He could have avoided this and also saved considerably more money If he just didn't bother having a kid.
"Oh darling, lets try and reinforce our relationship to each other by putting you through grueling physical and emotional distress for 9 months, then have a room full of people watch as you shit and piss yourself while your vagina gets irreparably damaged by the wonder of childbirth and then we're left with the privilege of raising the parasite that's just climbed out of your body for at least the next 18 years, where we will have a fraction of the freedom we used to enjoy and will likely spend tens of thousands of pounds of our money clothing it and feeding it because somewhere along the line we thought that having a child would be wonderful!"
"Yes, lets."
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:10, Reply)
Probably best you don't breed then...
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Cerebus Sticky! Sticky! Stick! Stick!, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:13,
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You don't mind if I continue to breed though?
I find it quite rewarding.
Also when I get old I want someone to stop the care home staff from abusing me too much.
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Cerebus Sticky! Sticky! Stick! Stick!, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:23,
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If you don't have kids.
All that extra money would buy you some kick ass private care.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:25, Reply)
Good luck hanging onto any assets you've acquired.
You'll be selling them all to pay for it.
At least I can put the house in the kids names so it's not sold off when it's time to starting wearing underpants on my head.
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Cerebus Sticky! Sticky! Stick! Stick!, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:29,
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I don't really mind.
I can't take it with me, and it's highly likely I'll outlive my partner. I'll have no use for all my assets once I'm dead. I'll just make sure I spend as much time as possible enjoying the shit I have while I'm alive :)
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:32, Reply)
You enjoy the poo, eh?
To each their own.
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BrokenCoccyx doesn't mind if you grope on, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:47,
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Pooing is one of life's little pleasures
That everyone can enjoy, regardless of skin colour, religion or social standing.
Just look how happy this lady is, now she can poop again!
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:49, Reply)
"it's highly likely I'll outlive my partner"
Gerontophile or Murderer?
If the actual answer is something shitty, I apologise.
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monkeon schmonkeon, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 17:01,
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She suffers from SLE
Which has landed her with PCOS, Rheumatoid Arthritis and other bits and pieces so far. Chances are she'll live a normal lifespan, but she's definitely much more likely to develop a terminal disease and pop her clogs earlier than I am.
No need to apologise though, 95% of days are completely normal, plus she's a smoker so she'll probably get lung cancer before the Lupus kills her anyway :D
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 18:53, Reply)
Fingers crossed!
Not sure I'm doing 'supportive' properly.
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VicJameson : fucking internet virgins since, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 19:05,
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^will die alone and unloved
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2 Can Chunder Word to your mums, I came to prod bums, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:22,
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But at least I'll have loads of money left over to spend on a maid/carer.
And/or hookers if my wife pops her clogs before I do!
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:23, Reply)
momentofcerebus.blogspot.co.uk/2012/01/you-die-alone-unmourned-and-unloved.html
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Cerebus Sticky! Sticky! Stick! Stick!, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:24,
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Considering my partner is infertile, I think the chances of us having kids is pretty slim.
And neither of us have ever had the desire to reproduce anyway. I can barely look after myself and we've agreed that if we ever reach a point in our relationship where we're so bored that we think having a child might be the only way to salvage what's left, we should just split up.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:42, Reply)
it's not about boredom
the ideal, is that you meet someone, and your combined experiences of the world are usefull to raise, or at least start, the next generation off with a good idea of how to function and how to improve.
it's rather selfish to think that this life is just for you and what you can get out of it, and not to think "if people where a bit more X the world would be a better place" and then work really hard (and parenting is hardwork) to instill those values in someone.
now, as i said thats the ideal, and humans aren't perfect so people end up having them for all sorts of terrible reasons and imparting alsorts of horrible things... which is why it's a responsibility of the kind, the nice, and the wise to have children, to impact the damage.
now obviously if your partner is infertile you have had that stripped away from you, but to then right-off the whole thing as a product of boredom, honestly, is churlish.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 15:47, Reply)
I've felt this way ever since being introduced to the concept of reproduction.
It wasn't exactly 'stripped away' from me. If anything, it was an enormous relief to discover my partner was infertile (she had known for some time before we met) and that she shared my opinions on reproduction.
Are you really claiming that choosing to not reproduce is selfish? It's not up to the next generation to fix our wrongs. If that was the case, we'd never get anything done, because the next generation would just rely on the next.
Spend less energy on making kids and more energy on fixing the world if that's really your end game.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 16:02, Reply)
ive got a couple of ankle-biters
I say to people thinking about them: "if you really want them, have them. But if you not sure then don't because they're a fuckton of work. But once you've bought the ticket then take the ride and try and enjoy it"
I'm a scientist at heart, so I enjoy testing out behavioural theory on them and treating the whole thing as a long running experiment, which it is in a way.
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cumquat may will not be commenting further on the allegations, Fri 7 Apr 2017, 1:32,
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It's selfish not to have children and fill their minds with your own opinions?
Righto.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 17:21, Reply)
I've taught mine to hate the white man
and how to escape if you're confronted by a velociraptor (hint: They hunt in pairs)
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cumquat may will not be commenting further on the allegations, Fri 7 Apr 2017, 1:25,
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I'm not trying to convince you
taht not having a kid is something you should regret. But.
I had a fulfilling life before we had a kid. Now my son is the most amazing, interesting, puzzling, weird, cute little human and keeps me busy, entertained, wondering, happy and sometimes exasperated and sleepless.
Having a kid has meant all other things in life went on the back-burner: reading, skating, meeting friends, watching fantastic fiction. Because the responsibility to take care of my son takes precedence over and leaves little time for all the other things. But hey: its also a lot more interesting and rewarding then the other things.
Just saying. Someone should cheer for team parent in this thread.
I wish i had known it was this much fun 10 years ago, we might have had time to try for another one.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 19:25, Reply)
"Having a kid has meant all other things in life went on the back-burner: reading, skating, meeting friends, watching fantastic fiction."
This explains why my heart sinks when good friends announce they are having a kid.
They don't always go from interesting friend to dull acquaintance...
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monkeon schmonkeon, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 20:11,
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*stage whisper* HE WAS BEING SARCASTIC
or at least I hope to god he was
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Tab Hunter Make this useless process end and so, begin again, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 16:49,
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You get used to shit and puke very quickly.
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Cerebus Sticky! Sticky! Stick! Stick!, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 16:10,
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You get used to anything unpleasant pretty quickly if it happens to you every day
Prison, losing a leg...
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 16:33, Reply)
One of those can only happen twice
Unless there's been a sudden improvement in transplant technology.
(, Thu 6 Apr 2017, 17:56, Reply)
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Must feel like a hand-threesome without having to lie on them.
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Happosai _,,,,_(O ; o)_,,,, Fri 7 Apr 2017, 0:13,
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