Asking someone out - randomly
So here's the scenario(s). I live in Melbourne now/at the moment, and since I've been here I've tried to adobt a very positive 'yes I will' attitude. Not that I previously had a negative attitude, but I'm a tad lazy and probably play a tad too much Football Manager. So I figure new place, new start, let's try lots of new things and say 'yes!' a lot more, and it's going pretty well.

I went to the doctor today, nothing serious - thanks for asking, and then went to the pharmacy at the bottom of the mall to get my prescription. And who should be working there but only the hottest girl I've ever seen. I tried to to position myself so that she would serve me, but to no avail. Then, she left and the counter and when she came back I'm pretty sure she looked at me then smiled when I looked back. I'm *sure* she did.

Now, while I've been here I've very much tried to play the cheeky/charming 'hey check out my accent' card and it's worked ok, at a New Year party in particular, but I've never been very good at the approaching a random sort of chat up/meeting girls type of things, and as a result I don't go on many dates (do people even do that?). My new found 'accent confidence' has inspired me in a fuck it kind of way to go back in and ask her out or give her my number.

Questions. Girls, has this ever happened to you? Do you like it? Do I sound weird? I plan to keep it light and funny and fully expect never to go back to that shop if i'm knocked back.

Guys, ever tried it? Did it work? Any good approach ideas?

Hey, I figure if people do this sort of thing in American sitcoms all the time then it must be ok to do it in real life. I mean why would they lie to me?
(Zutroy started without you, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 2:29, 15 replies, latest was 17 years ago)

You're thinking about it too much.
If you think too hard, have a 'game plan' or script, you'll put too much pressure on yourself and, chances are, you'll screw it up.

Just do it. If you mess it up, you'll know what not to do next time.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 6:10, Reply)

Zute
just ask her out - be honest - don't be cocky. Just ask if she'd like to show you the sights (play the tourist card if you like)(on second thoughts realised that sounded very seedy, hur hur hur) or if she'd like to go for a meal somewhere.

Best of luck.
(Poppet some assembly required., Thu 5 Mar 2009, 6:28, Reply)

"Hi,
I saw you in here the other day and wondered if you'd like to go out for a drink sometime."

I was going to add,"have a pen and paper handy" but I'm showing my age there I think.
( The Light in Chains don't touch the Pope's boner, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 7:45, Reply)

If you don't try, you'll never know
just remember she'll have access to your medical records, so the time you went in with gonorrhoea might be quite entertaining to her.
( fuck shit up the best you never had, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 8:18, Reply)

Think....what is the worst that can happen.
Would you be able to cope with a knockback. If you could get over a little embarrassment then what have you to lose.
( girlinthehole, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 8:31, Reply)

She's australian
playing the accent card won't work, they think all english people are cunts.

Unless of course your welsh. But then you've got your own set of problems.
( Bazongaloid, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 8:58, Reply)

What?
Nobody told me that there were Welsh problems!
Thanks for that.
You cunts.
( Cawl, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 9:06, Reply)

Loads of Welsh problems
But they're nothing compared to the Geordie ones.
(Son of Sam-i-am We're all as mad as hatters here, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 9:32, Reply)

Al
It worked a charm when I was out there. That maybe becuase my accent is sort of 'rural' English and not the Manc or Cockney accent that the aussies tend to hear a lot.

I made a lot of sex wee with antipodean ladies during my year on the other side.
( SpikeyPickle wishes he was mabazaritchie, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 10:40, Reply)

Dunno if this will help but...
I get guys chatting me up while I'm in work sometimes and to be honest it actually makes me kinda uncomfortable. I'm trying to do my job and having random customers telling me how pretty I am just makes me feel really weird.
Obviously I don't know this girl or what she's like so she could be totally different to me..
But if there's like a pub or something you like going to you could hint how it's like "really good on Friday nights, you should go! If you do maybe I'll buy you a drink"
It isn't so forward as to make her uncomfortable if she's a bit shy but then if she is attracted to you she will find a reason to go there, whether you have exchanged numbers or not. Plus if she doesn't go, you can pretend it's because she was busy and not because you're rubbish :)
( Mellicious is made of candy, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 11:05, Reply)

That might be more to do with the fact
that a lot of young australian girls are complete hoo-ers rather than your cheeky chappy accent.

It's not just australians mind, many young english girls are equally slutty.
( Bazongaloid, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 11:06, Reply)

Rohypnol.
Whatever you do don't get it from her pharmacy.
(Tugnut Ex of this parish, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 13:25, Reply)

There's plenty of good advice in this thread but I'll add my two pence.
If you visit the pharmacy regularly, try and engage her in some sort of smalltalk each time you visit. If this smalltalk seems to carry momentum without you putting too much effort in, ask her out for a drink or to show you a sight.

Good luck!
( mistaspakkaman and the inedible shifting caterpillars, Thu 5 Mar 2009, 20:17, Reply)

Well, I'm Scottish
So that's where the accent thingy comes from. It seems to go down well here. . . (that's what she said)

And lots of good points there, because a) yes I admit I've probably over thought it too much now b) probably missed by 'came back in at random' window and should have went back in the same day c) wonder if yes it's a weird thing to randomly ask someone in a shop out and it may make her uncomfortable, so I think I'll d) buy all my pharmaceutical needs from there from now on and try and strike up a conversation.

That could end in disaster of course. My plan I think is to casually browse some of their products (laxatives, condoms, lubricants, 'erect-o-max.' not really) and then try and strike up a conversation and see where it goes. They're all vey friendly over here, especially the shop assistants, so it's quite easy to get the 'lost tourist needing a guided tour' angle into the chat.

Anyway, cheers! I'll post progress, if there is any.
(Zutroy started without you, Fri 6 Mar 2009, 0:15, Reply)

I think you should take
the 'Scottish ex-pat who fancies you a bit and would like a date' angle.

You don't have to trick people into going out with you, unless you're just trying to get in her knickers. Or really want to see the sights. Or you're really very ugly.
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Fri 6 Mar 2009, 6:19, Reply)