I've got a date on Friday.
A lovely lady is going to cook me dinner, having suggested I go over to her's for dinner and a dvd.

She said, 'I'll cook the food, you bring the film'

So.. what movie can you recommend for a 30something to take to another 30somethings house for dinner - possibly leading to a bit of nookie.

All film suggestions will be referenced against IMDB - so don't be fooled into thinking 'lesbian's what murder after fucking' is going to wash with me if you suggest its some sort of romcom.

Mullered
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 13:55, 53 replies, latest was 16 years ago)

I've seen that film
rather shit it was.

Any particular genre? Or something "romanticy"
(bamboozled Can hear you getting fatter, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 13:57, Reply)

Wall-E

( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 13:57, Reply)

Little Miss Sunshine
A feel good happy film. One of my favs.
(The Archduke of South London I'm in your Girlfriend eating her organs, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 13:58, Reply)

Debbie Does Dallas
Go on, mix nostalgia and irony...

/coat
(Bicycle Repairman "you're also a bit of a wanker", Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:00, Reply)

The new bond film.
You get to watch the car chases and she can oggle Daniel Craig plus there's always a bit of slap and tickle in a bond film to whet your appetites.

Or

Zac and Miri make a porno?
( girlinthehole, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:05, Reply)

Take more than one
and let her choose, then if she hates it she can't blame you.
(PsychoChomp, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:11, Reply)

CASABLANCA

(Fuckpig "That's not even a pound a midget.", Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:11, Reply)

Thing is..
I don't know her that well.

We got talking last week when we had some inter-department night out and we've been e-mailing these last couple of days.

Whilst everything is flirty and warm at the moment, I don't want to nause things up by bringing along either a shit film, or a film I'll love and she'll hate.

She seems like a bit of a laugh - not quite a geezer bird, but along those lines.

I was thinking Kez - but then I thought maybe the grim north and the depressing tale of a boy and his pigeon (or whatever it is) might not give out the right signals.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:14, Reply)

Lars and the real girl (contains spoilers)
Its about a guy living in a tiny community in the middle of nowhere who buys a lifelike latex doll because he's lonely and then introduces her to his friends and family as if she's real , now I know it sounds bad but its beautifully filmed ,funny without going for the obvious jokes , poignant and deals with issues like acceptance and communication plus he gets a human shag at the end .
( horace wimp needs more than 49 characters to fully express hi, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:15, Reply)

Dogma.
That is all.
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:21, Reply)

Hmmm...
Shaun of the Dead is always good. But I think everyone has seen that.
( Cawl, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:29, Reply)

Cheech and Chong's Next Movie
.
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:29, Reply)

"bit of a laugh"
The best not to go with Kes... While it's a good film you want to tap into that sense of humour of hers. The best dates I've ever had are with women who've made me laugh (hello chickenlady!).

What kind of level has the humour settled at so far?

Edit - Dogma rocks!
(Bicycle Repairman "you're also a bit of a wanker", Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:29, Reply)

See, you dont want the film to be too interesting
or you'll never get round to the sweet, nasty business of lurve.

Kes is a good suggestion as she might enjoy it but will not likely make it to the end as she will be drawn by your raw animal magnetism (hopefully) over the misery, cruelty and poverty of 1960's Sheffield.

Little Miss Sunshine, she wont be able to take her eyes off (unless she has no feelings) and it could go one of two ways:

1 - she falls asleep in a wishy-washy celluloid bliss after the film

2 - she thinks you're awesome and sensitive and fertile and sexy and stuff - hard to call, dude!

I would suggest...

...you get her talking about films in your email exchange and figure it out from there...

as in, last film you saw that you loved/hated, favourite film of all time, least favourite of all time etc...


rafter
baz
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:30, Reply)

Laughter is the best aphrodisiac.
How about something silly like Sleeper with Woody Allen.
( girlinthehole, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:33, Reply)

Also,
I can vouch for the success of this film:
www.imdb.com/title/tt0203940/
It's so shit-awful that anything, especially having sex, is better than it.

Oh, another recommendation is "In Bruges".
( Cawl, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:37, Reply)

I have tried
Finding out what films she likes/hates and ranks amongst her favourites.

Unfortunately, this conversation took place after she invited me over, so the only reply I get (now) when asking about film is 'Well, if I tell you that, you'll get my favourite and I'll be distracted because I'll have seen it before..... who know what I'd do to keep myself amused then?'

Hot Fuzz was gazzed to me as a suggestion - that might be a go-er, although there is no romance in it.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:39, Reply)

In Bruges is gas, yeah
If two charming Irish bastards doesnt do it for her, she's not worth the effort.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:39, Reply)

In Bruges
Is currently in the lead.

Brilliant suggestion.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:40, Reply)

Dude, she's being difficult already...
just chuck titles at her and watch her face so.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:41, Reply)

Sin city
Easy!
(Dangerous Disco Trev Isn't my real name, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:41, Reply)

What can I say...
I'm awesome.

But not as awesome as In Bruges.
Midgets.
Black-as-night humour.
Guns.
( Cawl, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:41, Reply)

^This
I can't wait to see it. It's on my Lovefilm list.
( girlinthehole, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:45, Reply)

Stardust
it's funny, it has De Niro as a gay pirate, sexy Claire Danes, romantic story

everything you could hope for.

also, based on book by Neil Gaiman, so has credibility.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:46, Reply)

If you want to show your sensitive side

...but avoid the Kes 'grim up-north-ness', try 'Shadowlands' - the late life love story between C.S. Lewis (he of Lion, witch & wardrobe fame) and Joy Gresham. Tears a-plenty, nice scenery, Anthony Hopkins and Debra Winger, the lot. There's even 'Harry' from Spooks as a doctor.

Can't miss. Not a bundle of laughs though.

Or, how about the Scottish 'Mickey Blue Eyes', otherwise known as 'American Cousins' - US mafiosi crash with their Scottish, fish shop owning cousins. Romance, guns, laughter, Scouse hit-men - it's got the lot.
(Che Grimsdale Best before:, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:47, Reply)

Almost famous

( fuck shit up the best you never had, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:49, Reply)

great film
and if the lady in question doesn't like it then she's not the one.

Similarly:
Withnail & I
Dazed and Consfused
Starship Troopers
Highlander
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:55, Reply)

Starship Troopers FTFW!
Anyone who doesn't get that the film is the greatest piece of war satire ever made doesn't deserve to be in a relationship.
(Bazongaloid, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:56, Reply)

Hostel parts one and two
but edit all the boring talking and attempt at plot lines and political subversiveness and just loop the part when the guy gets his legs drilled, the bit when the guy gets his fingers cut off with a chainsaw, the bit when he has to cut the girls optic nerve, the bit when the naked women has a wank while draining the upside down birds blood all over her and the bit when the guy accidentally sticks the circular saw in the birds head.

And also, MAN THE FUCK UP, if you can't make a decision about what film to take without asking the internet, this relationship is probably doomed form the start. What's going to happen when you actually get naked? "Hang on love, I need to consult some strangers as to the best position to adopt while thrusting my penis into your steaming vag"

*shakes head and puts on some mastodon*
(Bazongaloid, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:50, Reply)

Well someone got up the wrong side of the bed this morning.
And why do I always read steaming vag as steaming veg.

*is hungry*
( girlinthehole, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:59, Reply)

51st State
Love it.
(Bicycle Repairman "you're also a bit of a wanker", Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:51, Reply)

Young Frankenstein
A classic. Something for everyone.
(porkylips looks better as the sun goes down., Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:52, Reply)

Eraserhead
Is so0o0o00o Romantic!

Failing that I would go for Pans Labyrinth to show your arty, slightly edgy but ultimately soft side!
( whenanimalsattackhumans clad in global hypercolour, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:55, Reply)

Mullered mate
Pan's Labyrinth

Awesome story.

Soppy end.

Bit of gore so she can grab you for support.

Artsy.

Subtitles so you look like a brain.
(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 14:58, Reply)

Errrrrrr
@set Your Face to Stunned.....

AI JUS SED THA!!!!!
( whenanimalsattackhumans clad in global hypercolour, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:03, Reply)

There's an Aussie movie called The Castle
which has funny and heartwarming in spades plus you get to show off your knowledge of world cinema etc.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:04, Reply)

If Hot Fuzz
is in the running but losing out because of lack of romance you could try other Simon Pegg films. GOD I love that man!

Run Fat Boy Run, is just excellent, funny AND has romance. Perfect!
(darras jeg har en grevling i hodet. Grevling, grevlang, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:07, Reply)

or anything with Will Ferrell in it or Borat/Ali G
funny is good but evey passing minute of film watching means you're not gittin' it ohnnnn!
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:12, Reply)

...
The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford is excellent - but long.
Inside Man? Before the Devil Knows You're Dead?

Lars and the Real Girl is excellent.

There's also a little-known film called The Fall which teeters on the boundary between genius and drivel - it's a bit like a grown-up Never Ending Story. It's a bit soppy story-wise, but visually it's absolutely breathtaking. Chick flick with at least some brain...
( Enzyme is powered by sunlight, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:13, Reply)

The Assassination...etc.
it is an excellent film.

I can't think of another film that does so much with such long periods of silence.

It took me until after it had finished to decide whether I liked it or not. My conclusion was a resounding yes.
( Vipros. clever got me this far, then tricky got me in, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:26, Reply)

In Bruges...
Cracking film, but one slight issue.

I know a lot of girls who don't approve of the word 'cunt'.

It's said a lot in the film.

Just a thought for you!
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:18, Reply)

The word "Cunt" said in an Irish accent
is a clarion call for lust.

Not that I'm biased or anything.
(bazmorningstar efil4nat3b, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:21, Reply)

@AA
Everyone knows the Irish swear a lot. It's a given and is accepted by everyone.
( girlinthehole, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:21, Reply)

Sorry @DW
That what I get for working whilst typing a reply.

Bastard employers.
(Set your faces to Stunned Bigly, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:27, Reply)

Hehe
Great minds / Fools Seldom Differ
( whenanimalsattackhumans clad in global hypercolour, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:29, Reply)

@BGB
True!

I'm curious, do you actually like the film, or do you just stare at Colin Farrell for an hour and a half?
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:29, Reply)

@AA
I haven't seen it yet but staring at Colin while he's calling everyone a cunt for an hour and a half is a nice way to spend some time.
( girlinthehole, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:32, Reply)

@Vipros
add Time Bandits to your Highlander etc list please.

Thank you
( Monty Boyce, My cheese game is strong, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:35, Reply)

@BGB
Do Itttt!
( Agnostic Antichrist Baltimora, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 15:44, Reply)

Decided
In Bruges
Black Sheep
Shoot 'em up
Quadrophenia

I reckon that'll be enough.

Its a bit light on romance, but apparently ladies like laughter. To be honest, I don't mind if I don't get any action - it'll be nice to have a night out with someone whose company I think I'll enjoy.
( JeffTheDogFucker Can you dig it?, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 16:01, Reply)

Garden State
www.imdb.com/title/tt0333766/

Zach Braff
Natalie Portman
( enoughblueskyforsailorstrousers, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 16:28, Reply)

Amelie
win
(happylittletulip helpless and delicious, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 17:38, Reply)

Commando
worked for me a couple of weeks ago and I'm still getting hot thinking about what we did with the popcorn.
( crackhouseceilidhband Fuck off back to Mumsnet, Wed 25 Mar 2009, 19:02, Reply)