Any demand for a Friday evening thread?
I expect not, but don't knock me for trying.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:24, 98 replies, latest was 15 years ago)

There should be
I suppose everyone's off being cool and stuff.

Let's do some really cool drugs and talk about everyone.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:28, Reply)

I am uncool
I'll be around for a bit, unless I go elsewhere or find something to do

I had a lemsip the other day
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:42, Reply)

i'm waiting for my manicure to dry before i go out.....
.... vapid? moi?
( rachelswipe with a fork, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:30, Reply)

That's hardly vapid, I'd say it's borderline practical. What's the point in getting a manicure if you're going to fuck it up?

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:49, Reply)

the times I've painted my nails
I always get distracted by something before they dry and screw them up.
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:55, Reply)

I've just gotten back into painting my nails.
I used to paint them every day when I was in school, to the point where my dad would threaten to take away my polish as punishment.
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:57, Reply)

You must be some kind of expert
I just end up colouring in most of my finger and then using remover to make it look less bad
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:00, Reply)

I haven't done it in so long I'm the same.
I've been trying to make awesome designs but it looks more like a spastic was given water colors
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:03, Reply)

what designs?
you could go for something really offensive, or geeky, like a 'like' button or a '+1'
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:04, Reply)

+1?
I might try a cdc next time on my big toe, I have a hot pink color
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:06, Reply)

+1 as in google+
cdc would be cool! I remember me and my friend painted my ex's toe nails while he was distracted. We made them all sorts of animal print designs (kind of). At larp events he usually went barefoot, but this one he wore shoes, until someone tipped off his mates who pinned him down, took his shoes off and ripped the piss
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:10, Reply)

I'm so obscure I've don't even own an google+
hahaha my Mom and I painted my dad's toes when I was like 3, he got into a motorcycle accident and refused medical treatment because they were going to take his boots off [back in '86], so he went home and had my mom take the polish off and then take him to the hospital
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:14, Reply)

Not even sure why I suggested it to be honest.
There's weather up there and I'm under it.

Carry on.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:39, Reply)

Actually I do know why I suggested it
Displacement therapy.

My dad is dying. Physically and emotionally he is a long way from me - in either sense I can't reach out to him. I don't know if I want to. I'm not sure that we ever had a normal father-son relationship.

I really don't know what to do, or think, or feel. Your dad only dies once and there's nothing to prepare you for this. I wondered what would happen if I was left alone with my thoughts and wine and this is the result.

I'm saying he's dying - he's been perkier today apparently. I'm 110 miles from him and I can't gauge the little changes. If I was there all the time maybe I could. Maybe he'll do some sort of fucking Lazarus thing and leap off his bed and twat me on the head for being so fucking maudlin.

(He won't. That's not his style. He's an organiser. Not emotional. I've inherited that.)

So - what do you do? What do you think? It'd be really easy if there was a sort of laid down scale of emotions - I think what I'm trying to say here is that I don't know what to think now. I'm setting up my own business and I've felt flashes of resentment that he's getting in the way of it by demanding my time to sort out shit like funeral arrangements.

I've got to leave a lot of this in my brother's hands and he's recovering from cancer. I don't feel bad about this - he's taken a lot of my parents money over the years and he'll do OK.

My dad is dying from complications arising from a condition called Genetic Haemochromotosis - I also have it but I know now and can get it treated.

This is what it is:-

ghr.nlm.nih.gov/condition/hemochromatosis

Sorry - I had to do this.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:19, Reply)

It's not that your father only dies once, it's once he's gone there's nothing you can do to change the past.
If you can't be by his side, you can call if you're comfortable.
Maybe take the time to write out what you think and how you feel, even if you don't tell him, it'll make you feel better by getting it out.
I'm sorry you have to go through this darling
x
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:28, Reply)

this
also, don't feel like you have to do anything in particular.
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:31, Reply)

yeah, just thinking that when someone dies suddenly you don't get the chance to say all the things you wanted to say
and since he knows his father will pass he has the opportunity to try to make things better, if he wants to do it
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:40, Reply)

my advice, which you didn't ask for
Is to say good by and make what peace you can. You can also have my sympathy, which you didn't ask for either.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:36, Reply)

you're just going to give it to him? just like that?

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:39, Reply)

Yup
I'm magnanamous like that.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:45, Reply)

There is no rancour
This isn't a fractured relationship we're talking about, but there wasn't - isn't - much emotion.

What I'd like to do is tell him that it's OK to let go. My mum will manage. In fact she'll manage very well.

I'm totally lost and I'm a control freak. I'm scared that I'm more upset for myself than my dad. Maybe I should be.

I'm laying heavy shit on b3ta tonight and I'm sorry.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:46, Reply)

more sense being sad for yourself
He'll be dead and not have any problems, you'll still be here, worry about you. I doubt you'll be begrudged laying heavy shit I think, we're a community innit?
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:52, Reply)

Don't apologize.

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:55, Reply)

Probably the worst thing
Is that he's in hospital in Barrow - the town that brought the world Legionnaires Disease long after it was presumed to be eradicated!

Going over tomorrow again, on the train. I might sleep a bit then.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 21:04, Reply)

That largely sucks donkey testicles.
mr b3th is on the shit end of a dose of cancer, but it's not something i'm having to face on a daily basis yet. He keeps telling me it'll be two years, but he's been saying that for the last ten years, so knowing how awkward he is, he'll probably get hi stelegram from teh queen.

No-one can tell you what you should do or feel. It's completely unique to you, and whatever you do will be appropriate in the circumstances. Being as we are completely shit as a species, you will end up feeling like you might have done something differently at some stage, but you can't let doubt or indecision or regret take over your life. Only you know what you want to do and whether you can or even should do that.

All I can offer you is that the certain type of 'non-demonstrative organiser' (which is a category mr b3th falls into) would be more touched and impressed by you getting on and making something of your business plans, rather than spending countless hours staring at him with pity and sadness. But then again, he's your father, and you know better than any of us do.

In teh meantime, feel free to come and rant at us whenever you like. And if you want to direct any specific angry wailings at anyone, my gazbox is always open. As teh actress said to teh bishop.

tl;dr - send me a cock gaz, I'll show you my tits.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:39, Reply)

This with knobs on.
X
( girlinthehole, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:51, Reply)

My tits do not have knobs on
Although, on a cold day, you can hang your coat off them.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:53, Reply)

Me too ; )

( girlinthehole, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:56, Reply)

Sorry ladies
But I'm too knackered for the prospect of jugs to appeal.

And if you want a cock-gaz you'll need to ask Jodrell Bank to help as my willy is so immense it has it's own planetary system.
( The Disappointed Caravanner of the year, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 21:07, Reply)

alright The Disappointed
Which TV and radio voiceover artist am I impersonating here?

"It's Time! For You! To Get in the Cannon!"
( The Mock TurtIe ™ --- Thinks you are a cunt, on, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:42, Reply)

I 'm at my folks in Nottingham
But I have The Geek Phone and they have wifi, so I could pop in when not being a good (step)son ans onece they are in bed. I miss you guys, so I guess this makes me uncool.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:57, Reply)

what's the geek phone?

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 19:58, Reply)

It's a phone moulded to look like Screech from Saved By The Bell.

( The Mock TurtIe ™ --- Thinks you are a cunt, on, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:00, Reply)

Rory would like that. He probably has 12.

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:01, Reply)

it's a phone which
only calls geeks for emergencies which require geeks
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:02, Reply)

It's an HTC Desire Z
It has a hardware qwerty keyboard and handles most web pages as well as a laptop. Itms the first phone I'v ehad where I can realitically leave the laptop at home and not feel like have my senses were cut off.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:38, Reply)

i got a netbook today
and set up my wireless connection. If I so chose I could type to you people from my bed. We live in the future
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:02, Reply)

I Win
I'm posting from a patio over looking Nottingham. Welcome to the future.

ETA: which netbook?
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:39, Reply)

Well
I'M posting from a comfy recliner armchair, from where I can see my computer (natch), the telly, the dog, and my overgrown garden.

So there.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:41, Reply)

Say hello to Darth for us!

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:44, Reply)

wait, that's not right is it?

( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:44, Reply)

No, he comes from there
but doesn't live there.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:45, Reply)

Asus eepc
not that I've been posting from it. I'm still sat in front of my computer in the same old place. Perhaps I will go to the gower tomorrow specially, like. Only there will be no wifi, so I suppose I won't
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 21:34, Reply)

I have one of those
Although probably an older one (900 I think) nice little machines. A 3 mobile internet stick is good for places with no wifi.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:20, Reply)

we certainly are.
When I got up this morning, this moment we're living in now was definitely in teh future.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:40, Reply)

only in a very specific way we understand time

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 21:36, Reply)

It has come to my attention
that I have severe gonzism when it comes to the word 'the'. i don't know why. I didn't even start out doing it to be cute. My brain just doesn't want to type those latters in that particular order.
I take this as further proof of my total flidism.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:44, Reply)

latters
lol
( Lisette von Falcon, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:46, Reply)

Yeah
I also have a problem with 'a' and 'e'. always get them mixed up.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:47, Reply)

I have had a lovely vegetable curry and have packed for my trip Oooop north.

( girlinthehole, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:53, Reply)

Our accountant came to see us tonight
I'm getting £330 tax back cos I overpaid. Woo, and indeed, hoo.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:56, Reply)

Spoil yourself!
I insist.
( girlinthehole, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 20:57, Reply)

I'm torn
There is something frivolous and useless i've had my eye on, but I have my Americans coming over next month, and I'll need extra money to show them around...
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 21:02, Reply)

COME BACK EVERYONE!!!!!

( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:03, Reply)

I'm still 'ere!

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:05, Reply)

It went all quiet....
I was scared and alone.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:10, Reply)

it's OK
there's always people around, but sometimes they don't say stuff, they lurk inthe shadows, just watching, watching watching
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:10, Reply)

I don't like it when it goes quiet.

( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:19, Reply)

BOO!
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:21, Reply)

eek

( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:30, Reply)

looks like there really is no one else here

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:35, Reply)

well, fuck 'em

( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:47, Reply)

i can't, they aren't here

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:48, Reply)

You know
I'm very much looking forward to meeting you one day.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:52, Reply)

...and they say chompy's the rapey one

(Quinton had to abandon other account as i broke it, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:56, Reply)

hey truth fairy
are you always around hovering on sparkly wings to swoop in at any moment?
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:58, Reply)

My wings are at the dry cleaners

(Quinton had to abandon other account as i broke it, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:19, Reply)

Given that I'm imagining this place as empty and echoing
at the moment, that briefly sounded creepy. But, yeah - I may come to the pier with you guys, it'll be fun!
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 22:58, Reply)

I, also might come to the pier
If all involved are willing, but won't know till nearer the time if I'mll be free.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:24, Reply)

It should be a great day
and the council run car parks are free too, since it's a Sunday.
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:27, Reply)

I thought it was the thursday befor Monty's Bash
Or have I got confused?
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:29, Reply)

I thought it was a Friday
oh! the confusion!
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:30, Reply)

Oh, it's a Friday
so we're both wrong. But you're closer. why did I think it was on a Sunday?

/is a flid
( b3th Not shit. Not mod., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:31, Reply)

it's not often I'm right
I'd have to come down after work so it depends on my timetable then
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:32, Reply)

Yes, that's it.
The idea was to get a day or two of and tag along with BGB, but I probably wonMt know untill nearer the time for sure, but I think I can probably get the time off.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:34, Reply)

I made risotto
cooked for a friend who is off back to America :(
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:01, Reply)

oh well done - what kind?

( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:03, Reply)

Um peas and onions went in it
I didn't have white wine or garlic so I made it with red wine instead
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:05, Reply)

my ex used to make a
nice one with chorizo and paprika and stuff, that was really nice.
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:06, Reply)

that does sound good
I'm really going to miss my friend :(
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:09, Reply)

aww, are they moving back permanently
or is it an extended trip?
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:11, Reply)

Moving back permanently for the moment at least
who will I talk to about obscure Victorian authors now? :(
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:18, Reply)

:(
Is it going back after uni? That's the worst thing when you finish college and everyone flocks back to where they came from :(
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:20, Reply)

Exchange student
oh well. There's always skype/fb chat
( Amberl was stripey and dominated Europe, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:21, Reply)

yeah
it's just never the same as 4am with a cup of tea and meandering conversation while the world outside is quiet and sleeping
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:26, Reply)

I'm cooking a risotto tomorrow
It's still based on the cheapy student recipe I used back in the day but it's still bloody lovely. It's a great 'anything goes' type of dish. I tend to make it very mushroomy.
( Bill Clay a.k.a. Claudio, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:27, Reply)

Hello Bill Clay.
I hear you are going to the Sisters gig in Camden. If you fancy meeting some oddballs off the internet, let me know.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:29, Reply)

That would be really cool
I've roped my eldest son into it for some company (he likes the heavier stuff but I think he'd appreciate Sisters). Floodland was one of the first albums I ever bought and had on rotation throughout my youth, I never thought I'd ever get to see them live so I can't wait.
( Bill Clay a.k.a. Claudio, Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:38, Reply)

They were fucking brilliant in Leeds earlier this year.
I'm hoping for a repeat performance. We'll sort something out closer to the time. I'm going with clendrix, so pre-gig drinks could be a way forward.

Also if your son likes heavier stuff then I think he'd like the current incarnation. Very heavy and industrial.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:58, Reply)

After Vision Thing I kinda lost touch with them
Is there any way of hearing their current stuff?
( Bill Clay a.k.a. Claudio, Sat 6 Aug 2011, 0:02, Reply)

Not really.
They only do new stuff live, and on this tour you'll not hear much of that since it's an anniversary thing. Eldritch hasn't had a recording contract for years as he doesn't get on with record label execs.
( Davros' Granddad a voice of calm reason in a world of spastics., Sat 6 Aug 2011, 0:51, Reply)

Tits!
Nighty night all.
( CQ Knows the truth, all of it., Fri 5 Aug 2011, 23:55, Reply)

woo!
posting LIVE from my bed!

anyway, time to not be doing that and having a nice read

night all!
( Citizen Cavy Admires your passion for conformity, Sat 6 Aug 2011, 0:06, Reply)

you bunch of fucking quenders.

(dozers, do fuck off ur a nob m8, Sat 6 Aug 2011, 0:47, Reply)

You smug cunt.
/ac
( Noeli overtheshoulderboulderholderthingstraplatchboobs, Sat 6 Aug 2011, 1:03, Reply)

why am I smug?
You arch-quender.
(dozers, do fuck off ur a nob m8, Sat 6 Aug 2011, 1:10, Reply)