in pity and say to yourself "You sad, sad bastard - you've lost something, and I've gained my self-worth." Then, that's a wonderful day - life feels good again, and you look for things that make you happy . . . not resign yourself to "making do" with someone who is clearly a selfish bastard (ad adjectives as needed here).

Take the first step and tell him to fuck off, no calls, no messages, no mail, no contact. A clean break, with no chance at reconciliation. Have a couple of weeks (or more) to grieve, then take a deep breath and go out into the wonderful world and find out what makes you happy.

And good luck - you'll come out the other end with much more, though that seems very far away right now . . .

Mrs Legless - Anna

(*In the years BL: Before Legless)

Oh, and the "friends" who are with him - they aren't really friends are they? They need the boot too . . .
( Mrs Legless . . . belongs to, well, you know . . . :), Tue 22 Dec 2009, 23:21, Reply)

AGREE
No one who really cares for anyone treats them like shit. It seems to me more of a power trip than love, just like rape is more about power than sex. I don't mean to be out of line or insult you. I think from what you have written you may really care about him, but does he really care about you or does he care about his ego.

I've been treated the same way and it does really hurt but I am so glad to be free of the evil ego queen and to have found someone who cares about me as much as I care about her and doesn't use me for an ego boost or whatever else.

Take care of yourself! (You are a sweetheart).
(MichaelS wasn't picked again, Wed 23 Dec 2009, 0:10, Reply)