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( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 14:46, 189 replies, latest was 12 years ago)

(I'm still smarting a bit from previous threads)
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 14:56, Reply)

I am a lil bit. Don't want to come across like a thick racist.
Suppose I can;t compete against a prescription drug mentality though.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:06, Reply)

and shes pretty hot so I'll go for that
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 14:57, Reply)

and she's still less of a prick than you
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 14:58, Reply)

But at least I don't cling to the fact That I have an allegedly hot partner as if is gives my life some meaning.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 14:59, Reply)

and you have no taste in women.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:09, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:10, Reply)

does that mean she makes him happy? or makes him laugh? or makes him pleased to be spending time with her, or coming home to her at night? does it make him trust her? does it mean she is clever? does it make her honest, kind or generous?
maybe she does, maybe she doesn't. but these things are important. looks are irrelevant.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:18, Reply)

surely a magic mirror would do the opposite. what would be the point of a magic mirror that didn't perform magic?
you are not remotely qualified to read stories to your kid.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:28, Reply)

Despite me mentioning the book throwing etc online the answers are Yes she does make me happy, and laugh and I enjoy spending time with her and my children and I love them all dearly. She is clever and I trust her, she is honest kind and for the most part generous.
However if she was pig ugly I probably would never have noticed her in the first place. Sexual attraction isn't everything but it certainly isn't irrelevant.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:24, Reply)

pig ugly is an extreme. if someone is within normal parameters, it should be all about what they are like as a person.
in fact, the better looking someone is, the worse a person they are, usually. if you want shallow and arrogant, go for looks.
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( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:29, Reply)

of my most serious relationships, 2 have been hot, 3 average at best, and 1 downright fugly. it's all about humour and intelligence for me. if they don't make me laugh, it doesn't matter what they look like!
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:31, Reply)

but did it make him happy? he spent the entire time whining about how fat he was (he had a 28 inch waist) and how he couldn't work out properly because he had injuries. being obsessed with what can only ever be a diminishing return, whether in yourself or other people, will never make you happy.
that's not to say you shouldn't do your best to look nice and be fit, of course, but it should be a goal not a raison d'etre.
here endeth the first lesson of the book of swipe.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:36, Reply)

You sound well suited.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:48, Reply)

Not 'fucking hot'.
He's from a 'fucking hot' country, that's the the only way I can use that phrase in connection with him.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:53, Reply)

You said looks are irrelevant. You're either lying or naive.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:41, Reply)

but if someone is normal looking, ie healthy and pleasant, then you shouldn't say, "oooh, i couldn't be with him/her because they're not hot enough for me." similarly if someone is a total cunt but they are gorgeous, that doesn't mean that it's a good idea to overlook their personality defects. fine if there are other good reasons, of course. but not just on looks. that's gross.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:48, Reply)

most people grow out of "must be hot" by about 25.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:32, Reply)

That said I do think physical attraction matters, but as you said, 'pretty' people are so often lacking in anything else. I'll take average looking but good in bed and good conversation any day.
ahem, sorry this is dangerously like a civil conversation, erm...
ALL LAWYERS ARE OVERPAID SCUM AND YOUR FAT AND GINGER!!!!111!
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:41, Reply)

so for online dating or a pub hook-up, it's key, and for a lot of people it won't move beyond the first impression for something so transient. but if it's someone you know through work, or as a friend, or through friends at a party, or your sister in some people's cases, your perception does change. i have so many friends who are blissfully happily married to someone who is the exact opposite of what they think is hot - yet now they'd tell you that person is the hottest person on the planet, and they mean it.
we all know you love a bit of curvaceous ginge.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:44, Reply)

Aad I suppose this means I should stop picking on PJ as he's clearly in love with his wife, a deplorable state of affairs, but forgiveable none the less.
not so much of the ginge....
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:46, Reply)

but if he were saying, she's dreadful and she cheated on me, but i forgive her because she's just sooooo hot, THEN he'd be a dick.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:49, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:52, Reply)

But my least favourite would have to be the Americans.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 14:57, Reply)

So I'd assumed American would be too.. of course I could be wrong, I divorced my HOT WIFE 5 years back so I am but a pale shadow of your good self.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:01, Reply)

but point for not getting shouty about it.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:11, Reply)

every time I am nasty to someone is not due to my misplacing my lithium.
Some times I just get bored of pretending that unpleasant dullards are are not, in fact, unpleasant dullards. Usually I let it slide, but some days I decide to try being truthful and see how that goes.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:15, Reply)

So far you have called me needy, a dullard, and claimed my life has no meaning. You have also called Battereds Ex ugly. My crime being that I find my wife attractive.
I however have only called you a prick and thats because you are being one.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:18, Reply)

Ask any one.
Also I accused you of clinging to the fact that you had an allegedly hot partner as if is gives my life some meaning.
Which is basically the same thing.
'Unpleasant dullards' was a reference to Jay and Hartley, not you.
But, yes, maybe I shouldn't have insulted Battred's ex, that was uncalled for (sorry Batts).
My main point was that beauty is in the eye of the beholder (I wouldn't touch yours with a barge pole, but that maybe because I know what she's like) and that banging on about your HOT MISUSS every other post does not make you likeable. it make you look like you need some kind of validation.
It would be healthy to feel proud of yourself for who you are, not just because you have convinced some 'hot' but also 'bossy, violent and annoying' woman to marry you.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:26, Reply)

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( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:49, Reply)

I know fuck all except that they split and he's not happy about it. being as I don't know her and I rather like him, I'm inclined to take his side.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:33, Reply)

but sometimes you don't half hide it well.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:29, Reply)

Maybe I should employ you to tell me when I'm getting out of line.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:34, Reply)

All you know is the exaggerated inaccurate version I give on here mostly for effect. How about ignoring me if you find my posts not to your tastes? Or just not saying anything? Roll your eyes at my post and go on with you awesome healthy life and leave me to mine.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:32, Reply)

Yeah, that's totally how we do things here, no one ever gets mocked for revealing stuff about their personal lives.
*gobbles lithium and rides off on steam powered penny farthing*
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:37, Reply)

"When, however, I know there is a grain of truth to it, even if it's exaggerated and blown out of all proportion, it rankles and I have a hard time letting it go." - see below.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:39, Reply)

I'd say it's illustrated by that fact that I'm not overly happy about the Lithium gags because I have some genuine history in this regard (although I think I have the sense not to get obviously would up about it) but the steam-punk gags are more of less water off a duck's back.
unless I got the wrong end of the stick..
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:50, Reply)

but my real point is that you were criticising PJ for revealing anything about himself which could attract piss-taking, when you've done much the same and then taken the hump about it.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:56, Reply)

In my defence I'd say I'm criticising him for getting the hump when I quoted his own words back at him. Although before that I was criticising him for banging on about his HOT WIFE.
as for my getting the hump about stuff I've revealed, have I? you could well be right, my memory is shit, but AFAICR most of my life I don't reveal on here (as I know the shit would get ripped, this being what happens here).
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:01, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:05, Reply)

usually the better aimed stuff and like fuck will I point out what that is. Although I will say that is annoys me that because I may have been a bit *swiverly finger motion* in the past people people tend to write me off as a nutter whenever I have a go at someone. but, hey, whatcha gonna do
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:09, Reply)

and when you suddenly act out of character - like today - then people will take what little they know about you and (perhaps unjustly) leap to the conclusion that you're having a funny turn.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:19, Reply)

I forget that some people are relative newbies. I used to talk a lot more but most of the people I liked talking to left. these days I only tend to come here when I'm bored, which probably adds to that impression.
ETA: I think I did always rant though. it's just that now most of the pleasant conversations that used to happen in between don't happen as I'm either not here or not talking.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:24, Reply)

and you get annoyed when people mock you for being an erratic mentally ill person, so you come on b3ta and act like an erratic mentally ill person by attacking people at random for no apparent reason and then try and take the moral highground?
Am I ready this right?
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:59, Reply)

So, you have a history of erratic behaviour due to mental illness
and you get annoyed when people mock you for being an erratic mentally ill person,
would be closer IMHO
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:04, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:07, Reply)

and just as no one takes me seriously due to my mental history, I'm not going to take you seriously due to your history of saying any old thing, just to wind people up.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:10, Reply)

but it is completely misguided.
Do you think your attacking rants on other people's intelligence/unpleasantness/dullard-ness (I love this one) comes across as any less dull?
It doesn't.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:21, Reply)

that when someone insults me and there is no basis for it what so ever, I find it easy to shrug off.
When, however, I know there is a grain of truth to it, even if it's exaggerated and blown out of all proportion, it rankles and I have a hard time letting it go.
Just a thought.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:32, Reply)

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( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:34, Reply)

but I think this is your intent, so I will bid you good day.
You seem oblivious to the fact that you have declared war on a number of members of this board. Harters and I (see, I do learn) are pretty non aggressive. Not sure if this has been your target for the day.
Anyway, it's the internet, I got bothered when I shouldn't have, so well done you.
I think of myself as a decent citizen with good morals and a friendly manner. THIS is why I am defensive.
That's my last word on the subject. Im sure people have seen the real you today and that is what matters.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:40, Reply)

I usually keep my mouth shut about such things but some days I loose all patience and speak my mind. don't kid your self you were a random target or that I'm just 'off my lithium today', I prefer an intelligent Nazi who has at least thought about why he hold the opinions he does to any number of thick Daily Mail readers.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:57, Reply)

just booked to see "the conjuring" tomorrow afternoon. woo. i like a good horror movie, me.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:00, Reply)

THere are quite a few films like that that jsut look a bit formulaic to me.
I do love a good horror film, but I'm not a fan of those paranormal activity ones.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:18, Reply)

i'm not saying it was the best movie ever or particularly novel/clever - but it gave me and my friend a really spooky, fun evening.
i agree, i think the paranormal ones are great and truly terrifying - but ONLY until you see the demon/ghost/whatever. then they usually degenerate into farce. have you seen "the strangers"? that's more of a slasher one, but it's really really creepy. i got a tension headache with fright watching that one.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:25, Reply)

is that once you've seen one, you've seen them all. And I watched Eden Lake and then didn't want to see any of the others.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:29, Reply)

The whole cinema was tensed up. You could feel it. The first three bangs on the door shit everyone up!
Love the Paranormal films. The 4th one lacked a bit and relied on silly jumps. Hopefully the story will progress/conclude with the 5th
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:45, Reply)

I too love a good horror. I think Insidious got a bit silly towards the end but that Tiny Tim scene or whatever it called itself was well creepy.
Sinister is a lot more tense. Give it a go!
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:44, Reply)

that was the bit that shat the crap out of me. it was horrible.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:01, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:02, Reply)

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2382494/Aevin-Dugas-Woman-world-s-biggest-natural-afro.html?ITO=1490&ns_mchannel=rss&ns_campaign=1490
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:00, Reply)

which would be a clear advantage in the field of competitive afro growing.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:25, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:27, Reply)

give a misguided sense of scale.
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( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:04, Reply)

tied up in 30m of Ethernet cable.
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( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:31, Reply)

Have to see how the weather holds out for the weekend.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:24, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:32, Reply)

I love how the BBC are quie happy to hire a wife beater, but get all upset if one of their TV presenters does some drugs in his spare time.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:35, Reply)

( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:01, Reply)

Is Mrs Phillie a nerd too?
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:25, Reply)

Quite the opposite, she is such a non nerd that when I suggested the names she had never even heard of the film Akira and hadn't really seen Star Wars in recent years to put two and two together. She realises now but its too late.
Oh sorry what I meant to say was, she's never seen He-man or Transformers obviously.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:28, Reply)

I don't hate them or anything, and they can live where they want and talk their own language and all that, I don't mind at all, but I'd rather just not have anything to do with them socially or professionaly,and it's not a colour thing, plenty of people with different skin tones are nice and English in attitude and so on, So I guess it's a culture thing. Still, no big deal, I'll just stay out of their way.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:23, Reply)

I don't hate them or anything, and they can live where they want and talk their own language and all that, I don't mind at all, but I'd rather just not have anything to do with them socially or professionaly,and it's not a colour thing, plenty of people with different skin tones are nice and English in attitude and so on, So I guess it's a culture thing. Still, no big deal, I'll just stay out of their way.
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( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 16:02, Reply)

Actually, I rather like Newcastle as a city despite not actually being from here or living here.
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:37, Reply)

I like London as an idea, but whenever I am down there lets be honest the place is a fucking stinking shit hole
( , Fri 2 Aug 2013, 15:53, Reply)
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